Anonymous wrote:If I invite you to a BBQ or dinner party or any gathering at my house really, do you want to know ahead of time if you'll be the only black people there? And if so, will you come even if you are?

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Anonymous wrote:If I invite you to a BBQ or dinner party or any gathering at my house really, do you want to know ahead of time if you'll be the only black people there? And if so, will you come even if you are?

Do you want to know if you're the only white person at an all black event OP? And will you come if you are? I'm black, and this is a foolishness. What quality of relationships do you have with your friends/acquaintances to have these silly questions?

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Anonymous wrote:If I invite you to a BBQ or dinner party or any gathering at my house really, do you want to know ahead of time if you'll be the only black people there? And if so, will you come even if you are?

Do you want to know if you're the only white person at an all black event OP? And will you come if you are? I'm black, and this is a foolishness. What quality of relationships do you have with your friends/acquaintances to have these silly questions?

Anonymous wrote:OP, black people are pretty much always in the minority so .....no we aren't uncomfortable around a group with majority white people. Highly doubt we are the only minority race that feels comfortable when we are the clear minority in a group either.

I have witnessed white people who become uncomfortable when they move from being in a majority white group to the white minority amongst blacks, Hispanics, middle eastern etc. Sometimes that discomfort turns to fear. Not always the case but it happens. Others are comfortable and you can tell.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I invite you to a BBQ or dinner party or any gathering at my house really, do you want to know ahead of time if you'll be the only black people there? And if so, will you come even if you are?

Do you want to know if you're the only white person at an all black event OP? And will you come if you are? I'm black, and this is a foolishness. What quality of relationships do you have with your friends/acquaintances to have these silly questions?

I grew up in a very white area of Long Island surrounded by other white areas. In the 20 years I lived there, we literally NEVER had a black person over to our house. I've never had a black friend. Been friendly with black people at work enough to go to lunch sometimes, but never had their home or cell phone number. I would be uncomfortable at an all black event. I've never been the minority anywhere. I'm not sure if I'd go (but I'm an introvert so I rarely go to large events). It's possible black people are often around white people simply because there are more whites than blacks in this country, but there are large pockets here where white people don't see black people around their neighborhood. Anyway, all that to say that this is all new to me. I would just hate to have someone be unhappily surprised and feel uncomfortable at my house. I didn't know, so I asked.