My new boyfriend is constantly commenting on the flaws of my body. I'm 26 and take good care of my skin but I have stretchmarks on my breasts, hips, and thighs from puberty. I'm not overweight - 5'1, 110lbs, big breasts. I'm self-conscious about them and my looks. I'm not the prettiest ( look like Avril Lavigne). Anyway, he always talks about one ex he dated that had " flawless" skin and how he doesn't find stretchmarks appealing. I get they aren't but there isn't much I can't do about them. I don't make fun of him that he is 29 with a dad bod. I've told him it hurts my feelings and then he says it's a joke and I need to lighten up. I am starting to lose interest ang want to break up but I don't want to act like a drama queen. |
Ditch him now. You know you need to; that's why you are asking. If he's saying this kind of thing early on (when people are usually trying to impress each other and be on best behavior) it will only get worse. Sounds like a douche. |
You know what you need to do, OP. You being a drama queen is not the problem. |
You're not a drama queen. Dump him. You don't need that shit. You can do better than him. |
WYF. I am not an Avril Lavigne fan but she is pretty:
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^ WTF |
Don't date someone who makes you feel bad about yourself. Time for a new boyfriend. |
This guy is a huge, cruel person.
To say such mean things especially in the beginning of your relationship is a pre-cursor for how things will be later on. Leave him before you sell your soul to the devil. ![]() |
+1 Exactly. Things are not going to get better from here. Sorry, OP. It sucks but you deserve better and you need to move on from this guy. |
Op here. I've suffered all my life with something called body dismorphia disorder. It's crippling and I constantly think I'm unattractive, fat, etc. |
She's not very attractive. |
Time to make him an EX bf |
Omg, it's the bf .. |
You love the negging |
![]() ![]() Right... Urban Dictionary: "Low-grade insults meant to undermine the self-confidence of a woman so she might be more vulnerable to your advances. This is something no decent guy would do. They say that the a-holes get the girls, but I can spot negging a mile away and I reject these f*cker straight off." |