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Anonymous wrote:I've been through the entire process and have a scholarship athlete.

1. You are the biggest advocate for your kid. Your 15-17 year old player has no real world experience. Understand your kids talent level and have real conversations with them to identify the approopraite program where they may want to go to school and play. Only YOU and your KID can answer that question.

2. ECNL is the top league for girls. What it shows the college is that you're kid is able to compete at a level that acts as the main player pool for D1 players. It allows colleges to properly evaluate you player.

3. However, ECNL will not get your kid recruited. Your kid will get themselves recruited by contacting the appropriate school and performing well info front of them when the spotlight is on.

4. The college coach will contact your club coach before the reach out you. If your coach doesn't vouch for your kid (behavior issues, etc.) it's over.

In summary - most important thing to do is have an HONEST conversation based on Academic and Athletic talent and then start emailing the coaches. Get on their radar staring 8th and 9th grade.



3.

Thank you! that is helpful. Even in the 8th grade? Are the ID camps at targeted schools worth it?

I ever felt that random ID camps got my kid on anyones radar. - it may be fun to attend for experience - but to get recruited, your player needs to be evaluated multiple times to show their true level.

The only ID camps I thought were meaningful where the ones where the college coaches reached out to our club coach and showed interest. That meant that they saw my kid at a showcase (or highlight video) and liked what they saw. I then used the ID camp as a second opportunity to be seen and evaluated.

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

We emailed and showed interest to over 40 schools. We made at least 4 highlight videos

Cast a big net. But first and foremost - Have an HONEST discussion and identify the schools! It has to start there. Then stay in constant contact with updates. You want them to know your kids name.

Good stuff! I''l be using this as a blueprint!

This is not a blueprint, it's very helpful but 100% POV of a parent vs. player. The Juxtaposition between 'her' vs. I is cringy.

Adults using the word "Gringy" is "Gringy" - log off your TicTok account and rejoin the rest of us.

Parents - take a very active role behind the scenes to assist in getting your kid recruited. Do not rely on anyone else.

So at what point in the process did your kid actually do herself? What did she actually learn about composing and sending emails and maintaining communication with coaches?

Will you do this for her jobs too?

Glad you asked -

Here is what I did to assist my teenager in the process:

1. I taught her about colleges and the many different options available
2. I learned about her interest and life desires
4. I helped build a list of colleges
5. I helped gather a list of emails
6 I helped draft an introductory letter
7. I helped make the highlight video
8. I taught her about debt
9. I paid The club fees
10. I drove her to practices and games
11. I made showcases the family vacations.

Here is What she did -

1. Play soccer since the age of 6
2. Train 4 times a week since the age of 9
3. Play ten months out of the year since 13
4. Batltle and overcome injuries and stress
5. Miss out on activities
6. Balance a school load with a high GPA
7. Perform in front of 60 coaches at showcases
8. Battle kids who were bigger,faster, stronger
9. Deal with being cut from a top team at a young age
10. Spark college interest
11. Have hour long conversations with college coaches in her room.
12. Deal with a recruiter staring at her knowing she's not playing well.
13. Get lectured by her coach
14. Weigh offers that could impact the next 60 years of her life.
15. Make a choice and commit

My kid got herself recruited - I just helped in the facilitation.

Parents - there is nothing wrong with helping your kids - just don't get in the way and try to take over. Coaches are recruting the player - not you - if you send off bad vibes you can hurt your kids chances.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been through the entire process and have a scholarship athlete.

1. You are the biggest advocate for your kid. Your 15-17 year old player has no real world experience. Understand your kids talent level and have real conversations with them to identify the approopraite program where they may want to go to school and play. Only YOU and your KID can answer that question.

2. ECNL is the top league for girls. What it shows the college is that you're kid is able to compete at a level that acts as the main player pool for D1 players. It allows colleges to properly evaluate you player.

3. However, ECNL will not get your kid recruited. Your kid will get themselves recruited by contacting the appropriate school and performing well info front of them when the spotlight is on.

4. The college coach will contact your club coach before the reach out you. If your coach doesn't vouch for your kid (behavior issues, etc.) it's over.

