I know who this is about too, and while my DD spent several happy years at VA Juniors, Liz stepping back was not a good thing. If you search on this forum for VA Jnrs - you get plenty of stuff that doesn’t make great reading….example below, and it doesn’t look like it’s just one person…. “All true stories about Coach Jharred at VA Jrs… 1) Has moles/friends snap pictures at restaurants of volleyball families enjoying evenings together. One case in point… This one is really creepy so please read!!! One night we were out at a bar with a family whose daughter was on the same travel volleyball team as our daughter. Our 6’ 2” daughter (3rd season at VAJ and being watched by Yale coaches) had already quit the team halfway through the season for several reasons (new private school 75 minutes away had a strict quarantine policy, fourth “surprise” Middle added to the team after tryout selections were made, unreal expectations, favoritism, and so much more). The mole at the bar snapped a picture of our families and texted it to Jharred. Jharred then reached out to the other daughter via text and said AND I QUOTE “Why is your family out with the BLANK family???” 2) Recruits way too many players for one team! Four Middles on one team is an AWFUL strategy! Probably how Liz (owner) is recouping losses from the 2020 season. 3) Makes his own teammates turn on each other due to playtime challenges with that many girls on one roster. He’s even gossiped poorly to his OWN rostered athletes about their teammates. Very divisive! 4) Treats “specific” athletes like they are his gal pals! Those athletes get the most playtime despite a lower skill level. Avoid Coach Jharred’s team like it’s the plague!!!” |
And Jharred will know exactly who the Blank family is or will be like "What a heck is this person talking about?" Nevertheless, it seems quite personal for someone who quit the team due to logistical issues. |
Every club has it's issues and pros/cons. Some kids/parents are ok with the win at all costs culture at Paramount and will tolerate getting screamed at and demoralized by the coaching staff. Choose your hard. And don't make it personal, which is something that is clearly happening with this lastest string of messages. |
Why would you think anything on this thread was personal? There was a PP who did their research and objectively pointed out how bad one specific coach in a specific club was. The PP even found opinions of other parents who were unhappy with that coach and resurrected those conversations from old threads. There was clearly nothing personal, the PP just wanted others to be aware. |
I didn’t see it as personal at all. We were a Va juniors family for 2 years and I wish I’d been able to read this beforehand - might have saved our DD a lot of heartache. The coaching issues there are well known ‘around the circuit’. |
I just wanted to clarify that this was sarcastic. A few of the last posts were definitely personal. |
I see many mentions here that Metro has been best club in CHRVA. I don't want to disagree with what appears to be common knowledge, but what is that based on? Most bids to USAV Nationals over time? Most wins overall? Most wins head-to-head against other clubs near the top? Most collegiate recruits? Best coaches?
I'm only in club season #2 with my player, so I don't have a full sense of the region's history. With SportsEngine buying/rebranding AES, I don't know how much I can trust the data from previous years (which "only" goes back to 2020-2021 now). On its website, Paramount proudly touts a top 5 USAV National Open division finish for one team ... some time in the past ... as the best CHRVA finish ever at USAV Nationals. Metro makes other claims on its website (like CHRVA club with the most teams to qualify for USAV Nationals for a given year, etc.) Is there anything objective that distinguishes Metro from Paramount from VA Juniors from Blue Ridge from MD Juniors ... on and on? |
The 18s Teams last year were a toss up between Paramount and Metro mostly because H Howard is unbelievably talented, but that Metro team probably gets the edge. Otherwise, it's Metro all the way. Both teams provide fantastic training. Some Paramount coaches yell and scream an insane amount. Metro is less so. Sylvia is unbelievable technical. |
I'm just reading along, but if the PP you're replying to is just telling a real story, why do you think that is "getting personal"? If a whole team pretty much quit as a group, that speaks volumes. Sounds like reporting facts, I just don't have enough info to know if it's true but it's certainly possible. |
Speak for yourself. In the way-too-many-years that I've been on DCUM, I have found a very high % of the "mysterious info" true when it's been something my family is involved in (whether it's schools, sports, or many other areas). If VA Jrs is a hot mess, as long as people are clear about which club it is (I was following along understanding it was VA Jrs so it must've been said early on), then it's useful. Everything on DCUM needs to be taken with a truckload of salt, but there is a ton of truth here too. You don't find it interesting, cool, you can ignore it. But don't make mistake thinking no one else finds it useful. |
My kid isn’t on any of those clubs but based on my other daughter’s experience in a different sport, there seems to be a strain of toxic troubled people working in youth athletics. And everyone talks about them but if you’re a new family to the sport or the region, you can call into a very bad scenario without knowing it. As a parent and someone who didn’t come from a sports background, I have been really shocked at how it seems like there are no real brakes on this problem. My daughter just lucked out that she didn’t end up on the team with this infamous coach — we never would have known. So while I’m not generally in favor of gossiping about people on DCUM, I feel like there should be a way to spread news about the problematic coaches. |
+1000 I had never thought about if this way but there seems to be an inordinate amount of toxic coaches in youth sports right now. CHRVA volleyball being particularly awful. |
We are a new volleyball family and I have to say that I'm not impressed by the culture as a whole. I don't like the idea of tryouts every year - how do you build team culture if the team is constantly in flux? Why are there so many coaches who've obviously never been trained to coach young girls? The clubs seem kind of fly by night in general. Why do I have to spend $100's in admission and parking (never mind hotels) to watch my kid play? |
I do speak for myself. I read other volleyball threads on this site and there's always someone who brings up coach J, most of the time out of the blue. It always starts with how much Jrs declined, then the blame is squarely placed on this coach. I don't know the coach, and my daughter has little chance to play for JRs (we live in MD), but I can tell that some parents took something very personally and are out for blood. Some pretend that they moved on and just want to warn others, but it sounds like they are attempting a character assassination. |
Maybe he gets brought up for a reason? I don’t see anything like as much about any other Coach in the DMV. Maybe Paramount get a bad rap occasionally, but nobody else comes close to what I have seen about this individual. Volleyball is a small world, there’s no way there is this much smoke without fire. |