Anonymous wrote:BTW, I hope that by "teenager" you meant that your ex-wife was 18 or 19.

Anonymous wrote:OP do you think that your dad may have regrets about the way he handled things with you? Maybe now that time has passed, he sees that he should have, or would like to have, handled things differently. Maybe it isn't hypocrisy, and he sees things differently now.

Anonymous wrote:This resonates with me, b/c I had an abortion in college and never told anyone but my best friend about it. I graduated 5 months later and went on to a successful career. Fast forward to my married life with kids. Yes, that first child was bittersweet knowing what I'd lost. Yes, I became less "pro-choice" after seeing those sonograms at 12 weeks.

Then we had a baby with profound "inconsistent with life" birth defects. We were given the option to terminate at 20 weeks, but had to get in under the wire of 24 weeks before the government would stipulate not only a live birth, but using all means necessary to resuscitate our son who didn't have kidneys, or ureters or a bladder, or a functioning heart, and would have been in crushing physical pain from 20 weeks on from the complete lack of cushioning amniotic fluid.

Thank god for a merciful OB/GYN who bent the rules for us at 23 weeks and administered a lethal injection to stop his heart and ensure our son did not have to suffer any longer or be born alive to suffer more. We then delivered two days later, and stepped over the red tape. That any couple should have to go through this struggle on top of their agony - ensures I will always land on the pro-choice side of the equation. No matter my personal beliefs on when it should be used or by whom.