Is there something going on with my SO and his ex fling?

[Anonymous]

Backstory:

I was previously in a 2 year relationship with my current boyfriend. We broke up a year ago because he got let go due to Covid and he fell into a deep depression and I’m an ER nurse. Between his depression and COVID wearing me down at work we decided it was better that he get therapy and focus on his mental health. We got back together 3 months ago.

Things have been going really well - obviously it’s the honeymoon stage all over again. Anyways, I ran into an old college friend and we decided to catch up over coffee. She wanted to see pics of my boyfriend. There was one really nice picture of him that he was tagged in with a group of friends that I wanted to show her. Now, this group picture was taken by his ex FWB. I noticed that I couldn’t find the picture and thought it was odd. I asked my friend to check with her account to see if she could still see the tagged photo(s). I realized I was blocked by his ex FWB. Now, he told me when we had gotten back together that he had been seeing someone for about 4 months casually. I asked him what happened and he told me she wanted a relationship, he didn’t, and she’s too immature for him (she’s 8 years younger).

Last week he mentioned that she started liking his pictures again although they are no longer friends on social media because she initially had blocked him. I’m assuming she unblocked him? Okay, no biggie, he can’t help what she does. So, again they aren’t friends on social media but she blocked me and not him (her likes still appeared when my friend looked on her page). She’s unblocked and reblocked me which is weird too. I tried to not think about it because it’s stupid social media.

I met up with the same college friend again this afternoon for lunch and she asked if I was still blocked by the FWB. I told her yes that she had blocked and unblocked me repeatedly. She said “hmmm”. I asked her what was that for and she said she saw that the ex FWB posted today “why do I miss him? 🤦🏻‍♀️“.

This seems so silly to even think about but I can’t help but think this is odd. Why is she blocking, unblocking me, reblocking me, not blocking him again, and posting that she misses him?

Am I overthinking or is there something going on with them?

[Anonymous]

My initial thought is that the ex-fwb has checked your social media many times, because she can't let go of obsession with your bf, and wanted to stop doing that, so she blocked you. THEN she lost her resolve, and unblocked so she could take another look. Right? Doesn't mean your bf has done anything to encourage this.

[Anonymous]

Idtso. I wouldn't waste too much energy on it though. I'm not sure your age but at some point people will be with someone if they want to. They aren't together but I'd guess they probably hooked up at some point while you weren't together. If he wanted to be with her he would be.

Just focus on building the new. Life is short.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My initial thought is that the ex-fwb has checked your social media many times, because she can't let go of obsession with your bf, and wanted to stop doing that, so she blocked you. THEN she lost her resolve, and unblocked so she could take another look. Right? Doesn't mean your bf has done anything to encourage this.

+1

[Anonymous]

They’re still banging

[Anonymous]

I think she's looking for attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My initial thought is that the ex-fwb has checked your social media many times, because she can't let go of obsession with your bf, and wanted to stop doing that, so she blocked you. THEN she lost her resolve, and unblocked so she could take another look. Right? Doesn't mean your bf has done anything to encourage this.

Hmm I see. Then why not block him as well if she wanted to get a reign on her obsession?

[Anonymous]

Your BF needs to block her, remove her, whatever. They need to have zero interaction on social media. He needs to cut her out if he wants you to trust him. His fault for messing with that immature girl.

[Anonymous]

Was this person your friend on Facebook?

I would think she is pissed he chose you over here and she doesn’t want to keep visiting your page.

I think it is odd that you care about this.

[Anonymous]

I understand how you can tell she had you blocked, but how could you tell she was unblocking, then reblocking, etc? You don't get notified, so I'm curious how you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your BF needs to block her, remove her, whatever. They need to have zero interaction on social media. He needs to cut her out if he wants you to trust him. His fault for messing with that immature girl.

He can’t help that she’s blocking, unblocking, rinse and repeat with OP. He also can’t help what she posts on her own page. He’s not friends with her on social media either, so he’s not interacting with her. There’s only but so much the boyfriend can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand how you can tell she had you blocked, but how could you tell she was unblocking, then reblocking, etc? You don't get notified, so I'm curious how you know.

My younger sister’s former best friend would block and unblock her all the time. I could always tell what was going on because the photos would disappear then reappear. I’m assuming that’s how OP knows too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand how you can tell she had you blocked, but how could you tell she was unblocking, then reblocking, etc? You don't get notified, so I'm curious how you know.

My younger sister’s former best friend would block and unblock her all the time. I could always tell what was going on because the photos would disappear then reappear. I’m assuming that’s how OP knows too.

Meaning OP is repeatedly checking out this girl's page?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Backstory:

I was previously in a 2 year relationship with my current boyfriend. We broke up a year ago because he got let go due to Covid and he fell into a deep depression and I’m an ER nurse. Between his depression and COVID wearing me down at work we decided it was better that he get therapy and focus on his mental health. We got back together 3 months ago.

Things have been going really well - obviously it’s the honeymoon stage all over again. Anyways, I ran into an old college friend and we decided to catch up over coffee. She wanted to see pics of my boyfriend. There was one really nice picture of him that he was tagged in with a group of friends that I wanted to show her. Now, this group picture was taken by his ex FWB. I noticed that I couldn’t find the picture and thought it was odd. I asked my friend to check with her account to see if she could still see the tagged photo(s). I realized I was blocked by his ex FWB. Now, he told me when we had gotten back together that he had been seeing someone for about 4 months casually. I asked him what happened and he told me she wanted a relationship, he didn’t, and she’s too immature for him (she’s 8 years younger).

Last week he mentioned that she started liking his pictures again although they are no longer friends on social media because she initially had blocked him. I’m assuming she unblocked him? Okay, no biggie, he can’t help what she does. So, again they aren’t friends on social media but she blocked me and not him (her likes still appeared when my friend looked on her page). She’s unblocked and reblocked me which is weird too. I tried to not think about it because it’s stupid social media.

I met up with the same college friend again this afternoon for lunch and she asked if I was still blocked by the FWB. I told her yes that she had blocked and unblocked me repeatedly. She said “hmmm”. I asked her what was that for and she said she saw that the ex FWB posted today “why do I miss him? 🤦🏻‍♀️“.

This seems so silly to even think about but I can’t help but think this is odd. Why is she blocking, unblocking me, reblocking me, not blocking him again, and posting that she misses him?

Am I overthinking or is there something going on with them?

Try harder not to think about it.

[Anonymous]

How old are you?