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jindc
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I'm also pretty retentive when it comes to cleaning, but something is making me notice every speck of dirt and the prospect is overwhelming.
i don't think it'll be a long term thing, but if i didnt do it, I'd get more and more angry over the state of the place! I wouldn't qualify for GW midwives because I'm overweight. So, given that...I have the "f 'em" attitude. My money can go elsewhere even though I'm prefectly healthy and my recent weight gain is overwhelmingly IVF (and my husband coming home from deployment). Medicine isn't cut and dry, so being put in one category bothered me and that was that. I'm sure people love them, but I didn't want "all eyes on the fat lady", you know? |
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jindc,
This is pumpkin / pepita. I'm not at my best weight ever (I was very slim until I hit 35 or so, then things have gotten kind of, well, gluey) but I'm healthy enough and within my ideal weight officially (just don't ask me to take my pants off...not that you would!). Anyway, even so, the attitude you hear is dished out by the wisdom midwives kind of bums me out, too. I have some friends who actually used them, though, and they said that this stuff is EXTREMELY overstated on the internet, that they're not nearly that pushy, and that there thing is all about healthy lifestyle, not necessarily weight, which I'm okay with, but even so. I don't want bossy and I don't want to come in feeling like I'll need to defend everything that goes into my mouth to a third party. This month because I've been so nauseated I've really slipped away from my healthy eating. I feel like I'm eating what I can keep down and that I'm not going to sit here and eat kale and make myself throw up when I can eat a white bagel (god does wisdom hate white flour!) with peanut butter and honey on it (my breakfast 8 days in a row now). I know from my last pregnancy this won't last forever. I'm forcing myself to exercise and when I do feel well, eating the best I can. But I do what I can right now and don't want to have to justify personal decisions to a care provider. I have seen some wisdom patients say they just lie about what they eat, but who wants to have to do that? Know what I mean? Anyway, I don't blame you one bit for feeling that way! In fairness, though, I've never heard anyone in real life say they had bad experiences and I do know a mom who felt overweight (she always looked great to me!) say she had a good experience at wisdom. Anyway, I'm not sure you would risk out due to your weight alone, especially with a healthy lifestyle, but I don't blame you one iota for not feeling up for justifying yourself! Who needs that? |
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jindc, I had a really visceral negative response to reading the Wisdom website with my first a few years back, and their list of "musts." I've also heard that they're not as stringent in person, but that begs the question why the website is written as it is. MCA is super chill in my experience; of course they want women to be healthy, and they're midwives so they minimize interventions, but not at all uptight. But yeah, I have no patience for attitude from my healthcare providers. Grrrr.
Pumpkin, my diet's gone to hell, too. Eating goldfish here at work after finishing my Coke. Plain water is gross to me right now, so I'll probably get a ginger ale or something soon. I've moved from bagels and cream cheese to cheerios for breakfast, and there's a delicious lemon pound cake in the cafeteria here I've indulged in. I think knowing that this phase will pass has made me more relaxed than I was last time. I have found that plain vitamin B6 helps with the nausea, not sure if you've tried that. Bummer about your reaction to unisom, but hopefully your sleep's going well without it. 9:56, so glad I'm not the only one with the cleaning-obsessed husband! He really wants a dog, and I've told him now is not the time... but maybe we can negotiate if he's willing to hire a housekeeper. Ha! Not that we have tons of extra cash floating around, but I think it's truly money well spent. My mom convinced his mom to hire a housekeeper--so they can work on him next. Thanks to all of you for your reassurance about measuring behind. My daughter measured spot on at our first U/S, so I think that's part of what worries me. I know there's really nothing I can do about it either way, so am trying not to fret. Easier said than done. We saw the heartbeat and that's the important thing. Back to the goldfish... |
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Hey ladies! Glad to hear it sounds like the first appts are going well for everyone! I think it's fine if the measurements are a bit off. I had my first tri screening yesterday and they measured me at a range of 11w2d to 11w5d, but they still said I'm due October 1 so I'm just going with that, especially since they said that a range was totally normal and everything looked great! Nugget was sleeping at first and then started doing summersaults! NT test measurements were good. Now just waiting on the blood results to come back. Fingers crossed for a good call next week.
jindc, the only other question I asked is how often I would need to come in and how many sonograms I would get. Oh and I asked about if exercise and sex were ok! 
