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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi everyone,
Long time reader - first time writer, here! I'm so glad to have found this thread, and I hope everyone is feeling okay this weekend!

I am due at the beginning of October with our first, and am having lots of first time mom jitters and questions. We had our first OB appointment last week (first ultra sound was a couple weeks before that), and I won't lie - it was a little stressful! I felt like we were "strongly encouraged" to do one of the comprehensive genetics test, even though we are not technically AMA or otherwise high risk. I'm afraid whatever it comes back with I will just spend the next 7 months worrying about...maybe in my case I need to adopt a "less is more" philosophy for information. Anyway, that was with a dr I had not seen before so I think I will not schedule any more appointments with her, if I can help it. She just didn't do a good job explaining it. Did anyone else do a test like that? (It looks to see if you're a recessive carrier of like 100 different diseases.)

At 10 weeks, I am feeling *slightly* less exhausted and queasy all the time, so I am really hoping I'm on the upswing for feeling better. I'm also super emotional all the time and almost start criyng every 10 minutes, which is fun for everyone :-)

All right, thanks for letting me vent! Enjoy the rest of the weekend![/quote]

Hi there! Pumpkin here. Congrats on your pregnancy! If you want, think of a sign off name so we know who to talk to.

I found those tests stressful as well. My brain really latched on to all of the scary things that were brought up to me and I was having trouble sleeping the evening before appointments, tests, between tests, etc. I told my OB that we didn't plan on "doing anything" about anything we found out, that I felt EXTREMELY stressed by all of the tests and that if I got a false positive, I felt like it might ruin a big chunk of an otherwise joyful pregnancy. I asked if there was a medical need (ie, would they be likely to find something that would be very valuable to know for delivery, like a heart defect or something) and he said that if we didn't plan on altering the outcome of the pregnancy, they'd be reasonably well-equipped by what the 20 week scan showed that would cover anything that might come up at birth.

I do think there are some moms who feel most reassured when things are tested to the extent feasible. They'd rather stress about a test than stress the whole pregnancy. So that's probably part of the reason (in addition to less lofty reasons) why they push the tests. But, if your OB was sitting there pushing the tests on you after you said no thanks, or trying to give you the hard sell, I'd maybe mention that to the practice and say it made you uncomfortable.

Now, I am 39 so I truly AM AMA. I think since my risk equation has changed and also because there are some new tests out there (Maternit21 for example) with fewer false positive possibilities, I may reconsider my feelings about at least that test. I still would not want to do the quad screen or NT (they may be the same thing, not up on the tests). I wouldn't do the other tests, though. Still, I don't really want to meet with a genetic counselor very much. I'd like to just have the test and get the results in the mail or something, without having someone go over them face to face. That probably doesn't make much sense, but I definitely would like that better! [/quote]

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