Anonymous wrote:Child has a right to be exposed to both cultures. To prevent him from sharing his would be equally bad as him preventing you from sharing yours. You sound selfish and picking the wrong battles.

Anonymous wrote:Child has a right to be exposed to both cultures. To prevent him from sharing his would be equally bad as him preventing you from sharing yours. You sound selfish and picking the wrong battles.

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Anonymous wrote:He certainly can't prevent your daughter from practicing your religion when she is with you, but the reverse is also true. You can't prevent your husband from having your daughter practice his religion when she is with him. The issue of conversion is religion dependent because the elements of conversion differ in different religions. I had parents of different religions. We practiced both religions but my parents didn't have me complete the formal joining ceremonies of either religion. They left it up to me to choose as an adult since a child can't really separate what his or her parent wants them to believe from what they believe themselves. As an adult, I did join one religion and both my parents are fine with it.

Maybe talk to you ex and see if you can have your daughter continue to participate your religion as well as his while formally joining neither. At 10, she hasn't had a confirmation or a bat mitzvah yet, so there is still time to let her explore both her parent's backgrounds before choosing.

He's not interested in a middle ground. One of the issues is prayer. She prays at bedtime and he wants her to use a prayer from his family religion or not pray at all. She was distressed over this since she has said the same prayer every night since she could speak.

Another issue is services. He doesn't want her to attend any services but those for his family religion. He doesn't even go regularly himself!

He told her that this is all my fault because I didn't convert when we married. I am an avid practitioner of my religion and he knew this when we married. We agreed I wouldn't convert and that any children would be raised in my religion as he doesn't really believe his family's religion.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He certainly can't prevent your daughter from practicing your religion when she is with you, but the reverse is also true. You can't prevent your husband from having your daughter practice his religion when she is with him. The issue of conversion is religion dependent because the elements of conversion differ in different religions. I had parents of different religions. We practiced both religions but my parents didn't have me complete the formal joining ceremonies of either religion. They left it up to me to choose as an adult since a child can't really separate what his or her parent wants them to believe from what they believe themselves. As an adult, I did join one religion and both my parents are fine with it.

Maybe talk to you ex and see if you can have your daughter continue to participate your religion as well as his while formally joining neither. At 10, she hasn't had a confirmation or a bat mitzvah yet, so there is still time to let her explore both her parent's backgrounds before choosing.

He's not interested in a middle ground. One of the issues is prayer. She prays at bedtime and he wants her to use a prayer from his family religion or not pray at all. She was distressed over this since she has said the same prayer every night since she could speak.

Another issue is services. He doesn't want her to attend any services but those for his family religion. He doesn't even go regularly himself!

He told her that this is all my fault because I didn't convert when we married. I am an avid practitioner of my religion and he knew this when we married. We agreed I wouldn't convert and that any children would be raised in my religion as he doesn't really believe his family's religion.

Curious: if you saw signs of religious differences early on, why did you marry him?