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Anonymous wrote:I guess I'd like to offer a slightly different perspective. Had my first at 39, passed amnio with flying colors. He still has several genetic defects. An amnio does not screen for all genetic or chromosomal defects or problems, and people who have the amnio and develop a smug attitude about avoiding all risk or "enjoying their pregnancy" are a little silly in my book. An amnio is a tool, not a guarantee.

Well, I don't think it's smug to get results from a test like the amnio and put worry behind you. As someone who ruined my entire first pregnancy wondering about what ifs, and is trying hard three years later not to do the same about motherhood, I think that attitude is not the one to go for either. Just because you are born with a healthy, perfect baby doesn't mean anything can't happen down the road...he could get hit by a car at three, snatched from right beside you on the street at 5, hit by a drunk driver at 17. But if you go through life like this, it's not going to be good for you or your kid.

I'm sure you didn't mean this but there is nothing wrong with getting information and being happy about it or relieved. I'm determined to "enjoy" this pregnancy more, for my own health and sanity. It's not "smug" of me.

OMG you had to deal with ANXIETY?? How awful for you. Both of these posts are so annoying and short-sighted.

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We did the nuchal and stopped there.

I refused genetic counseling too. When offered, I just shrugged and said "I'm old?" I just don't see the point of just-in-case information or what-if scenarios. I focused on the babies I had. If the nuchal tests had come back with questions, I most certainly would have followed up.

I can't stand the fear-mongering that's become a routine part of pregnancy. It's undue stress.

Anonymous wrote:These are my favorite posts, from people who "knew they wouldn't terminate" and of course, all had healthy babies.

I didn't think I'd terminate either until I was faced with the reality of a bad diagnosis. It happens, ladies, and you can't avoid it simply by having a positive attitude and taking vitamins.

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Anonymous wrote:These are my favorite posts, from people who "knew they wouldn't terminate" and of course, all had healthy babies.

I didn't think I'd terminate either until I was faced with the reality of a bad diagnosis. It happens, ladies, and you can't avoid it simply by having a positive attitude and taking vitamins.

I am so sorry for your loss. We are part of a very small club of women.