KISSING YOUR CHILD ON THE LIPS

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[Post New]05/06/2009 14:08
zumbamama
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my 7 yr old tries to run away, although I steal one occassionally. But if I kissed my teenage stepdaughter on the lips, she would def. think it was weird.
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:12
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Within family, it could be fine. I would just be worried that DC would think it's ok all-around - and would do it to strangers or non-family and allow others to do it to him. I know, I may be paranoid, but you read and hear about all kinds of horrible things out there.



OMG, are you serious? You won't kiss because you are worried your child will think "it's okay all-around" and will plant smackaroos on strangers in the street? So what about hugs? Holding hands? Tickling? Do you avoid all those activities too in case your child starts grabbing strangers?

You can kiss on the lips or not, but this logic is seriously flawed. If you don't want them doing something with strangers, just teach them that.
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:14
Anonymous
It is just a kiss! We aren't talking about tongue here, right?!

If you think it is gross because of germs to kiss your own kids on the lips, I'm just at a loss for words.
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:15
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Within family, it could be fine. I would just be worried that DC would think it's ok all-around - and would do it to strangers or non-family and allow others to do it to him. I know, I may be paranoid, but you read and hear about all kinds of horrible things out there.



OMG, are you serious? You won't kiss because you are worried your child will think "it's okay all-around" and will plant smackaroos on strangers in the street? So what about hugs? Holding hands? Tickling? Do you avoid all those activities too in case your child starts grabbing strangers?

You can kiss on the lips or not, but this logic is seriously flawed. If you don't want them doing something with strangers, just teach them that.


I babysat for a family that kisses on the lips and when they were back home and started kissing each other the boy came to kiss me to say goodbye and got all upset because I didn't kiss him on the lips.
He also said MOM, DAD WHY DIDN'T YOU KISS xxx ON THE LIPS? SHE'LL BE SAD!

each child is different.
YOUR post doesn't make any sense.
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:16
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It is just a kiss! We aren't talking about tongue here, right?!

If you think it is gross because of germs to kiss your own kids on the lips, I'm just at a loss for words.


Hopefully your DH wont' bring herpes to the household.
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:17
Anonymous
this thread is ridiculous. OP, it does not seem that you are interested in knowing why other people do things differently from you. You seem more interested in judging others. And you're absolutely right, this site would not exist but for the pleasure people derive from anonymously bashing and judging others. Doesn't make it right or worthwhile. Plain and simple, people kiss their children (even on the lips) because they see no harm in it and see it as affectionate. You obviously disagree. So be it. What on earth did you really feel you were going to glean from this type of post? A real in-depth look at familial relationships to see if you wanted to make changes in your own? Absolutely not. You wanted to judge. And you wanted others to join in and therefore reinforce your way of thinking.
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:18
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Within family, it could be fine. I would just be worried that DC would think it's ok all-around - and would do it to strangers or non-family and allow others to do it to him. I know, I may be paranoid, but you read and hear about all kinds of horrible things out there.



OMG, are you serious? You won't kiss because you are worried your child will think "it's okay all-around" and will plant smackaroos on strangers in the street? So what about hugs? Holding hands? Tickling? Do you avoid all those activities too in case your child starts grabbing strangers?

You can kiss on the lips or not, but this logic is seriously flawed. If you don't want them doing something with strangers, just teach them that.


I babysat for a family that kisses on the lips and when they were back home and started kissing each other the boy came to kiss me to say goodbye and got all upset because I didn't kiss him on the lips.
He also said MOM, DAD WHY DIDN'T YOU KISS xxx ON THE LIPS? SHE'LL BE SAD!

each child is different.
YOUR post doesn't make any sense.


Never was kissed or kissed on the lips by other than a guy in a hetero way. I did do raspberry's on my own kids fat toddler/baby tummies.
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:21
zumbamama
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maybe it is just uncommon in OP's culture. In my culture, its a standard greeting to kiss on the cheek. Even if you don't actually make skin contact. But other people might think its gross simply because the idea is foreign to them.
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:25
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:this thread is ridiculous. OP, it does not seem that you are interested in knowing why other people do things differently from you. You seem more interested in judging others. And you're absolutely right, this site would not exist but for the pleasure people derive from anonymously bashing and judging others. Doesn't make it right or worthwhile. Plain and simple, people kiss their children (even on the lips) because they see no harm in it and see it as affectionate. You obviously disagree. So be it. What on earth did you really feel you were going to glean from this type of post? A real in-depth look at familial relationships to see if you wanted to make changes in your own? Absolutely not. You wanted to judge. And you wanted others to join in and therefore reinforce your way of thinking.