In summary - most important thing to do is have an HONEST conversation based on Academic and Athletic talent and then start emailing the coaches. Get on their radar staring 8th and 9th grade.



3.

Thank you! that is helpful. Even in the 8th grade? Are the ID camps at targeted schools worth it?

I ever felt that random ID camps got my kid on anyones radar. - it may be fun to attend for experience - but to get recruited, your player needs to be evaluated multiple times to show their true level.

The only ID camps I thought were meaningful where the ones where the college coaches reached out to our club coach and showed interest. That meant that they saw my kid at a showcase (or highlight video) and liked what they saw. I then used the ID camp as a second opportunity to be seen and evaluated.

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

We emailed and showed interest to over 40 schools. We made at least 4 highlight videos

Cast a big net. But first and foremost - Have an HONEST discussion and identify the schools! It has to start there. Then stay in constant contact with updates. You want them to know your kids name.

Good stuff! I''l be using this as a blueprint!

This is not a blueprint, it's very helpful but 100% POV of a parent vs. player. The Juxtaposition between 'her' vs. I is cringy.

Adults using the word "Gringy" is "Gringy" - log off your TicTok account and rejoin the rest of us.

Parents - take a very active role behind the scenes to assist in getting your kid recruited. Do not rely on anyone else.

So at what point in the process did your kid actually do herself? What did she actually learn about composing and sending emails and maintaining communication with coaches?

Will you do this for her jobs too?

Glad you asked -

Here is what I did to assist my teenager in the process:

1. I taught her about colleges and the many different options available
2. I learned about her interest and life desires
4. I helped build a list of colleges
5. I helped gather a list of emails
6 I helped draft an introductory letter
7. I helped make the highlight video
8. I taught her about debt
9. I paid The club fees
10. I drove her to practices and games
11. I made showcases the family vacations.

Here is What she did -

1. Play soccer since the age of 6
2. Train 4 times a week since the age of 9
3. Play ten months out of the year since 13
4. Batltle and overcome injuries and stress
5. Miss out on activities
6. Balance a school load with a high GPA
7. Perform in front of 60 coaches at showcases
8. Battle kids who were bigger,faster, stronger
9. Deal with being cut from a top team at a young age
10. Spark college interest
11. Have hour long conversations with college coaches in her room.
12. Deal with a recruiter staring at her knowing she's not playing well.
13. Get lectured by her coach
14. Weigh offers that could impact the next 60 years of her life.
15. Make a choice and commit

My kid got herself recruited - I just helped in the facilitation.

Parents - there is nothing wrong with helping your kids - just don't get in the way and try to take over. Coaches are recruting the player - not you - if you send off bad vibes you can hurt your kids chances.

Who wrote the emails and made the videos?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been through the entire process and have a scholarship athlete.

1. You are the biggest advocate for your kid. Your 15-17 year old player has no real world experience. Understand your kids talent level and have real conversations with them to identify the approopraite program where they may want to go to school and play. Only YOU and your KID can answer that question.

2. ECNL is the top league for girls. What it shows the college is that you're kid is able to compete at a level that acts as the main player pool for D1 players. It allows colleges to properly evaluate you player.

3. However, ECNL will not get your kid recruited. Your kid will get themselves recruited by contacting the appropriate school and performing well info front of them when the spotlight is on.

4. The college coach will contact your club coach before the reach out you. If your coach doesn't vouch for your kid (behavior issues, etc.) it's over.

In summary - most important thing to do is have an HONEST conversation based on Academic and Athletic talent and then start emailing the coaches. Get on their radar staring 8th and 9th grade.



3.

Thank you! that is helpful. Even in the 8th grade? Are the ID camps at targeted schools worth it?

I ever felt that random ID camps got my kid on anyones radar. - it may be fun to attend for experience - but to get recruited, your player needs to be evaluated multiple times to show their true level.

The only ID camps I thought were meaningful where the ones where the college coaches reached out to our club coach and showed interest. That meant that they saw my kid at a showcase (or highlight video) and liked what they saw. I then used the ID camp as a second opportunity to be seen and evaluated.

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

We emailed and showed interest to over 40 schools. We made at least 4 highlight videos

Cast a big net. But first and foremost - Have an HONEST discussion and identify the schools! It has to start there. Then stay in constant contact with updates. You want them to know your kids name.

