Clarification from original poster:
First I want to thank the parents for their extremely helpful responses. We had never heard of FERPA until now; and taping the meeting is a brilliant idea that I had not thought of. That said, we are directly in the triennial review of the IEP. He has had one since kindergarten.
The main problem is that although I submitted a detailed list of multiple errors in writing during the IEP meeting, the school resubmitted the IEP to me with minimal or incorrect changes and the key errors where not corrected. Here are some of the errors:
-His strengths in writing and reading and 'proficiency ratings' were selectively reported in the current IEP to highlight the ‘average’ to ‘top of low average scores,’ while the significantly low scores and deficits confirmed in the educational testing were excluded
-Despite deficits in phonological processing, blending, decoding, phonological memory, phonological awareness, reading fluency and comprehension of complex sentences, and spelling, Writing conventions etc.he has maintained proficient reading and writing scores, so they are essentially discounting the problem and not listing the findings of the testing
Of course no services are being offered because he is getting "P"s
-So we are wondering if it is worth fighting to set the records straight now or will this 3rd grade IEP become moot if he spends two years in private school and then we request an IEP team meeting to consider entrance into the GTLD middle school.
Would appreciate your thoughts again. Thank you