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Anonymous
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Is there anything wrong with sending one child to private school and another to a regular public school?
Obviously, the parents might see that public school fits one child while private fits another, but what about the children? Will they see it this way? And how do you go about telling them that? It seems to me that the public school child might feel 'less' than the private school child. Or should you try to find a private school that is similar to a regular public school? |
Anonymous
| Nothing wrong with that. The different schools could be a better fit for each child. It might also represent the different abilities of the child or family. For example, maybe one of the kids gets a scholarship or the family's financial circumstances change between the the time each child attends a certain grade. Or maybe the middle school has become not so great so the younger child goes to a private middle school and then the same public high school as her/his older sibling. Also, not all children want to attend a private school. |
Anonymous
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OP, I have a polite request. When you start threads, would you please include your full question in the topic description, or at least indicate what the thread is about? Please?
I'm seeing lots of threads lately where the topic description seems to be just a teaser that doesn't tell anything about the actual topic. It's frustrating to have to open the thread to figure out what it's about. I'm not trying to be the forum police -- you're free to do whatever you want. I'm just asking if you'd please, as a favor, make your topics more descriptive. Thanks. |
Anonymous
| People do it all the time. |
Anonymous
I agree. OP, please don't waste people's time unnecessarily.
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Anonymous
And it's annoying all the time. |
Anonymous
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Yup. Plus, we had this discussion with a very difficult OP just a few months ago. Turns out those of us who couldn't mind read were jumping to conclusions.
Tired of this topic. |
Anonymous
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OP,
This is a legitimate question, not sure why you're getting grief for it. (Though a more specific subject line would help.) On the private school thread, more than one poster has said their sibling went to private and they felt cheated. But others have said the same but they were fine with it. So, it depends on how you couch it, etc. |
Anonymous
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OP here.
Sorry didn't mean to cause grief... but it only takes one request to get the point across... not five that do not help with the response at all. Anyways, I wasn't aware of there being another topic on this. (My search skills must be lacking.) I'm sorry to cause a repeat. I've been tossing around the idea of two kids in private school and don't really know if I can swing it. There is one child, however, that I think would not benefit from public school at all, while another would be okay in public school. I fear that putting them both in public school will hurt one, whereas placing one in private and one in public might cause jealousy. What's the best way to go about this situation? |
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I am 3:58. I'm sorry I accidentally derailed your thread OP. I've been bugged by the outbreak of "teaser" topic descriptions in the past few months, so I wanted to say something. I did not mean to block you from getting good responses. Here is one thread that discusses your issue: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/37980.page#252109 . If you search the archive for the following terms, I think you'll find other threads too: public private fit "one in". Good luck. |
Anonymous
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I knew a family in which the son requested to go to public school and the younger daughter insisted on one of the fancy privates -- they could have afforded to send both to private.
The son did great and is about to finish at an Ivy League U. The daughter is a bit frivolous and focused on material things. Maybe she would have been worse off in public school, maybe not. But, certainly the public school kid did not suffer. |
Anonymous
| I would not see public school (if you can find a good one) as 'lesser' at all. Often, the good ones have as much going for them in different ways. Perhaps both your children would benefit from being able to have a view into both worlds. And private school can be great for some children--especially those were a smaller class size makes a world of difference (for some children it truly doesn't OP). Teacher here who has taught in both; I think it's a cool idea. Really thinking about your kids' individual needs. |
Anonymous
Sorry 'where'. Yes - always scary when a teacher has a typo! 
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Anonymous
| I think as parents when we are making decisions for our kids, the issue is what is in the best interest of the particular child. In the case of schools, where you have options deciding to send one kid to private just because you did that for another makes no sense. The question is what is best for that child. If it's private, go for it and if it's public, then that's what you should do. In smaller matters, we don't have any trouble with this concept, but for some reason when the dollar figure of the choice is high, it's easy to lose perspective. With my kids, I can think of so many areas where things are not "equal". One kid got private speech therapy. Another is in very expensive tutoring. Sure, all my kids would get something out of tutoring, but only one needs it to be successful in school. |