Good stuff! I''l be using this as a blueprint!

This is not a blueprint, it's very helpful but 100% POV of a parent vs. player. The Juxtaposition between 'her' vs. I is cringy.

Adults using the word "Gringy" is "Gringy" - log off your TicTok account and rejoin the rest of us.

Parents - take a very active role behind the scenes to assist in getting your kid recruited. Do not rely on anyone else.

So at what point in the process did your kid actually do herself? What did she actually learn about composing and sending emails and maintaining communication with coaches?

Will you do this for her jobs too?

Glad you asked -

Here is what I did to assist my teenager in the process:

1. I taught her about colleges and the many different options available
2. I learned about her interest and life desires
4. I helped build a list of colleges
5. I helped gather a list of emails
6 I helped draft an introductory letter
7. I helped make the highlight video
8. I taught her about debt
9. I paid The club fees
10. I drove her to practices and games
11. I made showcases the family vacations.

Here is What she did -

1. Play soccer since the age of 6
2. Train 4 times a week since the age of 9
3. Play ten months out of the year since 13
4. Batltle and overcome injuries and stress
5. Miss out on activities
6. Balance a school load with a high GPA
7. Perform in front of 60 coaches at showcases
8. Battle kids who were bigger,faster, stronger
9. Deal with being cut from a top team at a young age
10. Spark college interest
11. Have hour long conversations with college coaches in her room.
12. Deal with a recruiter staring at her knowing she's not playing well.
13. Get lectured by her coach
14. Weigh offers that could impact the next 60 years of her life.
15. Make a choice and commit

My kid got herself recruited - I just helped in the facilitation.

Parents - there is nothing wrong with helping your kids - just don't get in the way and try to take over. Coaches are recruting the player - not you - if you send off bad vibes you can hurt your kids chances.

Who wrote the emails and made the videos?

We did - it's called teamwork. You have a lot to learn - but I'm sure you got it all figured out

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been through the entire process and have a scholarship athlete.

1. You are the biggest advocate for your kid. Your 15-17 year old player has no real world experience. Understand your kids talent level and have real conversations with them to identify the approopraite program where they may want to go to school and play. Only YOU and your KID can answer that question.

2. ECNL is the top league for girls. What it shows the college is that you're kid is able to compete at a level that acts as the main player pool for D1 players. It allows colleges to properly evaluate you player.

3. However, ECNL will not get your kid recruited. Your kid will get themselves recruited by contacting the appropriate school and performing well info front of them when the spotlight is on.

4. The college coach will contact your club coach before the reach out you. If your coach doesn't vouch for your kid (behavior issues, etc.) it's over.

In summary - most important thing to do is have an HONEST conversation based on Academic and Athletic talent and then start emailing the coaches. Get on their radar staring 8th and 9th grade.



3.

Thank you! that is helpful. Even in the 8th grade? Are the ID camps at targeted schools worth it?

I ever felt that random ID camps got my kid on anyones radar. - it may be fun to attend for experience - but to get recruited, your player needs to be evaluated multiple times to show their true level.

The only ID camps I thought were meaningful where the ones where the college coaches reached out to our club coach and showed interest. That meant that they saw my kid at a showcase (or highlight video) and liked what they saw. I then used the ID camp as a second opportunity to be seen and evaluated.

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

We emailed and showed interest to over 40 schools. We made at least 4 highlight videos

Cast a big net. But first and foremost - Have an HONEST discussion and identify the schools! It has to start there. Then stay in constant contact with updates. You want them to know your kids name.

Good stuff! I''l be using this as a blueprint!

This is not a blueprint, it's very helpful but 100% POV of a parent vs. player. The Juxtaposition between 'her' vs. I is cringy.

Adults using the word "Gringy" is "Gringy" - log off your TicTok account and rejoin the rest of us.

Parents - take a very active role behind the scenes to assist in getting your kid recruited. Do not rely on anyone else.

So at what point in the process did your kid actually do herself? What did she actually learn about composing and sending emails and maintaining communication with coaches?

Will you do this for her jobs too?

