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Anonymous
6:12 here. Oh, well in that case you need to investigate further. How you choose to do that is up to you...but if you are hearing an alarm...you should probably listen. Some people get upset about that, but oh well. If I thought something wasn't quite right, you better believe I'd do some digging. |
Anonymous
This seems like the most likely explanation to me, too. Either that, or there was something bad going on within her home and she wants to know whether friends/ neighbors could tell and chose not to get involved. |
Anonymous
I agree with this poster. Trust your gut. Lay low, but dig around a little. |
Anonymous
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My first thought is that something really bad happened to her in those years, and she's looking for someone who knew all parties involved to help her work it through.
I don't think there'd be anything wrong with meeting in a public place. |
Anonymous
Nothing bad happened to her. She's looking for someone to latch onto emotionally. This is what my DH said, not what I am saying about her. I don't understand why women try to contact married men who have children to meet their emotional needs. |
Anonymous
I agree it's totally inappropriate and she lacks boundaries. No way in hell would I want my DH getting together with someone like her. But at the same time, if my DH told me about it and also told me that he has no intentions of getting together with her, I probably wouldn't worry about it further because I trust him (though I might ask him to write her a very clear note letting her know that he is not able to see her, ever). Do you not trust your DH completely? |
Anonymous
I don't trust him. Not for a bad reason but because he has a big heart and can be stupid. I really question whether or not he'll meet with her, but more because he'll feel bad. I guess that is how I feel. |
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The way you describe him, you make him sound like a dog. Give him a pat on the head and he's yours. I think you should give him more credit. He told her no and he kept you in the loop. Sounds like a standup guy to me. |
Anonymous
Well, here's an update. He didn't tell her no. He told *me* he told her no. Yesterday he offered to show me their correspondence which meant he pulled up one mssg via facebook. She asks to meet with him. He says "Sure, what did you have in mind". That is NOT saying no. That is being spineless and either lying to me or lying to her. If he ignored he then he wouldn't have responded, if he had said no, then it would have read "no, I can't meet you". He said "SURE". WTF - and Im suppose to believe they didn't meet? Sure. |
Anonymous
| That would be a major problem for me, except for the fact that he is showing you this correspondence, so he seemingly has nothing to hide? My DH ran into an old female friend recently at a party. She seemed awfullly friendly with him that evening and the next day, she changed per profile pic to a picture of herself and my DH. I flipped out and asked DH to contact her, ask her to take down the photo, and then suggested that he defriend her. Inappropriate. Must end. Period. |
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OP, my DH is clueless like that so I know what you mean. Actually I should say was because I schooled him. It took some time and it was really frustrating because he just didn't get it.
Yes, I get you are trying to be nice but you need to get that this is inappropriate and this is why!!!! It took time of me repeating the same things over and over. This is not appropriate, some women will try to latch on to you just because you are married, the past needs to stay in the past as far as exes go, some women are very shady so you need to be careful.. blah blah blah blah. He gets it now. Oh, and I hate Facebook. Ask him why he said "sure" to her. |