if one half of the couple doesn't want divorce?
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Anonymous
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"don't get me started on women's issues, but in my case, it is still a man's world and I am still living in an unhealthy, dead marriage because my husband refuses to "give" me a divorce."
Maybe if you got a job instead of letting a man support you you wouldn't fee that it is a "man's world." |
Anonymous
| That's not fair. She may be from a different area or country, got married young and had kids early. She said she has daughters that she has raised. Maybe a job that she could get was less than daycare for a couple of kids. It's not easy. Maybe her husband turned into an asshole over the years and takes his anger out on her. It can be depressing living with someone like that. Not everyone is as lucky as you, BITCH. |
Anonymous
| So when exactly did her husband turn into an asshole, after DC3? or she chose not to see the reality of things? NP here by the way. |
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No idea about MD but in VA it isnt about whether or not the divorce is contested.
If you have no kids, you must wait 6 months before filing for divorce. If you do have kids, you must wait one year. Time starts when you can prove that you two have not been living as man and wife. |
Anonymous
One day you will be her. Your husband has already proven his (lack of) commitment level. |
Anonymous
What are you talking about? This was before we were together. |
Anonymous
| To 16:27: you say "time starts when you can prove that you two have not been living as man and wife." I am sure this has specific meanings. What is the definition, and what constitutes proof? TIA! |
Anonymous
| Still asking ... |
Anonymous
I think there by the grace of God may go you. So let's not name call until you actual get to the death do you part point. 2 years from now the next may be posting the same about you. |
Anonymous
Sleeping apart in seperate locales. Sleep in the same house and the court finds out technically they have to start the clock again. Now as a former solo prac I'm all for giving help when it's need for free but you missy need to go pay for a consult- even if it's a reduced fee one. |
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Anonymous
Laws vary by state. Under certain circumstances in VA, a legal separation can occur with both parties living under the same roof. You need to go get a real consultation, OP. |
Anonymous
Ah, I see. Well, let me clarify: she is a strange bird in many ways, this not being the sole reason I think that. And I fully admit I'm not exempt from the possibility of divorce down the line but if someone doesn't want to be married to me, I have enough pride and self worth not to force them to remain married to me for years, even as we live apart and AS a divorced couple already, just because I can. |
Anonymous
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I worked as an attorney counseling domestic violence victims in Montgomery County, MD. A client, who was divorced, explained that her ex had sole custody of their child, and she paid child support, though her income was very low. I asked her how this had come about. She responded that he had filed for divorce, but she didn't want it, so she ignored and never responded to the documents served upon her. In short, wishing doesn't make it so. And ignore a court at your peril!
The above posts about being "stuck" and unable to divorce a spouse simply aren't true. If a divorce is contested it will just take longer than an uncontested one, regardless of the jurisdiction. But no one can force you to stay married if that's not what you want. |
Anonymous
<anonymus> Maybe they want to torture you |