Glad you asked -

Here is what I did to assist my teenager in the process:

1. I taught her about colleges and the many different options available
2. I learned about her interest and life desires
4. I helped build a list of colleges
5. I helped gather a list of emails
6 I helped draft an introductory letter
7. I helped make the highlight video
8. I taught her about debt
9. I paid The club fees
10. I drove her to practices and games
11. I made showcases the family vacations.

Here is What she did -

1. Play soccer since the age of 6
2. Train 4 times a week since the age of 9
3. Play ten months out of the year since 13
4. Batltle and overcome injuries and stress
5. Miss out on activities
6. Balance a school load with a high GPA
7. Perform in front of 60 coaches at showcases
8. Battle kids who were bigger,faster, stronger
9. Deal with being cut from a top team at a young age
10. Spark college interest
11. Have hour long conversations with college coaches in her room.
12. Deal with a recruiter staring at her knowing she's not playing well.
13. Get lectured by her coach
14. Weigh offers that could impact the next 60 years of her life.
15. Make a choice and commit

My kid got herself recruited - I just helped in the facilitation.

Parents - there is nothing wrong with helping your kids - just don't get in the way and try to take over. Coaches are recruting the player - not you - if you send off bad vibes you can hurt your kids chances.

Who wrote the emails and made the videos?

We did - it's called teamwork. You have a lot to learn - but I'm sure you got it all figured out

You can see the confusion here can't you?:

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been through the entire process and have a scholarship athlete.

1. You are the biggest advocate for your kid. Your 15-17 year old player has no real world experience. Understand your kids talent level and have real conversations with them to identify the approopraite program where they may want to go to school and play. Only YOU and your KID can answer that question.

2. ECNL is the top league for girls. What it shows the college is that you're kid is able to compete at a level that acts as the main player pool for D1 players. It allows colleges to properly evaluate you player.

3. However, ECNL will not get your kid recruited. Your kid will get themselves recruited by contacting the appropriate school and performing well info front of them when the spotlight is on.

4. The college coach will contact your club coach before the reach out you. If your coach doesn't vouch for your kid (behavior issues, etc.) it's over.

In summary - most important thing to do is have an HONEST conversation based on Academic and Athletic talent and then start emailing the coaches. Get on their radar staring 8th and 9th grade.



3.

Thank you! that is helpful. Even in the 8th grade? Are the ID camps at targeted schools worth it?

I ever felt that random ID camps got my kid on anyones radar. - it may be fun to attend for experience - but to get recruited, your player needs to be evaluated multiple times to show their true level.

The only ID camps I thought were meaningful where the ones where the college coaches reached out to our club coach and showed interest. That meant that they saw my kid at a showcase (or highlight video) and liked what they saw. I then used the ID camp as a second opportunity to be seen and evaluated.

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

We emailed and showed interest to over 40 schools. We made at least 4 highlight videos

Cast a big net. But first and foremost - Have an HONEST discussion and identify the schools! It has to start there. Then stay in constant contact with updates. You want them to know your kids name.

Good stuff! I''l be using this as a blueprint!

This is not a blueprint, it's very helpful but 100% POV of a parent vs. player. The Juxtaposition between 'her' vs. I is cringy.

Adults using the word "Gringy" is "Gringy" - log off your TicTok account and rejoin the rest of us.

Parents - take a very active role behind the scenes to assist in getting your kid recruited. Do not rely on anyone else.

So at what point in the process did your kid actually do herself? What did she actually learn about composing and sending emails and maintaining communication with coaches?

Will you do this for her jobs too?

Glad you asked -

Here is what I did to assist my teenager in the process:

1. I taught her about colleges and the many different options available
2. I learned about her interest and life desires
4. I helped build a list of colleges
5. I helped gather a list of emails
6 I helped draft an introductory letter
7. I helped make the highlight video
8. I taught her about debt
9. I paid The club fees
10. I drove her to practices and games
11. I made showcases the family vacations.

