When guys don't call

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[Post New]03/07/2015 18:32
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Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Not sure this is relevant but: when I was casually dating my now DH I told him that I was going out of town and made the flippant comment that I would "be in touch when I got back." I returned from trip and waited two weeks for him to call me, having completely forgotten that I said that. I finally broke down and called him. He thought I was blowing him off. We've been married 12 years and he still reminds me of that near misd


I was 2.5 months in dating my now-husband, went on a business trip and on that trip my sister had my first niece and I was so excited that I called him, more than once. And he never called me back and I was getting so unbelievably pissed, like who the hell doesn't acknowledge the birth of a baby even if you're no longer interested kind of pissed. Turns out he was called out of town for work very quickly with no notice and forgot his cell phone and didn't get any of my messages until he came back. Weird stuff does happen...


I am sorry but it sounds like he was with his other girl friend, maybe breaking up with her - having a final weekend before concentrating on you.
[Post New]03/08/2015 04:07
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Anonymous
Generally, it means he's not that into you.

Occasionally, there are exceptions, as outlined in some posts. I experienced exactly one myself when I was much younger. Started something with someone who I knew had been interested in me for awhile, and then he just disappeared. Found out after the fact that his ex-girlfriend had turned up and told him she was pregnant and that it was his. He had felt that he needed to do the right thing, and try to make it work with her if she was. Turns out, she was pregnant, but it was not his.

Here's the kicker: I know this because he showed up and told me what had happened as soon as he learned it wasn't his baby. The other posters here know what the exceptional circumstances were in their cases because the guys showed up/called them/texted them/whatever and told them. If there is an exceptional reason, and he is in fact still interested, he will turn up again, and you will hear what it was.

If you're concerned you seemed uninterested, then sure, contact him one more time and make your interest clear for your own peace of mind. If not, move on and rest assured you will hear from him if he actually was interested but extenuating circumstances got in the way,
[Post New]03/08/2015 05:36
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Anonymous wrote:I'm 40, and my girlfriends and I have been debating this for 25+ years. In all of those years and hundreds of incidences or not call back there was only ONE in which the guy was into her but got in a car accident, sustained a head injury and didn't call because he was in the hospital. In all of the rest: he's just not that into you.


Haha! So true!
[Post New]03/08/2015 11:02
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not sure this is relevant but: when I was casually dating my now DH I told him that I was going out of town and made the flippant comment that I would "be in touch when I got back." I returned from trip and waited two weeks for him to call me, having completely forgotten that I said that. I finally broke down and called him. He thought I was blowing him off. We've been married 12 years and he still reminds me of that near misd


I was 2.5 months in dating my now-husband, went on a business trip and on that trip my sister had my first niece and I was so excited that I called him, more than once. And he never called me back and I was getting so unbelievably pissed, like who the hell doesn't acknowledge the birth of a baby even if you're no longer interested kind of pissed. Turns out he was called out of town for work very quickly with no notice and forgot his cell phone and didn't get any of my messages until he came back. Weird stuff does happen...


I am sorry but it sounds like he was with his other girl friend, maybe breaking up with her - having a final weekend before concentrating on you.


Funny. And untrue. You know, sometimes people do actually tell the truth to people they're seeing. But even if this was the case, what the hell do I care about it now, 9 years later? Nothing to be sorry about.
[Post New]03/09/2015 17:18
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Anonymous
If a woman says a text/call every day or two from a guy is 'being overeager' she was absolutely NOT into that guy.
[Post New]03/10/2015 01:42
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Hummingbird
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If you haven't figured out men at this point. OK. I'll school you. Here are the reasons:

1. He's not that into you. You are #2 or #3 on his food chain.

2. He's very into you and anxious as hell about appearing over eager.

Of the two, it should be obvious.
[Post New]03/10/2015 02:50
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Anonymous
Guys got away with a lot before answering machines, caller ID, cell phones, e-mail, etc.

They could lie and claim to have called you and they was no way to verify. Unless you never slept and sat by the phone night 27/7.
[Post New]03/10/2015 02:51
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Anonymous wrote:Guys got away with a lot before answering machines, caller ID, cell phones, e-mail, etc.

They could lie and claim to have called you and they was no way to verify. Unless you never slept and sat by the phone night 27/7.


Correction:

Guys got away with a lot before answering machines, caller ID, cell phones, e-mail, etc.

They could lie and claim to have called you and they was no way to verify. Unless you never slept and sat by the phone night 24/7.

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