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I get home after my work day, play a little with the kids, feed the kids, get them ready for bed, put something in my own mouth, and then just collapse. (DH gets home later than I do, bathes and plays with one child, and I'm just catatonic.)
No cooking, no exercise, no housekeeping, and no sex. My house is cluttered and not neat like I prefer, my belly is still lumpy 10 mos post-partum, and I have no desire to interact with my husband. Is this the norm? Where do WOHMs (and SAHMs for that matter) get their energy? |
Anonymous
I SAH and this is how I feel, you're my hero that you can do all that you do after working a full day!! Keep up the good work! It will get better. |
Anonymous
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Wish I could help. My DC is almost 2 and I feel the same. I force exercise. But everything else is the same.
You're not alone. |
Anonymous
| It is really dangerous to walk in my house. You might trip and fall on something. |
Anonymous
| OP here--thanks!! |
Anonymous
| No, you are not alone. I work 12 hours a day, and I always get home much, much later than DH. DD is often asleep by then. My house is in good shape only because of a weekly visit by our housekeeper, but the rest of your post applies 100 percent to me. |
Anonymous
| I'm in the same boat here....and if it wasn't for the cleaning lady coming every 2 weeks that forces me to tidy up, you'd trip on toys everywhere in our house too. |
Anonymous
| Same here! |
Anonymous
| I couldn't have said it better and I'm well beyond 10 mo. pp |
zumbamama
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I have been there! The first year of motherhood and a stressful job will do that to you. I managed to pull myself out of that and find myself again though.
Take a break and go do something fun. |
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| 1st year? Ha. Mine is 6. I work 30 hours less per week because I stopped working for my a**hole former boss and now work for myself. I get home, feed child, get her bathed, in bed, finish dinner for my husband and I and then I am done. Exercise? Sex? What are these foreign things? I am now trying to work in a trip to the gym during the work day, but since I have to pack like 8 changes of clothing and reapply all my make up to go back to the office, it is not going so well. |
zumbamama
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I'll admit, I have the energy to exercise and but not clean. My house is cluttered...but I figure life's too short to spend it cleaning all the time. I can clean it top to bottom, and somehow it will be a mess 5 minutes after I'm done. So, I try not to worry about it too much. I'd rather be doing something fun or getting some rest.
15:36, if you're just starting to get back into shape, have patience with yourself. Your body/energy levels will adjust when you make exercise a priority. What seems tough now will feel simpler a month from now. I find physical activities that engage your mind/spirit rather than just staring at the screen while you run for an hour, to be more motivating and appealing. What do you like to do for fun? What did you like doing when you were a kid? Horseback riding? Swimming? Go try a self-defense class - that is a great workout as well as empowering. I went camping last year at this place that had a big bounce pillow thing, like a trampoline. I didn't try it until the last day, and then I couldn't believe something so simple was so much fun and heart-pumping...I felt like a kid. Basically, if you are bored with life...go look for fun! It's out there! |
Anonymous
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No - you are not the only one! I think WM and SAHMs can relate to this one.
Can you start taking advantage of lunch hours? That is when I do a lot of exercising - I can usually fit in a yoga class or a strength training workout a couple times a week, which don't require showers, or a quick brisk walk. I'm convinced I'm more productive because of it. |
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OP--no such thing as a lunch hour in my line of work. Unfortunate, because it would be a lot easier than exercising after the kids are in bed or trying to get up at 5 am (this is completely untenable).
Thanks for the suggestion though! |
Anonymous
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I AM WITH YOU.
Exact same for me. House is somewhat presentable due to nanny and housekeeper, but totally disorganized beneath the presentable surface (messy closets, messy toy bins with everything just shoved in, drawers full of many clothes that we have grown out of -- not just the kids - me too!) So this brings me to the exercise -- I have made SOME progress, now that my youngest is 1. I force myself to do elliptical one night a week during my favorite TV show at 9. (we have a dusty old elliptical we got when I had my first kid, you know, because I was going to stay in shape! or so I thought....) Some weeks I barely break a sweat because I am so tired by then, but I feel beter making an effort. Then I force one night of step aerobics class from 8-9 after the kids are ready for bed -- DH comes home to put them to sleep and this is the one night he MUST be home so I can make it to this damn class. I would like to add a third day -- I'm thinking of getting up with the kids at 6:30 as usual, but asking DC to do breakfast, etc, so I can do 30 minutes elliptical before getting ready for work. He'll probably complain but I will make the "don't you want me to lose weight" argument. As for sex, that is very low on my priority list. Maybe I'll work on that after the exercise. 
And cooking, who cares. They make such healthy frozen options now -- veggie burgers, etc. I'm finally over feeling guilty about it. There's only so much I can handle. |