Divorcing someone with NPD?
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Anonymous
| Divorcing an ex with NPD may be worse than living with him. Anyone work with an attorney or parenting coordinator with experience with the particular challenges that go with narcissism (and the need for vengence)? |
Anonymous
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OMG, how I feel your pain. Have been trying to get away from my NPD ex for TWO YEARS. I have a therapist and have spent $$$$$ on lawyer fees already. It is soooo difficult, especially if you have kids (i have 3 lovely daughters). I know that one day I will be free but it takes a looooong time. I will not give up. Was he formerly diagnosed? Is he in therapy? Have you told him you want a divorce yet? What was his reaction? Do you have a job? Can you move out and be on your own? so interested to hear your story. I'm sorry, I don't know of anyone in this area that specializes. I'm told the best route is get him into mediation rather than a court trial...but he will have to agree to mediation. That is the challenge I am having now.
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Anonymous
| I'm sorry I was typing too fast. I didn't mean to type "ex". He's not my ex. We're still married. Also meant, has he been "formally" diagnosed...by a psychologist? |
Anonymous
| Where do you live? I can recommend a therapist in Montgomery County that handles these kind of challenging cases well. |
Anonymous
| OP, I have no advice, but want to wish you well. Dated an NPD and the aftermath really sucked. Can only imagine once children are involved. My best wishes to you. |
Anonymous
| PP here, you may also want to cross post in the relationships and off-topic threads if you have not done so already. |
Anonymous
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Op - therapist recc?
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Anonymous
Not OP but I could really use this recommendation. Who is it, please? |
Anonymous
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OP here, would love the name of the therapist you mentioned. |
Anonymous
| OMG -- This is my first time in this forum on DCUM and I couldn't believe my eyes! I am divorcing a NPD man and it is PURE HELL! The "need for vengeance" line screamed out to me. I keep trying to understand this. I have asked myself (and others) "what have I done to deserve all of this?" It didn't ever occur to me it could be specific to NPD. And we have kids - will my life ever be normal again? Sorry, no therapist recommendations, but lots of virtual hugs. |
Anonymous
I'm a few steps farther on the path and so far, no. That's what my lawyer says too. If you have in any way indicated that they are less than perfect they feel rage toward you and will use the kids and the legal process to make your life miserable. It has nothing to do with you per se, you are just an object of their wrath. Good luck! |
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| A resource for someone who might be really insightful and helpful for you would be Sharon Zarozny: http://www.brilliantexits.com/index.html |
Anonymous
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Thanks. Have you been to any of the groups yourself?
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