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I DO have a magic mobile!!! We have the Tiny Love Symphony - it is exactly like the one in the picture here (I think there are a few variations)
http://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Love-Symphony-Light-Mobile/dp/B0009PANI0 This thing ROCKS!!!!! Yes, he can stand in the crib and as a matter of fact, he goes to the end of the crib where it is attached and turns it on and off by himself. Sometimes I find the mobile leaning or a little crooked, but it has not posed any problems and he cant really pull it over, per say. It is attached very securely to the crib so he can only wiggle it around. Seriously, this is the BEST mobile I have ever seen. And I have the moms on DCUrbanmom to thank for the recommendation when I posted oh so long ago looking for a good one (it was the only one recommended, actually.) He loves it! We love it. In the morning, it actually buys us another 20-30 min. Kiddo wakes around 5:30 or 6 and we change his diaper and put him back in the crib with the mobile on and he will stay down a bit longer. |
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I honestly try respond to all of my babies cries day and night as quickly as I'm able. I nurse on demand, and I actually dont wait until baby cries to nurse, cuddle, etc b/c I can read his cues before it gets to a crying state. I also believe in babywearing as much as possible as I believe babies are biologically desinged to be in close proximity to their caregiver day and night. Attachment Parenting has been profoundly rewarding for our family and has helped us raise our 2 children in a way that feels very "right" for everyone. Our 3.5yo was nursed, rocked and snuggled to bed nightly and is a great sleeper. We're doing the same w/ #2 b/c we feel a baby crying means the baby has a need or is in distress and it's our job and pleasure to respond. A few great reads on how more physical contact b/t mama and baby and immediate response to babies cries actually creates a calmer baby and that is babies learn to be soothed (by actually being soothed first by mama) are:
The Vital Touch, By Susan Heller, Phd-discusses "how American babies are among the least held on earth, she uses evolutionary psychology to examine why social pressures and a desire for self sufficiency have caused Americans to distance ourselves from our children" Everyday Blessings-the Inner Work of Mindful Parenting, by Myla and Jon Kabat-Kinn, quote "why is it hard for us to see our infants as fully feeling, fully experincing beings? why is it ok to let infants cry it out when we would never ignore the cries of a friend or lover or even a stranger? what might we be resisting, or protecting ourselves from, when we distance ourselves from a baby's distress?" p. 65 on Empathy, Our Babies Ourselves By Dr. Small Continuum Concept by Liedloff I could go on and on but I did a lot of research on the baby/sleep topic b/c I got so much pressure to use CIO from friends, strangers, etc...but the more I dove into evolutionary psychology, attachment parenting, cross cultural sleep patterns, etc I found that Americans are in fact in the minority as far as letting babies CIO, it validated my own instincts that told me CIO wasnt right for my children. |
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looks like five minutes is a popular time interval!
DS (who is 11 months) had been sleeping through the night but then about two months ago started waking up at 2 or 3 a.m. crying. I'd pick him up and soothe him and put him back in the crib. more crying. I was so tired that I'd take him to bed with me, and he was fine. the problem was that he rolled around so much that DH and I would never get a good night's sleep. I guess I ended up doing a modified version of CIO, never letting him cry for more than five minutes. within a few days, he stopped waking up in the middle of the night. now, he'll go to sleep during his last feeding at about 7 p.m. he sleeps in the den, so sometimes the noise we make around the condo wakes him. this happens usually around 9, as I'm getting stuff ready for the next day. at those times, again, I never let him cry for more than 5 minutes, and he's asleep in about 10 minutes until about 5 or 6 a.m. don't like the early waking time, but at least it's not 2 or 3! this, of course, is a personal decision. I really hate to hear him cry, and when I know he's sick or teething or otherwise in real need, I'll scoop him up and let him sleep with us for the night. but, other times I'm letting him cry for a few minutes at a time, because DH and I really need to get good sleep to function for the next day. during the day, when we're not battling with sleep, if he cries, I go to him and soothe him as soon as I can. don't know if that's a bad thing, but that's what I do. good luck to you! |
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| My kids are older now, but when they were young, I picked them up right away when they cried. It's how babies bond and learn that you will take care of them. Even though I'm sure that those who let their babies cry have well adjusted kids, I just never wanted mine to feel like I wouldn't be there for them. |