Hope everyone has fun plans for the weekend, like watching bad tv and eating ice cream! (Ok maybe that just sounds like my dream weekend. But it will probably be spent doing work for grad school. -Nugget |
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I just want to say how much I enjoy reading everyone's messages and how nice it is to have found this group. Jin, I am also overweight and I went to MCA to deliever my first and I will switch back closer to my due date for this child. I can't really go to them the whole pregnancy because it is further from work and they tend to leave me waiting in the waiting room for a long time. I am a teacher in Mo. Co (I just transfered from Fairfax) and I don't have a lot of leave to use for doctor appointments.
I felt really comfortable with them and liked them. However, if you do not want a midwife, OBs are great too. Pick what is best for you. I hope you all have a great weekend. -sleepy |
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Sleepy - I am a teacher too! It is hard to juggle the appointments as prior to the pregnancy I had zero absences - absences just really throw off my class as my school doesn't really do subs and instead just splits our class into the other classes on our grade level. This obviously doesn't work out too well!
Is anyone else going to Georgetown? I really like the practice so far... LJ |
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Pumpkin here. Anyone feel like they "know" their child's sex or have any weird hunches?
I have to say that while awake, I don't have any hunches. With my first, I sensed he was a boy from the day i tested. Told my husband "it's a boy - guarantee it" and we really thought it was. With this one, I don't have any idea on sex. WHAT IF THAT IS BECAUSE IT'S TWINS!??? I say this because I keep having twin dreams. (Serenity now!) Seriously, though, it's weirding me out - can't say how many times I have dreamed this. I have no reason to think twins. None in family that I know of, no IVF, just basically the fact that I'm 39 and I guess older moms have higher chances. Like I said, while awake, not getting any sort of read at all. I hope everyone is feeling well! |
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Hi everyone,
Long time reader - first time writer, here! I'm so glad to have found this thread, and I hope everyone is feeling okay this weekend! I am due at the beginning of October with our first, and am having lots of first time mom jitters and questions. We had our first OB appointment last week (first ultra sound was a couple weeks before that), and I won't lie - it was a little stressful! I felt like we were "strongly encouraged" to do one of the comprehensive genetics test, even though we are not technically AMA or otherwise high risk. I'm afraid whatever it comes back with I will just spend the next 7 months worrying about...maybe in my case I need to adopt a "less is more" philosophy for information. Anyway, that was with a dr I had not seen before so I think I will not schedule any more appointments with her, if I can help it. She just didn't do a good job explaining it. Did anyone else do a test like that? (It looks to see if you're a recessive carrier of like 100 different diseases.) At 10 weeks, I am feeling *slightly* less exhausted and queasy all the time, so I am really hoping I'm on the upswing for feeling better. I'm also super emotional all the time and almost start criyng every 10 minutes, which is fun for everyone
All right, thanks for letting me vent! Enjoy the rest of the weekend! |
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Hi there! Pumpkin here. Congrats on your pregnancy! If you want, think of a sign off name so we know who to talk to. I found those tests stressful as well. My brain really latched on to all of the scary things that were brought up to me and I was having trouble sleeping the evening before appointments, tests, between tests, etc. I told my OB that we didn't plan on "doing anything" about anything we found out, that I felt EXTREMELY stressed by all of the tests and that if I got a false positive, I felt like it might ruin a big chunk of an otherwise joyful pregnancy. I asked if there was a medical need (ie, would they be likely to find something that would be very valuable to know for delivery, like a heart defect or something) and he said that if we didn't plan on altering the outcome of the pregnancy, they'd be reasonably well-equipped by what the 20 week scan showed that would cover anything that might come up at birth. I do think there are some moms who feel most reassured when things are tested to the extent feasible. They'd rather stress about a test than stress the whole pregnancy. So that's probably part of the reason (in addition to less lofty reasons) why they push the tests. But, if your OB was sitting there pushing the tests on you after you said no thanks, or trying to give you the hard sell, I'd maybe mention that to the practice and say it made you uncomfortable. Now, I am 39 so I truly AM AMA. I think since my risk equation has changed and also because there are some new tests out there (Maternit21 for example) with fewer false positive possibilities, I may reconsider my feelings about at least that test. I still would not want to do the quad screen or NT (they may be the same thing, not up on the tests). I wouldn't do the other tests, though. Still, I don't really want to meet with a genetic counselor very much. I'd like to just have the test and get the results in the mail or something, without having someone go over them face to face. That probably doesn't make much sense, but I definitely would like that better! |
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We did the Counsyl test because we are both Jewish. It is pretty essential, and we found out I am a carrier for one disease and him another. I thought it was very worthwhile.
