Women late 30s ( 37-39) never married & without kids when dating which man would you prefer?
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Anonymous
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A. Same age man never married, no kids
B. Same age man divorced, no kids C. Same age man widowed, no kids D. Same age man never married, with kids under 5 E. Same age man divorced, with kids under 5 F. Same age man, widowed, with kids under 5 Do you consider any of the above to have red flags? |
Anonymous
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A, B, C
I don’t date men with kids under five. I would maybe date a widower with one young kid under five though |
Anonymous
| A, B, C. |
Anonymous
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I mean, I don't really think kids or being a widow are "red flags". No one can help if their spouse died, and having children is a pretty normal part of life.
The red flags are their behavior around them. A man who rarely sees his kids? Red flag. A man who introduces you to his kids early? Red flag. A man who expects you to take on a parenting role? Red flag. Divorce is hit-or-miss. Some people use divorce as an opportunity to grow. Some just play the victim. Red flags around divorce are blaming the ex-wife for everything, complaining about lack of sex, name-calling, etc. |
Anonymous
| Can the demographic you described really be all that picky? Seems to me you will be sitting home alone most of the time. |
Anonymous
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Do you like kids? Want to have kids of your own? Don’t mind being a step mom or girlfriend of someone w kids some day?
I always wanted kids so if I hadn’t had my own by late 30s, I may have been open to the idea of dating/getting serious w someone who had kids. However, I probably still would’ve preferred someone without kids just bc it seems like it’d be hard to be a step parent. |
Anonymous
Seriously. Isn’t this obvious? |
Anonymous
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My answer would be A, B, C. But a woman who was very eager/ desperate to have kids before her clock stopped might want one of the others, and a woman who couldn't have her own kids but wanted them might find D-F to be a bonus.
There's no universal answer. |
Anonymous
I’m confused why the answer wouldn’t just be A? |
Anonymous
He is at least 39 and he never got married? Red flag. |
Anonymous
Oh interesting. I read it as A would be first choice, B second choice and C third. Those are the acceptable choices with A the clear winner. |
Anonymous
Actually he is 37-39 and the woman in the scenario is also never married. Why the double standard? |
Anonymous
Same for her. Sorry. 9 out of 10 times something is off. |
Anonymous
| C might be best one. Followed by tie for A and B. |
Anonymous
| All besides D and E. |