Ladies, would this piss you off?

[Anonymous]

So, I drop my DH off at the metro every morning on the way to taking kids to school. This morning I was tired and cranky and started bitching to my DH about all the things I need to do around the house and dropped in "and on top of that I have to be your taxi." He said, "There's a bus stop right there. I'll get out. I don't need you to drive me." Well, now I am really pissed 'cause I feel he doesn't appreciate my driving him. What do you think? Was his an asshole response? Or did I provoke him? Should I apologize for what I said?

[Anonymous]

You were rude. Apologize

[Anonymous]

you provoked him, and should apologize.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you blew up and he tried to diffuse the situation.

[Anonymous]

Think it would be good for you to apologize. But then agree that he can take the bus to the metro station from now on to help out.

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing the metro drop off is something you decided on together. So if you were just ranting, I'd apologize for the outburst and move on.

[Anonymous]

You were wrong. You raised a problem, he pointed out an easy solution. If you can't do a favor for someone with a smile, without resenting it, then don't do them the favor.

You owe him an apology. YOU would have pissed me off if I were your husband.

[Anonymous]

Your bad. No question. His response was predictable and appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you blew up and he tried to diffuse the situation.

+1

What was he supposed to say to you?

[Anonymous]

No one likes a whiner, OP. And no one likes being told they're a burden. Agree with pps. You were out of line.

[Anonymous]

OP, it would piss me off. I think it would be obvious I was just venting, so for him to a) cut me off and b) do so in such a passive-aggressive way as to suggest, "Ok, fine, I"ll take the stinkin' bus!" was uncalled for. DH needs to know when you are just venting and when you are really looking for a solution to a problem. This time, it was the latter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were wrong. You raised a problem, he pointed out an easy solution. If you can't do a favor for someone with a smile, without resenting it, then don't do them the favor.

You owe him an apology. YOU would have pissed me off if I were your husband.

+1, although I don't think the ride is a "favor" if he is taking the metro to work and you stay at home.

[Anonymous]

He was heading off a bigger blow up.

I can get it annoyed you, because you probably needed to vent a little more. It would have bothered me too. But, looking in from the outside, he was right to head it off at the pass. Give him a extra little something tonight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it would piss me off. I think it would be obvious I was just venting, so for him to a) cut me off and b) do so in such a passive-aggressive way as to suggest, "Ok, fine, I"ll take the stinkin' bus!" was uncalled for. DH needs to know when you are just venting and when you are really looking for a solution to a problem. This time, it was the latter.

Disagree. Your spouse is not your Dumpster. When I need to vent to my DH, I preface it with "hey, is it ok if I vent to you? I don't need solutions, and I'm not trying to get you to change anything - I just need to say some things out loud so they don't fester." And I wait for an OK.

Being in a crappy mood is not an excuse to treat people like crap.

[Anonymous]

This is a joke, right? Of course you were a b*tch and in the wrong. Don't you know this? sheesh