Anonymous wrote:I always leave the room when I’m talking to my mom. My DH doesn’t care. You sound a bit controlling and transparency is not always a good thing. Let your poor husband breath. I’m extremely close to my grown son and we talk everyday. I wouldn’t be too thrilled with his wife if she made him feel uncomfortable with this .

Well it sounds like you have some boundary issues with your son. Everydat how about taking your own advice and let your grown son breathe. Also you say you wouldn't be happy if your sons wife gave gim a hard time well what goes on in their marriage is not your business. Also why would transparency not be a good thing? Part of a marriage is being transparent. If my husband talked to his mom everyday I wohld feel like he didn't fully cut the cord. Also why wouldn't you wanna talk to your DIL? Isn't she family as well.

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soexcited123 wrote:

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soexcited123 wrote:My husband and I have been married for 2 years now. We dated 8 years before that and lived together for 5 years. Each time his mother calls he leaves the room. I find that odd. I would totally get it if we had company over because it could be loud in that case but we don't have any children it's literally just me. My one friend thinks it could be that he wants to confide in private about something to his mom. But what would a grown man want to tell mommy that they couldn't tell their own wife? If his was telling his mom things about himself he couldn't tell his own wife I wouldnquestion his trust in me and I would think we would have communication issues. Help me figure this out because IMO you should be able to feel 1000% comfortable in front of your own spouse.

This is your typical inappropriate mother son relationship. Beware, OP, if you have your own son some day.

Yeah I pretty much told him it was weird he feels the need to keep convos between him and his mom secret. I feel a certain type of way.

His mother has been fostering this since he was born. He doesn't know anything else. This is not good for your marriage. You are basically is a three-way relationship. Do you have children?

No i don't have children. Im confused whose side are you on? I cant follow your posts.

It sounds like you have some boundary issues with your son. Also you say you wouldn't be thrilled with his wife. Well isn't what goes on in their marriage not your business. Also why wouldn't you wanna include your DIL in your conversations she is part of the family. I wouldn't be thrilled if I was your mil

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soexcited123 wrote:My husband and I have been married for 2 years now. We dated 8 years before that and lived together for 5 years. Each time his mother calls he leaves the room. I find that odd. I would totally get it if we had company over because it could be loud in that case but we don't have any children it's literally just me. My one friend thinks it could be that he wants to confide in private about something to his mom. But what would a grown man want to tell mommy that they couldn't tell their own wife? If his was telling his mom things about himself he couldn't tell his own wife I wouldnquestion his trust in me and I would think we would have communication issues. Help me figure this out because IMO you should be able to feel 1000% comfortable in front of your own spouse.

This is your typical inappropriate mother son relationship. Beware, OP, if you have your own son some day.

Yeah I pretty much told him it was weird he feels the need to keep convos between him and his mom secret. I feel a certain type of way.

But why do you guys feel weird about talking to your family in front of your own spouse? Again it's about being transparent in a relationship. If my husband told his family things he couldn't tell me that would be odd. To address the answer some people gave such as the other party not beinf aware other people can hear if someone is married I assume they are probably in the same room so I act accordingly. Not to mention if im married we are all family why would my in laws tells my husband something and expect him not to tell me? A little odd. When my dad's mom called growing up he never left the room because there weren't secrets and my mom spoke to her mil also. Shouldn't the husband be including his wife in his conversations with his mom after all its her family now too.

My husband and I have been married for 2 years now. We dated 8 years before that and lived together for 5 years. Each time his mother calls he leaves the room. I find that odd. I would totally get it if we had company over because it could be loud in that case but we don't have any children it's literally just me. My one friend thinks it could be that he wants to confide in private about something to his mom. But what would a grown man want to tell mommy that they couldn't tell their own wife? If his was telling his mom things about himself he couldn't tell his own wife I wouldnquestion his trust in me and I would think we would have communication issues. Help me figure this out because IMO you should be able to feel 1000% comfortable in front of your own spouse.