Anonymous wrote:Most people play over their head. They want more than they are qualified for. As a result, there is an on-going fascination with people who would frankly choose someone else if they had the option. It takes time to recognize your relative merit and date someone who's ambition includes you. I find it fascinating that people will convince themselves that their own merit is far in excess of what other people might say.
Not being a rock star, I don't rate 25 year old hard bodies. I have have learned to love the people who love me and I am much happier for it.

Anonymous wrote:Through therapy, i realized that the reason I was into guys who weren't into me was 1) I had an emotionally distant father and being with guys like him was familiar and 2) I was unconsciously ambivalent about being in a truly emotionally intimate relationship. Until I dealt with that, I was always attracted to the wrong men.