Is this a problem or is this ok? re: porn
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| My husband has always had a very high sex drive. If it were up to him, he would have sex every single night. I'm more of a 3-4 times a week gal and I really do enjoy it, but we have two kids under 4 and we both work full-time and of course, I'm absolutely exhausted most of the time. So on the 2-3 nights per week that we don't have sex, I go to bed and he goes downstairs to watch porn and get the job done himself. For some reason, this makes me feel guilty. So on these nights, we're both up in bed reading or something and then I usually pass out and wake up a little while later and he's gone. He says he doesn't blame me and if I'm tired, he'll just go downstairs - no problem. Why does this bug me though? Or should I just leave the situation like this and assume we're both getting our needs met? I think my main feelings are guilt that I can't keep him satisfied and fear that he'll turn to something other than porn. |
Anonymous
| Oh and I should add that I'm fine with porn - we watch it together sometimes. So I'm not an anti-porn person. |
Anonymous
| Totally normal. Nothing to worry about. |
Anonymous
| what kind of porn, sometimes it can to escalate to overly aggressive or crazier acts that he requires to get off and might want you to perform |
Anonymous
| Woman here and I think that this is fine. Heck on Sundays and Mondays during football season my BOB gets quite a workout and I dont even hide it from my husband. |
Anonymous
| BOB? |
ThatSmileyFaceGuy
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 so Energizer should think about becoming the Official Battery of the NFL
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Anonymous
Battery operated boyfriend aka vibrator. |
Anonymous
| ThatSmileyFaceGuy - thoughts on this? |
ThatSmileyFaceGuy
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Well, guys are going to masterbate now and then no matter how much sex they are getting. As long as the OP and her husband agree that 3-4 times a week is satisfying to both of them then she shouldn't feel guilty about him taking matters in hand the other days, if that is what he wants to do. Masterbation isn't always about being unsatisfied, sometimes it's just a nice way to enjoy yourself.
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Anonymous
| My goodness, give yourself a little credit. 3-4 times a week is pretty good with small kids. He'll be ok with porn and his hand the rest of the week. |
Anonymous
| Another DH. A few thoughts. 1. 3-4 times a week is impressive and I am sure your DH is happy with that and knows he has nothing to complaint about. 2. Plenty of guys masturbate every day. This is not a reflection of the adequacy of your sex life; in fact, such frequent sex may be ramping him up and leading to more, rather than less, masturbation. 3. Porn makes that process more pleasurable and vastly more efficient -- key when you have small kids and little time. Unless he seems to be losing interest in you or developing odd fetishes that make you uncomfortable, I'd say its ok. |
Anonymous
| Thanks for the reassurance everyone. I love DCUM for this type of reason - not exactly I question I could go polling all my neighbors for responses on, and now I have one less thing to worry about it. Thanks! |
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My is DW is ok with me"handling my buisness". We have 2 kids, but they are
6 years apart. The only problem she has if I look at something such as threesome interracial anal, then she does get testy. Black on black is fine for her. I'm sure there is some underlying issues with that genre of porn. I learned to not go there with her.Maybe it's the anal or the two girls w/ one guy or they are white. To keep peace in the house, I respect her wishes. |
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Well anyway, this is OP and we do like anal every once in a while. So if he wants to watch anal, he can go for it. Take that trolls!
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