Here is What she did -

1. Play soccer since the age of 6
2. Train 4 times a week since the age of 9
3. Play ten months out of the year since 13
4. Batltle and overcome injuries and stress
5. Miss out on activities
6. Balance a school load with a high GPA
7. Perform in front of 60 coaches at showcases
8. Battle kids who were bigger,faster, stronger
9. Deal with being cut from a top team at a young age
10. Spark college interest
11. Have hour long conversations with college coaches in her room.
12. Deal with a recruiter staring at her knowing she's not playing well.
13. Get lectured by her coach
14. Weigh offers that could impact the next 60 years of her life.
15. Make a choice and commit

My kid got herself recruited - I just helped in the facilitation.

Parents - there is nothing wrong with helping your kids - just don't get in the way and try to take over. Coaches are recruting the player - not you - if you send off bad vibes you can hurt your kids chances.

Who wrote the emails and made the videos?

We did - it's called teamwork. You have a lot to learn - but I'm sure you got it all figured out

You can see the confusion here can't you?:

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

Perhaps you misunderstood the fact that I'm not trying to convince you - do what you want - how you want - when you want - with whomever you want. That's your businesss - not mine.

I will end with this - everyone is helped by someone at some point - to include you. Parents must take an active role in recruting.

The recruting process is like a job search - identify the companies - prepare and submit the resume - wait be contacted

The applicant then needs to walk in on their own and showcase at the interview.

But it all starts with adults showing them how to get their foot in the door.

This isn't the 80s - a random college degree is no longer a ticket to upward mobility - helping your kid obtain a marketable degree with little to no debt is important so they can achieve finacial independence and stability. Sometimes soccer is a tool to help them achieve that goal.

There is a lot of money out there. Play your cards right and maybe you can grab a big chuck of your financial responsibility. Maybe you can take those savings and apply it to grad school.

Or maybe you will pay 120,000 out of pocket for an undergraduate degree and then another 50,000 for a masters and pay 300 a month for the next 20 years.

I've worked with many young adults in massive debt who all wish they received better guidance.

College must be an asset and not a liability.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been through the entire process and have a scholarship athlete.

1. You are the biggest advocate for your kid. Your 15-17 year old player has no real world experience. Understand your kids talent level and have real conversations with them to identify the approopraite program where they may want to go to school and play. Only YOU and your KID can answer that question.

2. ECNL is the top league for girls. What it shows the college is that you're kid is able to compete at a level that acts as the main player pool for D1 players. It allows colleges to properly evaluate you player.

3. However, ECNL will not get your kid recruited. Your kid will get themselves recruited by contacting the appropriate school and performing well info front of them when the spotlight is on.

4. The college coach will contact your club coach before the reach out you. If your coach doesn't vouch for your kid (behavior issues, etc.) it's over.

In summary - most important thing to do is have an HONEST conversation based on Academic and Athletic talent and then start emailing the coaches. Get on their radar staring 8th and 9th grade.



3.

Thank you! that is helpful. Even in the 8th grade? Are the ID camps at targeted schools worth it?

I ever felt that random ID camps got my kid on anyones radar. - it may be fun to attend for experience - but to get recruited, your player needs to be evaluated multiple times to show their true level.

The only ID camps I thought were meaningful where the ones where the college coaches reached out to our club coach and showed interest. That meant that they saw my kid at a showcase (or highlight video) and liked what they saw. I then used the ID camp as a second opportunity to be seen and evaluated.

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

We emailed and showed interest to over 40 schools. We made at least 4 highlight videos

Cast a big net. But first and foremost - Have an HONEST discussion and identify the schools! It has to start there. Then stay in constant contact with updates. You want them to know your kids name.

Good stuff! I''l be using this as a blueprint!

This is not a blueprint, it's very helpful but 100% POV of a parent vs. player. The Juxtaposition between 'her' vs. I is cringy.

Adults using the word "Gringy" is "Gringy" - log off your TicTok account and rejoin the rest of us.

Parents - take a very active role behind the scenes to assist in getting your kid recruited. Do not rely on anyone else.

So at what point in the process did your kid actually do herself? What did she actually learn about composing and sending emails and maintaining communication with coaches?

Will you do this for her jobs too?

Glad you asked -

Here is what I did to assist my teenager in the process:

1. I taught her about colleges and the many different options available
2. I learned about her interest and life desires
4. I helped build a list of colleges
5. I helped gather a list of emails
6 I helped draft an introductory letter
7. I helped make the highlight video
8. I taught her about debt
9. I paid The club fees
10. I drove her to practices and games
11. I made showcases the family vacations.

