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The cookies are in the oven, now, what do I say?
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Apartment Therapy has some really neat soundproofing ideas for apartments. I think I wandered into some via Ohdeedoh (my favorite website!!! Sorry DCUM.) Maybe you'll find some useful tips there? |
Anonymous
| Do you live in a large building? Maybe you can move to a top floor unit. It sounds like the noise comes from above, not below, yes? |
Anonymous
Wow, you're unbelievable. I've read some crazy posts on DCUM, but someone willing to throw away a perfectly good batch of homemade cookies? That's just lunacy! |
Anonymous
| I'd throw them away too. How do I know whether or not you have cats crawling all over your counters? Gross. |
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| I might be leery about the cookies too just because I wouldn't know how clean her kitchen was. But I would appreciate the gesture even if I was annoyed by the message. Do these people work normal hours or are they shift workers? If shift workers they might not have a lot of choice about when they do things. |
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OP here.
They live above us and we're on the first floor so there's nobody under us. We chose this unit specifically bc it's a pet free building and we knew our kids would go from babies to walking during our year here. Moving is not an option and I need words to ask them to keep quiet between 9pm and 7am. My children sleep through the night and I want them to keep this way. They open the balcony door, turn on TV and do all sorts of noises through out the night. It's everyday noise but at 2am no thanks. I don't mind their washer running all day buy at 6am NO! I'll check with our building. Thanks for any suggesting words I can use to sound like a nice person. |
Anonymous
| Sorry OP - at first I was with you but you're pissed they watch tv and enjoy their balcony at night??? I get the washer thing, I get the vaccuming and other things that most people don't do late at night. But come on lady, they can't watch TV past a certain time because of the noise? You really shouldn't be living in an apartment or condo building. You need your own house where the neighbors are far enough away that you can't hear anything. Get a grip. Buy a white noise machine to tune out the TV. |
Anonymous
| I'm curious--do you people who would throw away homemade cookies refuse to eat at potlucks too? |
Anonymous
Potlucks are gross IMO. I will eat at parties when I know who was cooking and am friends with the people. The issue with bringing cookies is that its just a facade to counteract that the OP has a problem she wants to discuss. I know it is considered a "nice gesture" but franky its like you are brown nosing your neighbor. I dont think cookeis will help the situation but you look like a desperate fool going over with them. |
Anonymous
Hi OP, I am against the whole cookie thing, but I did have one of the worst neighbors on earth! I did not have kids at the time and she did not either but she was just terrible. In any case, I think the best advice I can give is to "feel" out their attitude when you talk to them. You will be able to tell almost right away if they are going to want to listen to what you have to say or not just by the body language. I think you should contact your rental office to become aware of your rights, but I would honestly just go up there at a time thats not at dinner or too late and introducce yourself if you have not. Then maybe casually mention the noise. Again, see how they are and if you feel like they will be receptive then I would kind of joke but say: "Hey these older buildings have terrible floors and insulation and I know its how the bulding is but would you mind....." Blame your kids being sensitive to noise at night, etc. Just try to be nice and see where it gets you. But in all honesty...it probably wont get better and you should consider moving. Once I had that bitch above me evicted for subleasing and letting random people live there...I moved upstairs and life was great! |
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OP, I lived in a building like yours, but I was on the top floor. There were two different tenants in the apartment below, and they were always knocking on my door asking me to be more quiet. I believed them that it was probably loud in their apartment, but after a while I just didn't want to hear it any more. I was the only person living there, and I was just going about my life-- didn't even have guests very often. When they asked if I could not vacuum or move things around at night--okay, that's reasonable. But when she came up asking me to "try to walk more quietly" or "can you not walk around after 9 PM, because I have to get up really early for work".... um, NO, LADY! I CAN'T WALK MORE QUIETLY!
I guess what I'm trying to say, OP, is that you should just explain that the walls are really thin, and you understand that they aren't doing anything unreasonable in terms of noise, but it's still really loud in your apartment. Just explain that you have young children, and anything they can do to keep the noise down a bit in the nighttime hours would be really appreciated. And then you need to let it go and accept that this is the reality of apartment living. They are paying the same amount of money as you are, and they have the right to enjoy their apartment. |
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Another person who won't eat food from neighbors who are trying to butter me up with cookies. Yuck. Don't waste your money.
So you are trying to find words that "make you sound like a nice person", when what you want isn't really very nice at all? You want people to live by YOUR schedule? Sorry OP - they have a right to open their balcony door and watch TV - yes, even after 9pm at night. |
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OP again.
They keep opening and closing that door late night with the TV LOUD. We have fans on all night in all rooms and a white noise machine in each room. Still I believe it's disrespectful to act likethat at midnight, sometimes later. Their screen door is fallen resting on the gate of their balcony that's why I think they keep opening and closing the door late night so often like that. As I said I don't care about their everyday noise between 8am and 9pm. What's bothering us is the late night traffic, running, vacuum and laundry. |
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Well, maybe ask them about the screen door issue and tell them you can hear them closing the door even though you have fans. But you have no right to tell them not to open and close their balcony doors, even if it is midnight. Its their door and their apt! In our condo bldg we have only one cpl with a baby - and sometimes I can hear him crying when I get off the elevator. What if their neighbor asked them to keep the baby noise down? Would that be reasonable? |
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OP,
What if they want to be good friends b/c they've fallen in love with your cookies? Are you willing to risk that? |