Anonymous wrote:LJ, I had bad nausea with my first but only threw up once or twice. I remember getting waves of nausea though, and thinking "is this morning sickness?" and then THE NAUSEA hit, and I was like "oh, yeah, this is it." That sucked, but then I felt great the rest of the way through. Poppy, sorry you're already sick - remind me how many weeks you are again? Hope the Zofran works fast.

Poppy, I was accepted into the Wisdom midwifery practice, with an appointment set up 2.5 weeks from now, however, in the interim I still plan to visit the FHBC and maybe make a call to the WHC in-hospital midwives as I'm not sure I'm 100 percent into Wisdom, and both the FHBC and WHC are closer and they seem more laid back to me, which is the vibe I'd prefer. The next "meet the midwives" is not until about my 10th week. Wish there was one sooner so i could get a better sense of their practice in person, not just as described on the internet, but they do seem a bit regimented for me.

LJ, so sorry you're stressing. My stepmom had a couple of spots of blood when pregnant with my much-younger sister, who is now 27. I hope you have the same experience, where turns out to be just fine. I'm not downplaying the fear, we are all living with the known risks, and seeing blood is scary, but there are literally so many things it could be. I've heard isolated spotting is not even usually a miscarriage. But, I hope I'm not saying the wrong things. Either way, thinking about you with fingers crossed.

LJ, with my first, I had an OB who did an ultrasound at 7 weeks. When I saw it, and the doctor said, you see that flicker? That's the heartbeat. I remember blurting out "and....it's definitely alive and everything?" because I was, like you, just convinced that I'd have a miscarriage. All the stats got into my head so it began to seem like I was more likely to have a miscarriage than not to. But really, I was also reading that almost half of all miscarriages are "assumed" to have been miscarriages that are presumed to happen before the mother even knows she was pregnant. So once you miss a period, your risks have gone down some, and then once you get past the first few weeks, they go down a little bit more, and then after you see that reassuring heartbeat, they go way down.

I'll stop now, you never know if what you're saying is making someone feel worse and I would never want to seem like I was downplaying your fears or real risks, etc. We all know they are there... but, because I felt like my miscarriage fears prevented me from really enjoying my first part of my first pregnancy, I wanted to share some reassuring thoughts with you.

This time I'm doing a little bit better - I'm older so I actually DO have increased miscarriage risks but at this point, I can't do anything about it, so I'm trying not to do that thing where I look at my underwear with fear each of the 98 times a day that I go to pee....it's mostly working!

Keep us posted, and hope everyone keeps power!