Here is What she did -

1. Play soccer since the age of 6
2. Train 4 times a week since the age of 9
3. Play ten months out of the year since 13
4. Batltle and overcome injuries and stress
5. Miss out on activities
6. Balance a school load with a high GPA
7. Perform in front of 60 coaches at showcases
8. Battle kids who were bigger,faster, stronger
9. Deal with being cut from a top team at a young age
10. Spark college interest
11. Have hour long conversations with college coaches in her room.
12. Deal with a recruiter staring at her knowing she's not playing well.
13. Get lectured by her coach
14. Weigh offers that could impact the next 60 years of her life.
15. Make a choice and commit

My kid got herself recruited - I just helped in the facilitation.

Parents - there is nothing wrong with helping your kids - just don't get in the way and try to take over. Coaches are recruting the player - not you - if you send off bad vibes you can hurt your kids chances.

Who wrote the emails and made the videos?

We did - it's called teamwork. You have a lot to learn - but I'm sure you got it all figured out

You can see the confusion here can't you?:

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

Perhaps you misunderstood the fact that I'm not trying to convince you - do what you want - how you want - when you want - with whomever you want. That's your businesss - not mine.

I will end with this - everyone is helped by someone at some point - to include you. Parents must take an active role in recruting.

The recruting process is like a job search - identify the companies - prepare and submit the resume - wait be contacted

The applicant then needs to walk in on their own and showcase at the interview.

But it all starts with adults showing them how to get their foot in the door.

This isn't the 80s - a random college degree is no longer a ticket to upward mobility - helping your kid obtain a marketable degree with little to no debt is important so they can achieve finacial independence and stability. Sometimes soccer is a tool to help them achieve that goal.

There is a lot of money out there. Play your cards right and maybe you can grab a big chuck of your financial responsibility. Maybe you can take those savings and apply it to grad school.

Or maybe you will pay 120,000 out of pocket for an undergraduate degree and then another 50,000 for a masters and pay 300 a month for the next 20 years.

I've worked with many young adults in massive debt who all wish they received better guidance.

College must be an asset and not a liability.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been through the entire process and have a scholarship athlete.

1. You are the biggest advocate for your kid. Your 15-17 year old player has no real world experience. Understand your kids talent level and have real conversations with them to identify the approopraite program where they may want to go to school and play. Only YOU and your KID can answer that question.

2. ECNL is the top league for girls. What it shows the college is that you're kid is able to compete at a level that acts as the main player pool for D1 players. It allows colleges to properly evaluate you player.

3. However, ECNL will not get your kid recruited. Your kid will get themselves recruited by contacting the appropriate school and performing well info front of them when the spotlight is on.

4. The college coach will contact your club coach before the reach out you. If your coach doesn't vouch for your kid (behavior issues, etc.) it's over.

In summary - most important thing to do is have an HONEST conversation based on Academic and Athletic talent and then start emailing the coaches. Get on their radar staring 8th and 9th grade.



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Thank you! that is helpful. Even in the 8th grade? Are the ID camps at targeted schools worth it?

I ever felt that random ID camps got my kid on anyones radar. - it may be fun to attend for experience - but to get recruited, your player needs to be evaluated multiple times to show their true level.

The only ID camps I thought were meaningful where the ones where the college coaches reached out to our club coach and showed interest. That meant that they saw my kid at a showcase (or highlight video) and liked what they saw. I then used the ID camp as a second opportunity to be seen and evaluated.

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

We emailed and showed interest to over 40 schools. We made at least 4 highlight videos

Cast a big net. But first and foremost - Have an HONEST discussion and identify the schools! It has to start there. Then stay in constant contact with updates. You want them to know your kids name.

Good stuff! I''l be using this as a blueprint!

This is not a blueprint, it's very helpful but 100% POV of a parent vs. player. The Juxtaposition between 'her' vs. I is cringy.

Adults using the word "Gringy" is "Gringy" - log off your TicTok account and rejoin the rest of us.

Parents - take a very active role behind the scenes to assist in getting your kid recruited. Do not rely on anyone else.

