In shock...
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Anonymous
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My boyfriend of nine months, who is deployed, broke up with me since he has decided to accept a job that will take him wherever over the next five years (he is done with the military in the summer). He told me this in the middle of my work day via gchat...
I have stayed with him for the past six months because he told me (many times) that his plan was to stay in DC post military... 3 weeks ago (when he was home for R&R) he was upset that I didn't want to talk about moving in together and I lost count of how many times he said 'when we get married...' I am just in shock... and feel like an idiot for believing he could be the one... |
Anonymous
| I'm sorry. That sucks. There is probably more to the story than he's telling you. |
Anonymous
| It was only a 9month relationship---I'm glad you didn't waste several years with this schmuck! Pretty shitty way of dumping you =( |
Anonymous
Don't you think that he might have seen this as a rejection and has reacted, perhaps overreacted, by ending the relationship? |
Anonymous
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Don't you see the link you wrote yourself, OP? You didn't want to move in with him and perhaps were less than enthusiastic about marriage. With good reason, no doubt! I'm not telling you should have acted differently, just that this separation should come as no surprise. Poor manners announcing it this way, of course. You are well rid of him! |
Anonymous
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There is probably someone else. I posted the same thing as you, he was talking marriage, and was also dumped shortly after he returned from abroad. So I said there was no way there was anyone else. BUT I didn't realize he had an ex where he was stationed.
I am very sorry. I know what you are going through. It was and is heartbreaking for me. I went no contact 2 months ago but still think of him often. Take the time and space you need to heal. |
Anonymous
| Breakup by text/IM really sucks...sorry OP. |
Anonymous
| The guy is deployed. Not that I condone breaking up over gchat, but he is deployed. He probably feels a bit rejected as well. Sorry op. |
Anonymous
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He most definitely has access to a phone and actually called me twice this past weekend and bam on Monday...
So, I dont think he gets to use the deployed excuse for gchat... |
Anonymous
| You dodged a bullet. |
MikeL
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True dat |
Anonymous
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Dumping someone over IM is lame.
Who knows what he is up to. Sorry, OP, but you are probably better off. At least it was only nine months. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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Boyfriend
OP, this is what "dating" is for To discover what you need to know about each other before making a lifelong commitment. It was only 6 months, op. You haven't "waisted" too much time. Keep looking. |
Anonymous
| He could have been arrested or dishonorably discharged or married or who knows what - you don't know the whole story. |