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[Post New]04/01/2008 13:25
Anonymous
Well, I guess your mistake was saying you would get her a monitor and then sending the link. I know I combed the web looking for monitors and reading reviews and asked everyone I knew what they use (inc on this board!) and I would only be happy with the $69 Graco I registered for (thank you Jon & Leah!) Something about the monitor seems so serious because you connect it to your babies safety.

Anyway, since you were the one to start the whole thing with her (and kind of promised it to her), I would just give her the Gift Cert for the $120 and a nice note about what you hope she uses it for. Then move on and forget about it. Too much thinking about it is becoming a waste of your time (and mine - hahahaha!

[Post New]04/01/2008 15:09
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It went like this: I saw her at a funeral-we were talking about her going back to work after the baby, her long commute (77 miles one way), and I felt really bad for her. It's then I said, don't buy a monitor, I'll get you one. Fast forward a month later-I sent her the link to the monitor we have, and she wrote back, something about infrared red...then she sent another email that it had negative reviews, then something else...by that time, I was pissed. And-she knows my husband has $$$, and believe me, he doesn't throw it around, but they know his real estate holdings and that he trades...and I know that they struggle. My husband thinks that she knows we can afford the color...I just don't know. This person isn't a close friend, but a friend of the family.



This changes a lot of things. Youoffered to buy her something and THEN she goes out and does some research and decides on something else. WRONG! WRONG! WRONG!
She might not have even considered a video monitor in the first place if you didn't bring it up. Being a friend of the family makes it tricky--you could either buy her the original monitor you had in mind (and include a gift receipt-put the burden on her to return), or just get them a gift card and round it down.

Can you reply to one of her emails and say...sorry, I already purchased the monitor and the return just expired so we will get you something that is just as lovely and then give her a gift card.
[Post New]04/01/2008 15:12
TwinsinAdMorg
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Anonymous wrote:It went like this: I saw her at a funeral-we were talking about her going back to work after the baby, her long commute (77 miles one way), and I felt really bad for her. It's then I said, don't buy a monitor, I'll get you one. Fast forward a month later-I sent her the link to the monitor we have, and she wrote back, something about infrared red...then she sent another email that it had negative reviews, then something else...by that time, I was pissed. And-she knows my husband has $$$, and believe me, he doesn't throw it around, but they know his real estate holdings and that he trades...and I know that they struggle. My husband thinks that she knows we can afford the color...I just don't know. This person isn't a close friend, but a friend of the family.

Concur with gift card. And here's a suggestion to get out of the how much to give awkwardness. Contact family who know her, or others you think might be in a similar situation with her, and offer to combine funds and make a gift from "our family".

I've found group gifts are win-win when I've been both gift giver and recipient.

OP - Very nice of you to show such generosity and parental advice on a monitor.

PP w/50 bibs - I hear you! Ironically we found we NEEDED more bibs for our 2 reflux babies.
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