Anonymous wrote:OP, it would piss me off. I think it would be obvious I was just venting, so for him to a) cut me off and b) do so in such a passive-aggressive way as to suggest, "Ok, fine, I"ll take the stinkin' bus!" was uncalled for. DH needs to know when you are just venting and when you are really looking for a solution to a problem. This time, it was the latter.

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Anonymous wrote:So, I drop my DH off at the metro every morning on the way to taking kids to school. This morning I was tired and cranky and started bitching to my DH about all the things I need to do around the house and dropped in "and on top of that I have to be your taxi." He said, "There's a bus stop right there. I'll get out. I don't need you to drive me." Well, now I am really pissed 'cause I feel he doesn't appreciate my driving him. What do you think? Was his an asshole response? Or did I provoke him? Should I apologize for what I said?

Op I am probably one of the few who also drive DH to the metro in the morning. You vented; he over reacted. If you drive him everyday, you might want to think it over: is it causing resentment? Do you feel it is too much? There are times when I don't mind taking DH and there are others when it really is inconvenient. We have worked it out that from time to time, it is better to take a cab. Really helps the marriage. You can always rise above and apologize. I would like to know how many of the PPs who said you were just beyond rude actually take a person every day. It can get wearing.

Tough shit. I drive my kids to school every day. Should they take a cab? Should I rant at them? Are they supposed to be grateful to me?

It's a partnership. He's working, presumably part of what allows her to SAH includes driving him to the Metro: which is ON HER WAY to the kids school.

She's a complete bitch.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you blew up and he tried to diffuse the situation.

+1

What was he supposed to say to you?

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Anonymous wrote:So, I drop my DH off at the metro every morning on the way to taking kids to school. This morning I was tired and cranky and started bitching to my DH about all the things I need to do around the house and dropped in "and on top of that I have to be your taxi." He said, "There's a bus stop right there. I'll get out. I don't need you to drive me." Well, now I am really pissed 'cause I feel he doesn't appreciate my driving him. What do you think? Was his an asshole response? Or did I provoke him? Should I apologize for what I said?

Op I am probably one of the few who also drive DH to the metro in the morning. You vented; he over reacted. If you drive him everyday, you might want to think it over: is it causing resentment? Do you feel it is too much? There are times when I don't mind taking DH and there are others when it really is inconvenient. We have worked it out that from time to time, it is better to take a cab. Really helps the marriage. You can always rise above and apologize. I would like to know how many of the PPs who said you were just beyond rude actually take a person every day. It can get wearing.

Tough shit. I drive my kids to school every day. Should they take a cab? Should I rant at them? Are they supposed to be grateful to me?

It's a partnership. He's working, presumably part of what allows her to SAH includes driving him to the Metro: which is ON HER WAY to the kids school.

She's a complete bitch.

Anonymous wrote:You were wrong. You raised a problem, he pointed out an easy solution. If you can't do a favor for someone with a smile, without resenting it, then don't do them the favor.

You owe him an apology. YOU would have pissed me off if I were your husband.

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Anonymous wrote:You were wrong. You raised a problem, he pointed out an easy solution. If you can't do a favor for someone with a smile, without resenting it, then don't do them the favor.

You owe him an apology. YOU would have pissed me off if I were your husband.

Agreed. What you said is rude.

Anonymous wrote:OP, it would piss me off. I think it would be obvious I was just venting, so for him to a) cut me off and b) do so in such a passive-aggressive way as to suggest, "Ok, fine, I"ll take the stinkin' bus!" was uncalled for. DH needs to know when you are just venting and when you are really looking for a solution to a problem. This time, it was the latter.