Anonymous wrote:Kids actually prefer to think that their parents only had sex once to create them and haven't done it since. No one wants to know that their parents have sex every chance they get.

Anonymous wrote:Not everyone sees sex as being fun. It's work awful work.

Anonymous wrote:

Fun as long as they are being responsible.
Fun as long as both partners are willing, and able to consent.

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Anonymous wrote:

Fun as long as they are being responsible.
Fun as long as both partners are willing, and able to consent.

And fun as long as they are mature enough and willing to handle the consequences (physical and emotional) that result.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Fun as long as they are being responsible.
Fun as long as both partners are willing, and able to consent.

And fun as long as they are mature enough and willing to handle the consequences (physical and emotional) that result.

Agree 100%. I was lumping that in the responsibility. Everyone talks all the time about the physical consequences. I think emotional consequences can be just as huge, especially for teens.

FruminousBandersnatch wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Fun as long as they are being responsible.
Fun as long as both partners are willing, and able to consent.

And fun as long as they are mature enough and willing to handle the consequences (physical and emotional) that result.

Agree 100%. I was lumping that in the responsibility. Everyone talks all the time about the physical consequences. I think emotional consequences can be just as huge, especially for teens.

OP here -

I agree, too. I think the emotional consequences are significant, and many adults can't handle them, either.

While some of the emotional consequences are biological/hormonal, I think some of the emotional consequences are tied up in our shaming attitude about sex, not to mention our cultural hypocrisy on the topic.

Giving kids a more "sex positive" message that it's something their parents do as part of loving each other and that they enjoy it may help reduce some of that emotional baggage.

Anonymous wrote:That's what I've told my 6 and 8 year-olds: the basic format of it (penis into vagina, seeds come out, meet egg), and that it's nice and fun to do with a special person when you're old enough (in my mind, that's around 16 or 17, so I've told them most people start around when they drive but some people wait until they're married). Sex has been a fun, special part of my life and I hope my kids have the same experience!

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Anonymous wrote:That's what I've told my 6 and 8 year-olds: the basic format of it (penis into vagina, seeds come out, meet egg), and that it's nice and fun to do with a special person when you're old enough (in my mind, that's around 16 or 17, so I've told them most people start around when they drive but some people wait until they're married). Sex has been a fun, special part of my life and I hope my kids have the same experience!

That's way too much for that age, and wtf, 16 or 17? Jesus.

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Anonymous wrote:That's what I've told my 6 and 8 year-olds: the basic format of it (penis into vagina, seeds come out, meet egg), and that it's nice and fun to do with a special person when you're old enough (in my mind, that's around 16 or 17, so I've told them most people start around when they drive but some people wait until they're married). Sex has been a fun, special part of my life and I hope my kids have the same experience!

That's way too much for that age, and wtf, 16 or 17? Jesus.

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Anonymous wrote:That's what I've told my 6 and 8 year-olds: the basic format of it (penis into vagina, seeds come out, meet egg), and that it's nice and fun to do with a special person when you're old enough (in my mind, that's around 16 or 17, so I've told them most people start around when they drive but some people wait until they're married). Sex has been a fun, special part of my life and I hope my kids have the same experience!

That's way too much for that age, and wtf, 16 or 17? Jesus.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's what I've told my 6 and 8 year-olds: the basic format of it (penis into vagina, seeds come out, meet egg), and that it's nice and fun to do with a special person when you're old enough (in my mind, that's around 16 or 17, so I've told them most people start around when they drive but some people wait until they're married). Sex has been a fun, special part of my life and I hope my kids have the same experience!

That's way too much for that age, and wtf, 16 or 17? Jesus.

Why do you think that's too much for that age? Haven't your kids asked yet? I think knowing those basics by 8 is pretty typical for an inquisitive child who keeps asking questions.