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Are all of our husbands jerks, or do we just post when they're acting jerky?
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Anonymous
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I love and respect my husband 70% of the time. I'm bored by him 20% of the time. I think he's a jerk 10% of the time. That's when I'm most likely to post about him.
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Anonymous
| I would be more apt to bash dh during the time I am pissed at him. |
Anonymous
My MIL and my mom both complained about their husbands endlessly and thought that their husbands had ruined their lives but when their husbands died they were devastated. I always try to remember that but I do tend to think a lot about what a jerk my dh is even though I know I will be devastated if he dies before me. However, I would give him a 20% jerk score, a bit higher than yours! 
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Anonymous
Probably 50% here. We have lots of issues. FWIW my therapist says 80% of American men are narcissists. 
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Anonymous
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I think it's human nature to want to vent on here when things are rough. So I assume most people's husbands are great most of the time, but human the rest, just like us.
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Anonymous
OMG, my mother has done the same thing, and my father was really horrible. |
Anonymous
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Our therapist last night just commented on how damaging the little complaining, even playfully, can be to a relationship. DH and I regularly banter in a poking way and often even when it starts in jest, one of us ends up with hurt feelings. Its so much more damaging to our relationship than we realize and it comes out so much more when we are with friends who have similar couples issues and we really have to be careful to keep even the playful banter in check.
Yes, sometimes he messes up or is a jerk and sometimes I mess up and am bitchy but even playfully pointing it out can lead to bad relationship issues. Not sure how this applies to an anonymous forum which he doesnt read, but it really hit home. |
Anonymous
| I would say that my husband is an angel 90 percent of the time, a jerk about 1 percent of the time, and simply clueless 9 percent of the time. Our marriage is not perfect but I consider myself very lucky. In fact, I would probably give myself a higher jerk percentage than I give him. |
Anonymous
| 10:42, it may be time for a new therapist. I can't imagine someone espousing that kind of world view would offer the most objective, healthy, balanced perspective, which is what therapists are supposed to provide. |
Anonymous
| My husband is probably only 2% jerk. He's generally great! I also feel lucky. Thanks to my great DH! |
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| I almost posted a few weeks ago about something nice my DH did for me, but then I felt like a dork and decided not to because it's kinda hokey. But here goes...I was so happy that DH bought me a DVD of my favorite cartoon from the Dollar Store...don't laugh...She-Ra! Yeah, it's no diamond ring, but I was touched that he remembered what cartoon I loved as a kid. |
Anonymous
These types of actions, IMO, are worth more than 5 carat diamond rings. Well, almost.
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Anonymous
I think it would be great to do a quick post on nice things that our DHs do....say, in honor of Valentine's Day.  My DH gets up almost every day (work days too, not just weekends) and plays with the baby so I can sleep in an extra hour. It is awesome!
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Anonymous
Good idea. |
Anonymous
| I post when I'm upset with DH. No I don't appreciate all the nice things he does, like letting me sleep in the morning while he gets the older kids ready for school. He's a jerk maybe 5 to 20 percent of the time, depending. Sometimes his jerk quotient drops to only 1 percent, but that's rare. If it hit more than 50 percent, I'd think it's time to pack. |