So your father who was a good man had an affair, and you now have no relationship with him??

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YHL wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can one of the other posters having an affair weigh and say why? Basically the OP is giving no information - just sparse yes/no responses and refuses to give any insight on why she is doing it or the real experience of it. This is why this thread is not great. I think it's obvious because other posters are weighing in to try and fill it out with their experiences. Can another poster having an affair either start their own thread or just take up this thread. The OP is boring and doing herself a disservice. I think is probably a troll.

I'm having an affair because something was missing. I begged for years for my soon to be ex husband to give me time and intimacy. Not just sex. For years my sex life consisted of him doing his thing on top of me,rolling over and going to sleep. I tried lingerie, costumes,games. He would rather be on his playstation all day. I just got tired of begging for affection. Now I don't have to.
That's the funny thing about affairs. Now that I pay no attention to him, he wants to spend time with me.

That's interesting and seems unfortunately a big part of why affairs seem to happen. Do you have kids at home? Can you say a bit more about the change in the dynamic of your home?

I don't have any children. A lot has happened since I started my affair. I no longer take his crap, or his insults. I no longer feel stuck.
I start fights on purpose so I can get away. Anytime he makes me mad I tell him I'm sleeping elsewhere because he has made me so angry.
He's always trying to smooth things over now. Where as before when we would fight I would do the begging and the pleading. He's scream at me literally 5 inches from my face, and I would just cry. Last time he yelled at me, I told him if he ever laid a finger on me again I'd kill him in his sleep.

Anonymous wrote:You know it is likely that he'll eventually go back to her, right?

I doubt it. They have been seperated for almost 2 years now, and I think she suspects he's seeing someone.

Anonymous wrote:Is she a friend of yours?

No, I've never met her.

Anonymous wrote:pics

no.

Anonymous wrote:How do you know they are really separated? How will you feel when they get back together?

They don't live together, I've been to his place. If they get back together I'll miss him. I doubt they will though. I'm hotter than she is and 11 yrs younger than her.

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever feel bad?

For the wife? No. I feel sad for myself occasionally when he is with her and I can't get a hold of him.
Or if she is bragging about a new Gucci bag he bought her on facebook.

Anonymous wrote:Can one of the other posters having an affair weigh and say why? Basically the OP is giving no information - just sparse yes/no responses and refuses to give any insight on why she is doing it or the real experience of it. This is why this thread is not great. I think it's obvious because other posters are weighing in to try and fill it out with their experiences. Can another poster having an affair either start their own thread or just take up this thread. The OP is boring and doing herself a disservice. I think is probably a troll.

I'm having an affair because something was missing. I begged for years for my soon to be ex husband to give me time and intimacy. Not just sex. For years my sex life consisted of him doing his thing on top of me,rolling over and going to sleep. I tried lingerie, costumes,games. He would rather be on his playstation all day. I just got tired of begging for affection. Now I don't have to.
That's the funny thing about affairs. Now that I pay no attention to him, he wants to spend time with me.

I now have a name, I'm not the pp with warts.