“I have always loved you”

[Anonymous]

Someone I used to be very much in love with resurfaced this summer and the feelings were all still there. We started writing and slowly lowering guard. Halfway through the summer he gets very bad news and goes dark. I message him once a week with his replies that he is too upset to talk. I message again including that I love him and miss him and he messages back that he regrets being in touch and won’t be for another couple of months. Ends with “I have always loved you.” This person chooses words carefully. I am assuming this means he is done and goodbye. I’m interpreting this correctly right? The whiplash has been pretty severe. I found the phrasing interesting, but I haven’t been broken up with that often maybe it’s just that I’m inexperienced.

[Anonymous]

What kind of bad news? Did he have a wife who found out about your messages?

[Anonymous]

Is this really what you want out of life?

[Anonymous]

He regrets being in touch. Move on.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP, it sounds like he is taken or otherwise unavailable for the kind of relationship you deserve. Let him go. Don't message him anymore. Don't respond to future messages from him. In fact, you should black him, rid him completely from your life. You deserve more than uncertainty and pieces of someone in a relationship.

Find someone who is available not just single, but emotionally available to be with you.

[Anonymous]

Gross.
You avoided a bullet OP.

[Anonymous]

He said he regrets being in touch. I am sorry this happened to you. He may have loved you in words but is not strong enough to love you in actions. It sucks. I know. I am really sorry. Do not reach out to him again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He literally said he regrets being in touch. Seems pretty obvious. next time, don't be a piece of trash and go after someone who is obviously taken.

I didn’t. He went after me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry OP, it sounds like he is taken or otherwise unavailable for the kind of relationship you deserve. Let him go. Don't message him anymore. Don't respond to future messages from him. In fact, you should black him, rid him completely from your life. You deserve more than uncertainty and pieces of someone in a relationship.

Find someone who is available not just single, but emotionally available to be with you.

I didn’t. I didn’t respond to that message and won’t contact him again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He literally said he regrets being in touch. Seems pretty obvious. next time, don't be a piece of trash and go after someone who is obviously taken.

I didn’t. He went after me.

Doesn't matter. You're a piece of trash for continuing to go after him. You've got no one to blame but yourself. Find out why you have such little self respect.

New poster here. How dare you make assumptions about someone like that? Stop bullying OP when you know nothing about her.

OP, I'm sorry, but I agree with the others that you dodged a bullet and you'll be happier in the long term when you find someone who is honest and trustworthy. Be strong. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He literally said he regrets being in touch. Seems pretty obvious. next time, don't be a piece of trash and go after someone who is obviously taken.

I didn’t. He went after me.

Doesn't matter. You're a piece of trash for continuing to go after him. You've got no one to blame but yourself. Find out why you have such little self respect.

In order to type this? It’s you that’s a piece of trash and has no self respect.

[Anonymous]

Hey Op. I wanted to say that I am in a similar situation and will honestly borrow some of these words. During the pandemic a former coworker and I started texting to keep in touch. And then it turned into a lot more. We never met up in person thank God, but it’s a whole mess. I do genuinely believe that we have a lot of love between us and we’re both stuck and dysfunctional marriage. But I regret being in communication with him. I know, it doesn’t matter if he reached out to you or you reached out to him. I deleted this person‘s contact information in my phone, which is stronger than blocking. When you block someone you can still see their number and reach out in a moment of weakness. My point is I never initiated contact with this other person. And I’m still responsible for the regret that I feel and the way that we both ruined our friendship. Finally, you are not trash. Half the women who pretend to be high and mighty on this forum have just not had someone express interest in them in a long time. Seems easy to resist until you are approached by someone you do care about

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey Op. I wanted to say that I am in a similar situation and will honestly borrow some of these words. During the pandemic a former coworker and I started texting to keep in touch. And then it turned into a lot more. We never met up in person thank God, but it’s a whole mess. I do genuinely believe that we have a lot of love between us and we’re both stuck and dysfunctional marriage. But I regret being in communication with him. I know, it doesn’t matter if he reached out to you or you reached out to him. I deleted this person‘s contact information in my phone, which is stronger than blocking. When you block someone you can still see their number and reach out in a moment of weakness. My point is I never initiated contact with this other person. And I’m still responsible for the regret that I feel and the way that we both ruined our friendship. Finally, you are not trash. Half the women who pretend to be high and mighty on this forum have just not had someone express interest in them in a long time. Seems easy to resist until you are approached by someone you do care about

Hi, thanks. Sorry for what you are going through. I haven't blocked him but I am definitely not calling or contacting him again. I can do it. I had his humble in my phone for 7 years and never used it, even though he contacted me once a year with an "I love you" -- I did not reply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey Op. I wanted to say that I am in a similar situation and will honestly borrow some of these words. During the pandemic a former coworker and I started texting to keep in touch. And then it turned into a lot more. We never met up in person thank God, but it’s a whole mess. I do genuinely believe that we have a lot of love between us and we’re both stuck and dysfunctional marriage. But I regret being in communication with him. I know, it doesn’t matter if he reached out to you or you reached out to him. I deleted this person‘s contact information in my phone, which is stronger than blocking. When you block someone you can still see their number and reach out in a moment of weakness. My point is I never initiated contact with this other person. And I’m still responsible for the regret that I feel and the way that we both ruined our friendship. Finally, you are not trash. Half the women who pretend to be high and mighty on this forum have just not had someone express interest in them in a long time. Seems easy to resist until you are approached by someone you do care about

Hi, thanks. Sorry for what you are going through. I haven't blocked him but I am definitely not calling or contacting him again. I can do it. I had his humble in my phone for 7 years and never used it, even though he contacted me once a year with an "I love you" -- I did not reply.

NP Eww... that is such a yucky move on his part. Men act on getting what they love and get comfort from those they love during times of stress. Others are right. You dodged a bullet. Good luck OP!

[Anonymous]

Is he married?