Becoming friends with the principal

Anonymous
My son started kindergarten this year and I really love our principal. We are new to the area so I don't know a ton of people. I have volunteered at the school and have gotten to know the principal pretty well. I actually like her more than anyone else I have met. I am very passionate about education and we seem to have a lot in common.

Would it be strange to ask the principal out for drinks or invite her over to dinner?
Anonymous
It wouldn't be strange. It's just not appropriate. I really enjoy spending time and working on projects with parents from my school. There are many interesting people, and I connect with them on many levels. But I have to keep a professional relationship because their child's needs always have to come first.

--elementary school principal
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It wouldn't be strange. It's just not appropriate. I really enjoy spending time and working on projects with parents from my school. There are many interesting people, and I connect with them on many levels. But I have to keep a professional relationship because their child's needs always have to come first.

--elementary school principal


OP here. Whether it is books, tv, clothing, travel, anything, the principal and I just click. She is probably about 5 years older than I am.

Have you ever become personal friends with any parents?

We won't stay at this school forever.

Would it be less inappropriate if my child no longer attends her school?
Anonymous
Think about it , OP. You are really putting the principal on the spot. What if you don't like your child's first grade teacher? It could create awkward problems. I'm sure the principal may enjoy her school friendship with you--but there is a difference. Say, your son gets in a fight with another child--it would make it uncomfortable for everyone concerned.

It is just not a good idea. Stay friendly--at school.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It wouldn't be strange. It's just not appropriate. I really enjoy spending time and working on projects with parents from my school. There are many interesting people, and I connect with them on many levels. But I have to keep a professional relationship because their child's needs always have to come first.

--elementary school principal


OP here. Whether it is books, tv, clothing, travel, anything, the principal and I just click. She is probably about 5 years older than I am.

Have you ever become personal friends with any parents? No for the reason I stated above.

We won't stay at this school forever.

Would it be less inappropriate if my child no longer attends her school?
It would be fine.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Think about it , OP. You are really putting the principal on the spot. What if you don't like your child's first grade teacher? It could create awkward problems. I'm sure the principal may enjoy her school friendship with you--but there is a difference. Say, your son gets in a fight with another child--it would make it uncomfortable for everyone concerned.

It is just not a good idea. Stay friendly--at school.


OP here. I see the principal pretty frequently at school, about once a month or so. I am very active in the PTA. I just thought it would be nice to get a mani/pedi or catch a movie after drinks.
Anonymous
OP, your first post sounded like an innocent, newbie question. Your subsequent posts make you sound like a creepy SWF. You must back off. It is not appropriate.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Think about it , OP. You are really putting the principal on the spot. What if you don't like your child's first grade teacher? It could create awkward problems. I'm sure the principal may enjoy her school friendship with you--but there is a difference. Say, your son gets in a fight with another child--it would make it uncomfortable for everyone concerned.

It is just not a good idea. Stay friendly--at school.


OP here. I see the principal pretty frequently at school, about once a month or so. I am very active in the PTA. I just thought it would be nice to get a mani/pedi or catch a movie after drinks.


Are you trying to date her??
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP, your first post sounded like an innocent, newbie question. Your subsequent posts make you sound like a creepy SWF. You must back off. It is not appropriate.


LOL. I'm not creepy. I'm new to the area. I'm from NYC. My friends brunch and get mani/pedis and we go out for movies and drinks. I am hoping I find my place here. Most people I have met are moms and they are usually SAHMs who seem like they rarely go out sans kids or working moms who are too busy for anything for themselves.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, your first post sounded like an innocent, newbie question. Your subsequent posts make you sound like a creepy SWF. You must back off. It is not appropriate.


LOL. I'm not creepy. I'm new to the area. I'm from NYC. My friends brunch and get mani/pedis and we go out for movies and drinks. I am hoping I find my place here. Most people I have met are moms and they are usually SAHMs who seem like they rarely go out sans kids or working moms who are too busy for anything for themselves.


How old are your kids, and where do you live? Happy to give suggestions on where you can meet moms!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, your first post sounded like an innocent, newbie question. Your subsequent posts make you sound like a creepy SWF. You must back off. It is not appropriate.


LOL. I'm not creepy. I'm new to the area. I'm from NYC. My friends brunch and get mani/pedis and we go out for movies and drinks. I am hoping I find my place here. Most people I have met are moms and they are usually SAHMs who seem like they rarely go out sans kids or working moms who are too busy for anything for themselves.


How old are your kids, and where do you live? Happy to give suggestions on where you can meet moms!


My kids are 3 and 5 and we live in NVA. I have one child in preschool and another in elementary school.
dcmom
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, your first post sounded like an innocent, newbie question. Your subsequent posts make you sound like a creepy SWF. You must back off. It is not appropriate.


LOL. I'm not creepy. I'm new to the area. I'm from NYC. My friends brunch and get mani/pedis and we go out for movies and drinks. I am hoping I find my place here. Most people I have met are moms and they are usually SAHMs who seem like they rarely go out sans kids or working moms who are too busy for anything for themselves.


How old are your kids, and where do you live? Happy to give suggestions on where you can meet moms!


My kids are 3 and 5 and we live in NVA. I have one child in preschool and another in elementary school.


I think the easiest thing is to talk offline. I'm logging in here so you can private message me. I can definitely connect you with some moms that I think you will have more in common with (though I know more people in DC than NoVa, as I'm in DC).
Anonymous
OP,

You are new here. Perhaps, you have always lived in NYC and have a wide group of friends. You WILL make friends--but sometimes, it takes a little time.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My son started kindergarten this year and I really love our principal. We are new to the area so I don't know a ton of people. I have volunteered at the school and have gotten to know the principal pretty well. I actually like her more than anyone else I have met. I am very passionate about education and we seem to have a lot in common.

Would it be strange to ask the principal out for drinks or invite her over to dinner?


As a teacher and parent, this would be an inappropriate measure to take.

Would you cross that line with your boss, for example?

Anonymous
I adore my primary physician and could see being friends but it's not a boundary that makes sense to cross. Save it for when your kids are done with that school
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