SHould I go to my boss's father's funeral?

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[Post New]01/26/2009 11:51
zumbamama
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I have a class tomorrow that I missed for a week, due to illness. My boss's father died over the weekend, and the funeral is tomorrow, the same time as my class. I am trying to find someone to cover my class, but it is nearly impossible to find someone at that hour. Boss said we are not obligated to go to the funeral, but I still feel obligated...even though I never met the man. Should I cancel my class again? Does it look bad if I don't go to the funeral?
[Post New]01/26/2009 11:55
Anonymous
I would try to go to the funeral, personally. I think most of your class would understand if you said you have a funeral to go to. Is it possible to try and make up the class later in the week?
[Post New]01/26/2009 11:56
Anonymous
I wouldn't go, but I really don't like going to funerals.
[Post New]01/26/2009 11:57
Anonymous
I wouldn't go to the funeral unless you would go even if there were no employer-employee relationship involved.
[Post New]01/26/2009 11:59
zumbamama
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I am scared to offend my FT boss, but also scared to piss of my Zumba boss with another cancellation.
[Post New]01/26/2009 11:59
Anonymous
I would definitely go to the funeral, especially if you feel like you should. Going to the funeral is never the wrong thing to do. I think you will regret it later if you miss it for a class.
[Post New]01/26/2009 12:03
Anonymous
i don't think it looks bad not to go to the funeral, especially since you didn't know him. there are other ways to show support to your boss.
[Post New]01/26/2009 12:05
Anonymous
zumbamama wrote:I am scared to offend my FT boss, but also scared to piss of my Zumba boss with another cancellation.


But he said you're not obligated. Is he the type to hold it against you?
[Post New]01/26/2009 12:07
Anonymous
How about staying a short while at the funeral and rescheduling your class an hour to an hour and a half earlier or later?
[Post New]01/26/2009 12:20
zumbamama
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no he's a nice guy. I am giving a donation to a Kidney Foundation to his family. I guess I will try like hell to find a sub, and if I can't, I'll go teach. I hate decisions like these!
[Post New]01/26/2009 12:21
zumbamama
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Can't reschedule...it's the gym schedule, and everyone comes on their lunch break.
[Post New]01/26/2009 12:39
Anonymous
zumbamama wrote:no he's a nice guy. I am giving a donation to a Kidney Foundation to his family. I guess I will try like hell to find a sub, and if I can't, I'll go teach. I hate decisions like these!


I think that's the best decision. Good luck.
[Post New]01/26/2009 12:58
Anonymous
Can you go to the viewing instead? i find that the viewing is a good place to pay your respects to the family, esp. if you don't know the deceased. I find funerals to be a bit more personal. I would feel like an intruder at a funeral for a person I don't know, (unless I am extremely close to one of the family members.)
[Post New]01/26/2009 13:14
zumbamama
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Anonymous wrote:Can you go to the viewing instead? i find that the viewing is a good place to pay your respects to the family, esp. if you don't know the deceased. I find funerals to be a bit more personal. I would feel like an intruder at a funeral for a person I don't know, (unless I am extremely close to one of the family members.)


That's a good idea, and I will ask. Although I just learned 2 of my co-workers who have been here 10 years are not going. I feel slightly less weird about the whole thing if I'm not the only one not going. But if there's an early viewing, then I could totally make that. Although, I would be viewing someone I don't know...I don't know which is more weird.
[Post New]01/26/2009 13:17
Anonymous
zumbamama wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can you go to the viewing instead? i find that the viewing is a good place to pay your respects to the family, esp. if you don't know the deceased. I find funerals to be a bit more personal. I would feel like an intruder at a funeral for a person I don't know, (unless I am extremely close to one of the family members.)


That's a good idea, and I will ask. Although I just learned 2 of my co-workers who have been here 10 years are not going. I feel slightly less weird about the whole thing if I'm not the only one not going. But if there's an early viewing, then I could totally make that. Although, I would be viewing someone I don't know...I don't know which is more weird.


I actually think it is less weird. You are there to show your support and sympathy for your boss, not necessarily to view someone who you do not know. A wake really isn't for the dead, but for the friends, family and friends of the family. I view the actual funeral to be more intimate and for those who are close to the deceased.
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