When is it too soon to say I love you?

[Anonymous]

How far into your relationship did you and your SO or spouse say I love you? Who said it first?

[Anonymous]

It should happen around 6 months.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea but we got engaged at nine months so sometime before then! My now husband was not good with words but his actions - and not just sex -were a very good signal.

[Anonymous]

Man here. Got together senior year of college. Went home together after a party in late November, were quickly an item, and I said it first. Pretty sure it was January.

[Anonymous]

It takes me about 6-7 months

[Anonymous]

This is kind oa silly question. I don't think there's any rule on this.

[Anonymous]

My now husband and I said it after a month. It’s been 15 years.

[Anonymous]

Different for everyone. Plus, each relationship is different. Friends who start dating may say it sooner since they know each other much better. Strangers dating it will take longer. But, there is no set time. It's about personal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Different for everyone. Plus, each relationship is different. Friends who start dating may say it sooner since they know each other much better. Strangers dating it will take longer. But, there is no set time. It's about personal.

and those in affairs say it incredibly quick because it is part of the 'acting'/limerence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different for everyone. Plus, each relationship is different. Friends who start dating may say it sooner since they know each other much better. Strangers dating it will take longer. But, there is no set time. It's about personal.

and those in affairs say it incredibly quick because it is part of the 'acting'/limerence.

Ha! from 'I love you' to radio silence/ghosting the minute the spouse catches on. Yes, true love

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It should happen around 6 months.

Not a bad yardstick. For me, anything earlier is really confusing it with infatuation/lust.

[Anonymous]

We had been very good friends for a few years before we got together so it didn’t take long but it was over 30 years ago so I can’t recall exactly. But I’m happy to say that we both still say it frequently. I think it happens when it happens and it’s best when it’s spontaneous and unplanned.

[Anonymous]

We said it to one another pretty soon, about 4 weeks in. That was 18 years ago.

[Anonymous]

How about when you start to feel love and you think they do to??

[Anonymous]

There is no timetable. You’ll say it when you really feel it and know it and believe the other person feels the same way. You may feel it in two weeks but it might be six months before you feel the other person feels the same way. Don’t say it unless you are confident that the other person feels the same way.