Nervous about get-together

[Anonymous]

Some wonderful acquaintances (friends from a previous job) are so supportive and excited for me as I have my second child.

Today was my due date, and I honestly expected the baby would have been born by now as my first was 1.5 weeks early.

Earlier in the summer they said they wanted to host a get-together (like a post-baby shower) and we settled on early September. I thought, "the baby will be at least a month old, that will be perfect!"

Now that I'm looking at the calendar and I feel like time is ticking... I feel nervous that if I go another week or two (I'm committed to doing my best to have a natural delivery again with midwives, even if that means going up to 42 weeks), that means the baby would be 2 weeks or 3 weeks old when they have the party... and there's no way I want to do that.

I remember my first was born the week before Thanksgiving and people wanted us to get together and I just wanted to... sleep.

What would you do?

[Anonymous]

I would ask to please postpone it by a full month due to the baby’s late arrival. They will understand.

[Anonymous]

Just tell them you need to reschedule, and you'll reach out after the baby is born when you have a better idea of when you can get together to show them the baby. Don't schedule anything now - who knows how you'll feel then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some wonderful acquaintances (friends from a previous job) are so supportive and excited for me as I have my second child.

Today was my due date, and I honestly expected the baby would have been born by now as my first was 1.5 weeks early.

Earlier in the summer they said they wanted to host a get-together (like a post-baby shower) and we settled on early September. I thought, "the baby will be at least a month old, that will be perfect!"

Now that I'm looking at the calendar and I feel like time is ticking... I feel nervous that if I go another week or two (I'm committed to doing my best to have a natural delivery again with midwives, even if that means going up to 42 weeks), that means the baby would be 2 weeks or 3 weeks old when they have the party... and there's no way I want to do that.

I remember my first was born the week before Thanksgiving and people wanted us to get together and I just wanted to... sleep.

What would you do?

An in person get together with a 2 week old at the height of the Delta spike?

No, you need to cancel.

[Anonymous]

RSV is going around right now and hospitals are seeing coinfections with covid in in babies. I would cancel.

[Anonymous]

Cancel. Do not reschedule. RSV and Covid are not friends of newborns.

[Anonymous]

OP here - thank you all. It's always hard to decline such well-meaning offers of help/celebration. I will politely inform them tomorrow that we should reschedule for October or later. That will provide me some relief. Delta of course is a concern as well.

Thank you all!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thank you all. It's always hard to decline such well-meaning offers of help/celebration. I will politely inform them tomorrow that we should reschedule for October or later. That will provide me some relief. Delta of course is a concern as well.

Thank you all!

Seems like the smart plan.