Anyway, I am really feeling crappy. Yesterday I barely left the house. It isn't throwing up, it is a complete lack of energy and overall queasiness - I feel sea sick all the time and get 'the burps'. I have no appetite until I am starving. I am trying to be positive about this - that this could be a sign of a healthy pregnancy and all that. I have night nausea, which is better than feeling sick all day at work. During the day. Am trying to get outside for a bit each day and today I walked home from getting a mani/pedi just over a mile and it felt good. Hope people feel better than me! |
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I think I am a few weeks further than you and I have noticed that this week I am feeling much better. I think I am about 11w3d now. In the past week the nausea has really subsided. I am not heavily fatigued but still need more sleep than normal. My appetite has pretty much returned to normal. Some slight breast tenderness but not much. I am hopeful this is the second trimester upswing I hear about, just a few weeks early!
I have told a few more people this weekend - some friends. I feel like I am more in the clear now, but obviously as my doctor said, we can't be sure until I am taking a healthy baby home! I am having trouble exercising regularly though - my goal this week is to get back on track. I used to use a trainer and lately I have only been doing a zumba class once a week. It is intense but one day of intense cardio is not enough! Since I am pretty young (28) I know I have less risks for some abnormalities. I ended up agreeing to doing the nuchal translucency screening next week, but that is mostly it. I am required to go to a genetic counselor first, though it seems like that is a very brief appointment. Hope you all are feeling well! LJ |
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14:50--welcome! The testing options can really be overwhelming. Deciding which ones to do, if any, is a hugely personal choice; I'm sorry the OB you saw was so pushy about it. I think the one you're describing is Counsyl (as jindc noted), my midwives never even suggested it, though we've done others. We did the NT and sequential screen with our first, and will do those again plus Maternit21 with this baby. If both come out in the clear, I'm hoping that having multiple independent biomarkers tell us the same thing will ease my anxiety. I'm 36, so just barely AMA, but we like to know what information we can.
I've had a wild Sunday: had severe abdominal pain on my lower left side this morning, while playing with my daughter. Went upstairs and got my husband, and we dropped our daughter at our neighbors' so we could head to the hospital. The pain was hideous--worse even than labor--and I ended up getting morphine which helped quite a bit. They diagnosed me with ovarian cysts, which they said should shrink soon when the placenta comes online (apparently the cysts are making progesterone until then, so they're playing a helpful role, if a painful one). I'm back home now and feeling better thanks to Percocet and ginger ale, since another side effect of the pain was frequent vomiting. Awesome. But, the good news is we got an ultrasound of the little one on a really good machine, and s/he is measuring right on track with my LMP! I'm so relieved, and even got to hear a good, strong, fast heartbeat. 9 weeks today, yeah! So that's my update--glad to hear from folks and hope you're well. jindc, those symptoms are definitely a good sign! They're rough, though. And Pumpkin, I thought of you today since they weren't sure for a while if I could have a second, ectopic pregnancy that was causing the pain. They don't think it's that--and it's quite rare, apparently--but I remembered your twins post. Take care, all! Poppy |
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Poppy, oh my goodness, feel better! That sounds scary and painful. I'll be thinking about you! And I'm so glad you got to see your little one, though that was probably not such a fun way to have to go about it.
LJ, when are you due again? Good for you if you can do zumba! I nearly died teaching my kid to do the bunny hop tonight. JinDC, yes. That pretty much sums it up. I had forgotten how intense the exhaustion and fatigue are. Both pregnancies now, my fatigue didn't set in until like 7 weeks. The fatigue is way worse than the waves of nausea. And yes, no appetite, and the idea of food is awful, til I'm starving. Then after I eat I feel uncomfortable, like there is no room for my stomach to expand at all. Even if I keep the meals small. And everything tastes off to me. We have had some insanely stressful stuff go down this weekend - a freak accident with our house (everyone is okay, but some pretty crazy damage) and a lot of stress. This coming week will be filled with insurance adjustments and claims and so on. Fun. so much for not stressing! Still waiting on my first appointment. Am I the only one who hasn't gone yet? |
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