Embryos and divorce

[Anonymous]

Have any of you with frozen embryos gone through divorce? What became of your embryos if one party wanted to use and the other wanted to destroy? What if only the party that wants to use them is genetically connected? Hopefully not headed in this direction but curious nonetheless where the law stands on such things.

[Anonymous]

First step would be to look at what the papers you signed when freezing them said and what option you chose at that time - if I recall mine had some language about what happens in case of situations like that

[Anonymous]

https://people.com/tv/sofia-vergara-judge-rules-ex-nick-loeb-cant-use-embryos-without-consent/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have any of you with frozen embryos gone through divorce? What became of your embryos if one party wanted to use and the other wanted to destroy? What if only the party that wants to use them is genetically connected? Hopefully not headed in this direction but curious nonetheless where the law stands on such things.

It seems like you'd have a pretty good case for being able to keep them if the other party isn't going to legally be their parent (assuming they are born after divorce is final) and isn't genetically related to them. Anyone who tries to fight you on that would be a complete a-hole.

[Anonymous]

Come on. Just explain the situation.

Is it your eggs and donor sperm?

Or is it your sperm and donor eggs?

[Anonymous]

You go to the clinic today and get them implanted. He can't do boo if you're still married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You go to the clinic today and get them implanted. He can't do boo if you're still married.

But if you're married, your spouse is automatically presumed to be the legal parent of a child you give birth to, even if they are genetically unrelated. Not sure if OP wants that or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You go to the clinic today and get them implanted. He can't do boo if you're still married.

Our clinic requires consent forms be motorized and signed by both parties prior to any new cycles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on. Just explain the situation.

Is it your eggs and donor sperm?

Or is it your sperm and donor eggs?

My eggs, donor sperm.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the person who said, first check your clinic paperwork. Then depending on what it says, you may need to negotiate. It's a really tough situation. It's got to be horrible to lose embryos that you want. For me, on the other side, knowing that my ex could have the baby we had planned for together, who would be a full genetic sibling to my child, but I would have absolutely no connection to that new baby was a pretty devastating idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the person who said, first check your clinic paperwork. Then depending on what it says, you may need to negotiate. It's a really tough situation. It's got to be horrible to lose embryos that you want. For me, on the other side, knowing that my ex could have the baby we had planned for together, who would be a full genetic sibling to my child, but I would have absolutely no connection to that new baby was a pretty devastating idea.

Yes, this would be our issue too. We have children already who would be full siblings, so therein lies the complication.

[Anonymous]

If you are otherwise low-conflict, you might try getting a counselor recommendation from your former clinic. Someone who has expertise in assisted reproduction may be able to help you work through some of your issues. It you are in a high conflict situation, then lawyer is likely your best option.