Bring food, or would that be weird?

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[Post New]09/22/2025 14:58
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Anonymous
You obviously bring some sort of gift if you haven't already.
[Post New]09/22/2025 18:37
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some very well meaning people brought us food after I gave birth, but it didn’t work for us. One time it was food neither my husband nor I would eat, and then I felt guilty about throwing it out. Another time we had already started cooking dinner and had planned out our meals for the week, when someone showed up with unexpected food for us. So I guess I would check with her first to make sure a lasagna works for her and would be appreciated.


You sound like a snot.


Not at all. She's not obligated to eat something she doesn't eat and it's inconvenient to have to store extra when you've planned for the week. Bringing food is supposed to be a kind gesture to help the family, and it is thoughtful and kind to check on whether they actually need it. The PP said she felt guilty throwing it out, so she doesn't sound unappreciative of the good intentions.


+1

[Post New]09/28/2025 17:05
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some very well meaning people brought us food after I gave birth, but it didn’t work for us. One time it was food neither my husband nor I would eat, and then I felt guilty about throwing it out. Another time we had already started cooking dinner and had planned out our meals for the week, when someone showed up with unexpected food for us. So I guess I would check with her first to make sure a lasagna works for her and would be appreciated.


You sound like a snot.


This. Lasagna can be frozen.
[Post New]09/28/2025 19:03
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Anonymous
Absolutely bring a meal, but bring something full of protein and vegetables (a chicken stew for example), and not a carb laden, no nutrient meal.
[Post New]09/28/2025 19:38
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Anonymous
Why not just talk to her? Don't just show up with a lasagna unannounced when she has potentially already cooked, say before hand "I'd love to bring dinner, how about lasagna".

Yes the lasagna can be stored/frozen but if you don't ask maybe she doesn't have freezer space or she's doing dairy free for nursing or so on.

Again, just talk to people!
[Post New]09/30/2025 13:08
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Why not just talk to her? Don't just show up with a lasagna unannounced when she has potentially already cooked, say before hand "I'd love to bring dinner, how about lasagna".

Yes the lasagna can be stored/frozen but if you don't ask maybe she doesn't have freezer space or she's doing dairy free for nursing or so on.

Again, just talk to people!


+1

Don’t ask the internet if someone wants lasagne, when you can ask the person who will be eating it. People who don’t ask are usually “I’m making this food for them” when they are really doing this for themself people.

Ask. Just ask.

“You can freeze lasagne”


You can also not bring unwanted food in the first place.


[Post New]10/04/2025 08:18
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katherine456
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I’d just bring a small gift for the baby and maybe some flowers or snacks for the parents and that way you don’t show up empty-handed but keep it simple.
[Post New]10/08/2025 15:08
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Anonymous
I hate lasagna.
[Post New]10/08/2025 18:05
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Anonymous
I think you'd be totally fine to bring a lasagna but what about a batch of cookies if you're unsure?
[Post New]10/08/2025 19:50
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I hate lasagna.


I enjoy my fresh lasagna. When I want lasagne.

No thanks to unsolicited, second hand, reheated lasagna.
[Post New]10/17/2025 13:48
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I hate lasagna.


I enjoy my fresh lasagna. When I want lasagne.

No thanks to unsolicited, second hand, reheated lasagna.


Ummmmm.. I'm not the OP. BUT when I bring lasagna I bring it uncooked - so they can pop it into the freezer or bake it that day or leave in fridge until tomorrow and bake tomorrow. I don't anticipate that my food is going to be eaten by me. I make it in a container they can toss, cover it with aluminum foil - or if I really know the person I put it in a baking dish and ask them to call when it's empty and I'll come get it.
[Post New]10/20/2025 18:56
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Anonymous
If she's pumping, she might like a bottle of tequila and mixers instead.
[Post New]10/20/2025 21:37
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Anonymous
My kids are 9 and 12 and I'd appreciate a lasagna and a salad! That is to say, you cannot go wrong by bringing anyone a meal ever.
[Post New]10/20/2025 21:52
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Absolutely bring a meal, but bring something full of protein and vegetables (a chicken stew for example), and not a carb laden, no nutrient meal.


+1
[Post New]10/21/2025 12:42
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I hate lasagna.


I enjoy my fresh lasagna. When I want lasagne.

No thanks to unsolicited, second hand, reheated lasagna.


Ummmmm.. I'm not the OP. BUT when I bring lasagna I bring it uncooked - so they can pop it into the freezer or bake it that day or leave in fridge until tomorrow and bake tomorrow. I don't anticipate that my food is going to be eaten by me. I make it in a container they can toss, cover it with aluminum foil - or if I really know the person I put it in a baking dish and ask them to call when it's empty and I'll come get it.


I would prefer this preparation, provided I expressed an interest in eating lasagna.

If I'm not interested in receiving lasagna, I prefer no lasagna.

That is to say, you cannot go wrong by bringing anyone a meal ever.


As long as we acknowledge the recipient is free to dispose of the unwanted meal, by all means bring whatever.
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