So at what point in the process did your kid actually do herself? What did she actually learn about composing and sending emails and maintaining communication with coaches?

Will you do this for her jobs too?

Glad you asked -

Here is what I did to assist my teenager in the process:

1. I taught her about colleges and the many different options available
2. I learned about her interest and life desires
4. I helped build a list of colleges
5. I helped gather a list of emails
6 I helped draft an introductory letter
7. I helped make the highlight video
8. I taught her about debt
9. I paid The club fees
10. I drove her to practices and games
11. I made showcases the family vacations.

Here is What she did -

1. Play soccer since the age of 6
2. Train 4 times a week since the age of 9
3. Play ten months out of the year since 13
4. Batltle and overcome injuries and stress
5. Miss out on activities
6. Balance a school load with a high GPA
7. Perform in front of 60 coaches at showcases
8. Battle kids who were bigger,faster, stronger
9. Deal with being cut from a top team at a young age
10. Spark college interest
11. Have hour long conversations with college coaches in her room.
12. Deal with a recruiter staring at her knowing she's not playing well.
13. Get lectured by her coach
14. Weigh offers that could impact the next 60 years of her life.
15. Make a choice and commit

My kid got herself recruited - I just helped in the facilitation.

Parents - there is nothing wrong with helping your kids - just don't get in the way and try to take over. Coaches are recruting the player - not you - if you send off bad vibes you can hurt your kids chances.

Who wrote the emails and made the videos?

We did - it's called teamwork. You have a lot to learn - but I'm sure you got it all figured out

You can see the confusion here can't you?:

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

Perhaps you misunderstood the fact that I'm not trying to convince you - do what you want - how you want - when you want - with whomever you want. That's your businesss - not mine.

I will end with this - everyone is helped by someone at some point - to include you. Parents must take an active role in recruting.

The recruting process is like a job search - identify the companies - prepare and submit the resume - wait be contacted

The applicant then needs to walk in on their own and showcase at the interview.

But it all starts with adults showing them how to get their foot in the door.

This isn't the 80s - a random college degree is no longer a ticket to upward mobility - helping your kid obtain a marketable degree with little to no debt is important so they can achieve finacial independence and stability. Sometimes soccer is a tool to help them achieve that goal.

There is a lot of money out there. Play your cards right and maybe you can grab a big chuck of your financial responsibility. Maybe you can take those savings and apply it to grad school.

Or maybe you will pay 120,000 out of pocket for an undergraduate degree and then another 50,000 for a masters and pay 300 a month for the next 20 years.

I've worked with many young adults in massive debt who all wish they received better guidance.

College must be an asset and not a liability.

I simply asked at what stage your DD started writing her own emails to college coaches.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been through the entire process and have a scholarship athlete.

1. You are the biggest advocate for your kid. Your 15-17 year old player has no real world experience. Understand your kids talent level and have real conversations with them to identify the approopraite program where they may want to go to school and play. Only YOU and your KID can answer that question.

2. ECNL is the top league for girls. What it shows the college is that you're kid is able to compete at a level that acts as the main player pool for D1 players. It allows colleges to properly evaluate you player.

3. However, ECNL will not get your kid recruited. Your kid will get themselves recruited by contacting the appropriate school and performing well info front of them when the spotlight is on.

4. The college coach will contact your club coach before the reach out you. If your coach doesn't vouch for your kid (behavior issues, etc.) it's over.

In summary - most important thing to do is have an HONEST conversation based on Academic and Athletic talent and then start emailing the coaches. Get on their radar staring 8th and 9th grade.



3.

Thank you! that is helpful. Even in the 8th grade? Are the ID camps at targeted schools worth it?

I ever felt that random ID camps got my kid on anyones radar. - it may be fun to attend for experience - but to get recruited, your player needs to be evaluated multiple times to show their true level.

The only ID camps I thought were meaningful where the ones where the college coaches reached out to our club coach and showed interest. That meant that they saw my kid at a showcase (or highlight video) and liked what they saw. I then used the ID camp as a second opportunity to be seen and evaluated.

