For SAHM's.. What is your husband's schedule like?

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[Post New]08/08/2010 20:36
aprilmayjune
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I am a SAHM, and my husband works long overnight shifts.. He works for DOJ.. I was just wondering if there were any other SAHMs out there with similar schedules. we live about 45 minutes outside of DC so in order to beat traffic he leaves before 4 each afternoon and gets home about 7:15 each am.. I was wondering if anyone else out there dealt with similar schedules, and what your day to day looks like..
[Post New]08/08/2010 21:38
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[Post New]08/08/2010 21:42
Anonymous
My husband leaves for work at 4:30 am and gets home at 4pm. It is exhausting.
[Post New]08/08/2010 21:46
aprilmayjune
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That is a long day.. I can definitely relate... Because of DH's schedule, My days feel broken up and hectic a lot of the time, and I don't feel like I'm getting to do as much as I'd like with my DD, and I was just wondering how other people dealt with this.
[Post New]08/08/2010 22:03
Anonymous
What do you mean "your day is broken up" ? What chunks do you see yourself having?
[Post New]08/08/2010 23:05
aprilmayjune
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I guess what I mean, is that I never have much time to spend on any one thing ya know? We get up, have breakfast, get dressed and ready for the day, than we have until about 1 to do whatever out and about stuff outside of the house, before I have to come back here and cook, and than she takes a late nap, I clean the kitchen, only to have to make her dinner when she wakes up and clean it again, and than we do baths and bed.. I don't know if broken up was really the right way to word it but I dunno, I don't have any time to donate to anything else unless hubby is off or I stay up really late.
[Post New]08/08/2010 23:26
Anonymous
aprilmayjune wrote:I guess what I mean, is that I never have much time to spend on any one thing ya know? We get up, have breakfast, get dressed and ready for the day, than we have until about 1 to do whatever out and about stuff outside of the house, before I have to come back here and cook, and than she takes a late nap, I clean the kitchen, only to have to make her dinner when she wakes up and clean it again, and than we do baths and bed.. I don't know if broken up was really the right way to word it but I dunno, I don't have any time to donate to anything else unless hubby is off or I stay up really late.


This sounds like my day and my husband has a more normal schedule and works from home several days a week. We wake up by 8am, make breakfast. I empty the dishwasher while the kids eat, load it back up if there are dishes in the sink.

Then we go to the park or run errands.

Home by naptime. Hopefully both kids go down without a fight. Sometimes I nap, sometimes I put laundry away or prep dinner.

Once the kids wake up they eat a small lunch, I load up more dishes in the dishwasher. Usually have to vacuum up crumbs or mop if the kids eat melon or strawberries since the baby throws a lot of food.

Then we watch a show or play in the living room.

I start dinner once the kids are settled in their activities.

After dinner we do baths, then bed. After the kids go down I either clean up some more or watch a little tv.

I think it's a fairly typical routine to have with small kids. They have to nap and eat so it's basically what you're doing all day.
[Post New]08/08/2010 23:50
aprilmayjune
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He has to go to sleep early in the am because he really doesn't sleep for very long as it is, and than has to leave in the afternoon, so I think maybe what overwhelms me is just that I don't have that evening time help (or even just adult conversation lol)..
[Post New]08/08/2010 23:54
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My husband leaves for work at 4:30 am and gets home at 4pm. It is exhausting.



Are you being facetious?

My husband leaves for work at 8am and gets home around 7pm. I would love it if so many of my dh's working hours were before the kids were even up and then he was home so many hours in the evening before bedtime.
[Post New]08/09/2010 00:26
aprilmayjune
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Anonymous wrote:My husband leaves for work at 4:30 am and gets home at 4pm. It is exhausting.



Are you being facetious?

My husband leaves for work at 8am and gets home around 7pm. I would love it if so many of my dh's working hours were before the kids were even up and then he was home so many hours in the evening before bedtime.


Yeah, exactly that's what I was saying.. Life would be easier if my husband had a daytime job with more "normal" hours.. Not that I need him to do a whole lot or anything, but he'd be here for support or a "hey watch the baby so I can pee in peace" or something.
[Post New]08/09/2010 08:53
Anonymous
My hubby works for the Navy. He leaves at 5am and is home by 4pm. We have a DS (3yo) and DD on the way. I like having my days the way they are, but I do miss my hubby. I think things will be different once DD is born.
[Post New]08/09/2010 08:54
aprilmayjune
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So there aren't any other SAHM's who's husband's work overnight?

Also, to the PP, my husband was in the army for 5 years, but he was an MP so he worked a lot of different shift work, but almost ALWAYS 13 or 14 hour shifts so I can definitely relate to that also.
[Post New]08/09/2010 09:42
Anonymous
I don't see this being a problem personally.

You have until 1 to either do some kid-friendly activity or run errands. The cooking and cleaning is part of staying home. Now, if you're worried about "me time," that's another issue. I always worked out when my kids napped; that was my "me time," for example.


aprilmayjune wrote:I guess what I mean, is that I never have much time to spend on any one thing ya know? We get up, have breakfast, get dressed and ready for the day, than we have until about 1 to do whatever out and about stuff outside of the house, before I have to come back here and cook, and than she takes a late nap, I clean the kitchen, only to have to make her dinner when she wakes up and clean it again, and than we do baths and bed.. I don't know if broken up was really the right way to word it but I dunno, I don't have any time to donate to anything else unless hubby is off or I stay up really late.
[Post New]08/09/2010 13:30
aprilmayjune
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Don't get me wrong, I have no complaints about the actual things that I do.. cooking cleaning, caring for the baby etc.. There is pretty much NO family time on days when he's working, and that adult conversation and support in the evenings is pretty much what I feel like we're lacking I think.. I really didn't mean to come across like I was complaining, because we really are quite blessed, I guess my original question was to see if there was anyone else in a similar situation schedule wise and what their days looked like..
[Post New]08/09/2010 21:25
Anonymous
OP - what time does your husband spend with you and the kids 2-4 pm? Do you get adult time with him while they nap?
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