DH has done this several times. Is he being irresponsible?
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Last night, I was yelling to DH, asking him a question. When he didn't answer, I actually went to look if he was still in the den, reading or watching tv. No DH. I went to the kids' room and asked "where is Dad?" Oldest DS says, he went to the store. I called him on his cell, and asked why he didn't tell me he was leaving, he said I was in the bathroom, but the kids knew he was gone.
It had been at least 45 minutes that I didn't know he left the house. I think he should let me know when he leaves, and basically "tranfer responsibility" to me. Granted the kids are 6 and 9. But I always let him know when I leave the house, even to get something out of the car. Other times I "must not have heard him say he was leaving," or other excuses. Is this wrong because I wouldn't do it? Or wrong because it's wrong? |
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| He should let you know, so you can keep an eye on the kids. |
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OP, maybe it is a grammar issue, but why would you yell a question at him in the first place? Maybe DH is clairvoyant(sp?), knew your yelling was about to come,and simply left ahead of time.
Otherwise, yes, he should have told you he was leaving. |
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| Actually, just take the kids out of it. You live with another person. You are both home from work for the evening. One of you decides to go to the store. Seems like the normal thing to do would be to say, "Hey, I'm going out." I'm not asking for a detailed itinerary or exact time of departure and return, but why wouldn't you just give a heads up? |
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You've never yelled down the stairs to someone else in your house? Are you this proper all the time? I don't think she meant in anger. OP, yes, he should have told you. I've never left the house without telling DH (except once in anger...but that was before kids). |
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Calm down PP.
The OP makes it sound like she is at the helm of the Starship Enterprise. Does she want him to announce when he needs to take a crap, that he is incapacitated for 15 minutes? |
Anonymous
Yes, this is normal behavior, kids or no kids. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| OP here--16:46 sounds just like the answer my husband gave me. |
Anonymous
| Meh...i remember when i was old enough (13ish) maybe, both my mom and dad doing this if one was busy. Example:my dad was outside doing yardwork or my mom was in the bathroom and he didnt want to yell to her through the door. Imo, i dont see what the big deal is unless you have younger kids |
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I am 16:46....honey is that you? Because I friggin hate it when I am showering, showering mind you, with the fan on, and you yell something at me from the kitchen downstairs. Do you really expect me to be able to hear you? FYI, in the next 3 days, I will go to the store 7 more times. Because you NEVER tell me when you are stepping out to get something from the car. I have been watching you. |
Anonymous
| I think he did nothing wrong. He told your kid----That should suffice (Imo) |
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| Should have told you. Ask him if he wants you to disappear without him knowing. |
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| Particularly with kids ages 6 & 9 at home, you both need to communicate when you are leaving so you know who is watching the kids. The 9 year old is too young to be responsible for the 6 year old in a case if your husband went to the store without telling you and you did the same. Communicating better together is the adult thing to do. |
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It strikes me as rude and unthinking. |