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

We emailed and showed interest to over 40 schools. We made at least 4 highlight videos

Cast a big net. But first and foremost - Have an HONEST discussion and identify the schools! It has to start there. Then stay in constant contact with updates. You want them to know your kids name.

Good stuff! I''l be using this as a blueprint!

This is not a blueprint, it's very helpful but 100% POV of a parent vs. player. The Juxtaposition between 'her' vs. I is cringy.

Adults using the word "Gringy" is "Gringy" - log off your TicTok account and rejoin the rest of us.

Parents - take a very active role behind the scenes to assist in getting your kid recruited. Do not rely on anyone else.

So at what point in the process did your kid actually do herself? What did she actually learn about composing and sending emails and maintaining communication with coaches?

Will you do this for her jobs too?

Glad you asked -

Here is what I did to assist my teenager in the process:

1. I taught her about colleges and the many different options available
2. I learned about her interest and life desires
4. I helped build a list of colleges
5. I helped gather a list of emails
6 I helped draft an introductory letter
7. I helped make the highlight video
8. I taught her about debt
9. I paid The club fees
10. I drove her to practices and games
11. I made showcases the family vacations.

Here is What she did -

1. Play soccer since the age of 6
2. Train 4 times a week since the age of 9
3. Play ten months out of the year since 13
4. Batltle and overcome injuries and stress
5. Miss out on activities
6. Balance a school load with a high GPA
7. Perform in front of 60 coaches at showcases
8. Battle kids who were bigger,faster, stronger
9. Deal with being cut from a top team at a young age
10. Spark college interest
11. Have hour long conversations with college coaches in her room.
12. Deal with a recruiter staring at her knowing she's not playing well.
13. Get lectured by her coach
14. Weigh offers that could impact the next 60 years of her life.
15. Make a choice and commit

My kid got herself recruited - I just helped in the facilitation.

Parents - there is nothing wrong with helping your kids - just don't get in the way and try to take over. Coaches are recruting the player - not you - if you send off bad vibes you can hurt your kids chances.

Who wrote the emails and made the videos?

We did - it's called teamwork. You have a lot to learn - but I'm sure you got it all figured out

You can see the confusion here can't you?:

Her 8th grade year - I put together a highlight video and emailed it to every college we identified based on her academic and athletic talent level.
Her 9th grade year - I emailed them a new highlight video and showcase schedule
Her 10th grade year - I did the same thing and attend the ID camps of schools interested
Her 11th grade year - Committed

Perhaps you misunderstood the fact that I'm not trying to convince you - do what you want - how you want - when you want - with whomever you want. That's your businesss - not mine.

I will end with this - everyone is helped by someone at some point - to include you. Parents must take an active role in recruting.

The recruting process is like a job search - identify the companies - prepare and submit the resume - wait be contacted

The applicant then needs to walk in on their own and showcase at the interview.

But it all starts with adults showing them how to get their foot in the door.

This isn't the 80s - a random college degree is no longer a ticket to upward mobility - helping your kid obtain a marketable degree with little to no debt is important so they can achieve finacial independence and stability. Sometimes soccer is a tool to help them achieve that goal.

There is a lot of money out there. Play your cards right and maybe you can grab a big chuck of your financial responsibility. Maybe you can take those savings and apply it to grad school.

Or maybe you will pay 120,000 out of pocket for an undergraduate degree and then another 50,000 for a masters and pay 300 a month for the next 20 years.

I've worked with many young adults in massive debt who all wish they received better guidance.

College must be an asset and not a liability.

anonimouswon wrote:At showcases/tournaments, college coaches know talent whether the player is on a winning or losing team. That's why you see even B team players being recruited because a college coach may have a need for a certain type of player.

I've seen A team players who aren't the stars of the team get recruited to college over star players because they are technical, athletic, have a high soccer IQ and fit the teams style of play.

I've seen star players get passed over because they have no soccer IQ or know how to play team soccer.

Some of it is luck and timing too. A coach might be looking for a certain player and your kid might be what the team needs at that time. If your kid is interested in a particular college you should begin to attend those college summer soccer camps and do what you can to get on that college coach's radar.

Ultimately, college coaches can spot talent when they see it so if your kid is playing in showcases/tournaments college coaches are already looking at them.