Is There a Nice Way to Tell My Husband that I am Bored in Bed
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Yeah I agree with this. I'm the PP who suggested he might be submissive but it sounds more like he has some serious issues. I actually don't think you can change a person's hardwiring though. He probably isn't ever going to be into the things you want to do with him but he might be willing to at least try. |
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| my DH is a lot like OPs. (but wouldn't think the belly button dirty. I might be a little more like that. Like not so into giving him oral if he hasn't showered that day. But I know it's a little lame) |
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"I am also afraid that if I suggested anal he will think I have turned into a "skank" who is unfit to be his wife and mother to his children."
NOW you tell me this? The sore butt was for nothing? |
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| This belongs in the Craig's list. |
TheManWithAUsername
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From what you've described, I think you should give up on teaching him to be more dominant, at least in the near future. I think you'll have to start with putting the kink on him, and very slowly.
Do you think he like sex much at all? I ask b/c I had success doing with one woman almost as restrained as your DH. Her main problem was simply that she literally hadn't enjoyed sex before. As she enjoyed it more, she trusted that she would like whatever I was going to do. I'm torn about what a PP said about you two just being different. I'm reluctant to judge someone else's sexuality, but he seems awfully repressed. |
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| Invite a hot girlfriend |
Anonymous
Consider what the pp said about his wife offering prostate massage and him acting like he didn't really care even though he wanted her to do it. He acted that way because he was embarrassed. Obviously your DH is too shy to talk about his needs but he might still have secret fantasies. Your DH thought you were joking when you mentioned handcuffs. What if you told him that it would really turn you on if he would let you handcuff him or tie him up and have your way with him? Even if he says no, you will certainly not be hurting his feelings. I think this might be the key to unlocking his kinkier side. I don't think he is ever going to want to dominate you though. |
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| Get some porn and watch it together. |
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Porn is not going to help this guy and is not the solution to all sexual problems |
ThatSmileyFaceGuy
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| Instead of talking about using handcuffs, use them and then use him like the toy he is |
VivienneJ
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Nice 
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