OP here.
Sorry but you missed the point.
Clearly you have no power to read minds.

If I wanted to be judgmental I'd start posting my reasons for my choices - by the way, I didn't even have an opinion about the subject.
I'm trying to analyze all sides of the issue and weigh what will be suitable for MY household.
I only know one side and I thought would be wiser to ask it here than asking in my mom's-to-be group.

I grew up where such behavior doesn't even exist and honestly I'm still trying to find out why people do it.
I just learned from a Japanese friend that their women cover their lips when smiling because they're not supposed to show emotion - I always wondered why she covers her lips when we talk happily.
Gestures have different meanings in different cultures and I'm curious about this particular demonstration of affection.
Where I grew up we don't shake hands. Once I decided to move to US and live my life here, build a family here I realized I had to give up my culture and live the way life is lived HERE. Result? I learned to shake hands.

Now, back to the subject:

If you can help THAN YOU.

If you can't, please, don't disturb.
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:25
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Within family, it could be fine. I would just be worried that DC would think it's ok all-around - and would do it to strangers or non-family and allow others to do it to him. I know, I may be paranoid, but you read and hear about all kinds of horrible things out there.



OMG, are you serious? You won't kiss because you are worried your child will think "it's okay all-around" and will plant smackaroos on strangers in the street? So what about hugs? Holding hands? Tickling? Do you avoid all those activities too in case your child starts grabbing strangers?

You can kiss on the lips or not, but this logic is seriously flawed. If you don't want them doing something with strangers, just teach them that.


You may be right, but you don't have to be nasty about it.
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:26
Anonymous
I think kissing little children on the lips is okey dokey. Keep it up, though, and suddenly this is your family (one of the lone funny SNL skits recently):

http://www.hulu.com/watch/44521/saturday-night-live-kissing-family

[Post New]05/06/2009 14:27
zumbamama
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as far as WHY people kiss their kids...it's just a show of love and affection...which is completely normal to many people, and not normal to others.
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:28
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Within family, it could be fine. I would just be worried that DC would think it's ok all-around - and would do it to strangers or non-family and allow others to do it to him. I know, I may be paranoid, but you read and hear about all kinds of horrible things out there.



OMG, are you serious? You won't kiss because you are worried your child will think "it's okay all-around" and will plant smackaroos on strangers in the street? So what about hugs? Holding hands? Tickling? Do you avoid all those activities too in case your child starts grabbing strangers?

You can kiss on the lips or not, but this logic is seriously flawed. If you don't want them doing something with strangers, just teach them that.


I babysat for a family that kisses on the lips and when they were back home and started kissing each other the boy came to kiss me to say goodbye and got all upset because I didn't kiss him on the lips.
He also said MOM, DAD WHY DIDN'T YOU KISS xxx ON THE LIPS? SHE'LL BE SAD!

each child is different.
YOUR post doesn't make any sense.


Okay, I'll bite. No, my post makes absolute sense. Re-read it.

Kids may be different and have crazy, cute and wrong ideas. That is why we teach them how to behave. So the parents in your scenario should say "we kiss family members on the lips because we are family and love each other. With friends, we can give them a handshake or a hug, etc." What is so hard about that? Explain social rules to your kids.

Again, there are tons of things you do with your family that you DON'T do with strangers. Are you going to avoid all activities in your home that you don't want your kids doing with strangers? Geez, what would be left?

Kiss or don't kiss, but that is just not a good reason to avoid it. SORRY
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:29
Anonymous
Oh PUKE.

The OP is a familiar and frequent inflammatory poster. She is often on the nanny boards and writes in stanzas. She is an official DCUM Troll. If you see stanzas and questionable english skills, it's her.
[Post New]05/06/2009 14:30
Anonymous
I'm just thankful that DC (4 months) has yet to spit up or drool big-time into my open mouth when I'm holding him above my head or going in for the smooch on the lips! As long as we avoid that, I'm thinking all is well and clean (enough).
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