Do I just not deal with parenthood well?

[Anonymous]

After all day at work, picking up my toddler and infant from daycare, and getting dinner started, which is a typical week day for me, I just lost it tonight. Both my kids were screaming and whining non-stop, and when I went to grab a baking tray out of the oven- well, whoops, I completely forgot to use a potholder. I think I've got 2nd degree burns on most of my right hand (sigh). I sooo don't have this parenting thing down yet. Any chance that at some point before they leave for college (assuming my parenting skills aren't SO bad they end up in jail) that I just MIGHT feel like I'm halfway decent at this??!! Ugh, venting feels good....

[Anonymous]

Oh you poor thing, that must have killed!! Hey, there are many times when I hear and see myself getting so stressed out, and I feel embarrassed about what a bad mother I am, and think that if people saw how I lose it, they'd think really badly of me.

[Anonymous]

Well, you're clearly dealing pretty well if you chose to do it a second time. I truly don't deal well with it to the degree that I think I need stop at one

Either way, I hope you have a better day tomorrow!

[Anonymous]

For what it's worth - I gave myself those same burns recently (I picked a lid off of a pot that was in the oven.

Ice your hand.

[Anonymous]

Been there, done that - the witching hour at night is the worst - second is getting them out of the house in the morning. It will get better. Chin up.

[Anonymous]

I am sooooo sorry that happened!! I have had more burns since entering the world of parenthood than I ever had before and more sprains, etc. I swear there are days when I am sleep deprived and overworked and tantrum city is going on in my house and I just MUST vent. So please....vent away as much as you need!!!!

[Anonymous]

Hang in there OP, these are the hard years. You'll have some bad days that is for sure.

[Anonymous]

It does get easier! Our DD is 12 now. They become more self sufficient, and better listeners.

Now check back in with me when she's 13....

Hang in there!

[Anonymous]

No, doesn't sound like you handle it very well.

[Anonymous]

Ouch! Hope that you are ok! When you have a toddler and infant it is SO hard - especially at the end of the day. As they get older, it will get easier probably - it did for me. But that was after the night that I stuck my hand into the disposal without thinking when it was on because I was so distracted by what my two were up to and so tired- luckily I just got one small cut on a finger before I yanked my hand, but it really was an "oh $hit!" moment for me.

[Anonymous]

Ouch!

All these injuries on OP and PPs mean you need more sleep.

DH came back from work exhausted, dealt with pregnant me and misbehaving DS, and as a result dropped our pointiest and heaviest carving knife within a hair's breadth of his bare foot... phew.

Go to sleep instead of posting here

[Anonymous]

20:23 posting again...Agree with PP..Is there any way for you to get some much needed rest. When I am sleep deprived all the worst things happen and I can't handle anything. Any chance your workplace allows mental health days? Drop the kids off at daycare and then get some much needed rest. It would make you a better mom and worker to do something to take care of you! Thinking of you and hoping things get better soon!

[Anonymous]

Sorry Momma, been there done that. Take a break and get some rest. Maybe a mental health day from work while kids are in daycare. Maybe this weekend plan some crockpot meal or Trader Joes meals that are easy to get together. Again, so sorry and it does get easier in some ways (but harder in others).

Also, maybe your kids were having a hard day too, they are people just like us. They don't mean to make Momma crazy. They love you and just want some hugs. Take a deep breath and everything will be ok, I promise.

[Anonymous]

I only have one (toddler) and I do stupid crap all the time because I'm tired or distracted. Everyone does. The only reason I don't do *more* of it is because I've never required as much sleep as most people to function. Sleep deprivation is rough.

My friends with older kids SWEAR it gets easier. These are the hard years in terms of sleep/chaos. Eventually they'll be teenagers and you'll have new stuff to worry about, but I think infant+toddler classifies as "hard." (just try to remember what this is like in case you are tempted to have another infant when the current infant is a toddler, lol!)

[Anonymous]

Aww, OP, sorry you had a tough evening.

I only have one, and I sometimes lose it. People keep saying it gets better! Hang in there!