AITA?

[Anonymous]

My 14 year old son is on a year round travel futstal team. Everyone has to take a turn playing goalie. However, last season, when he was taking his turn, he was injured fairly seriously, resulting in a lot of medical bills for us, even with insurance. He had to miss a big chunk of the season, as well as part of the season for another sport he plays, and I had to drive him to school and back each day because he couldn't walk that far (as a result of the injury). I really do not want him playing goalie again for this reason. He is 7th percentile in height and weight, does not like the position, is not any good at it, and I don't want him to go through this again. I'd like to talk to the coach about either: 1) the team finding a full time goalie that wants to play the position; or 2) not having him do it, no matter what the team does instead. Is this a total jerk move on my part? I am sure that my irritation is increased by the fact that his coach never followed up to ask how he was after he got hurt.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s time to pull him out of the sport if he was injured that badly. You can’t ask for special status but you can remove your son from the situation where he could easily get injured again. If he is that small, he can easily get pushed around by bigger teammates or opponents. Either he spends extra time on his own learning the position or you pull him. Your main complaint is that his injury was a hindrance to you, not really anything to do with him.

[Anonymous]

Your main complaint is that his injury was a hindrance to you, not really anything to do with him.

What do you mean? I mentioned having to drive him to school, which was an inconvenience, but the bigger issue, as I mentioned, was him missing out on sports. He also had to miss out on walking to school with a big group of boys from our neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Don’t listen to that last poster. You asked a reasonable question and you should tell the coach that your son can’t play goal in futsal. Totally reasonable

[Anonymous]

It’s fine to talk to coach about getting someone who wants to be goalie but if that’s not possible then you either need to let him play goalie or not play at all. It’s not even a close call.

[Anonymous]

It’s reasonable to not want him to play goalie (and/or for him to want it) but not reasonable to get out of it when everyone else has to. YTA (unless coach finds a kid who likes it.)

[Anonymous]

2 things

1. Why doesn't a u14 team have dedicated Goalkeeper? (goalie is such a novice term)

2. If you want to keep your son in the sport. You should have him do some strength training to make him stronger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2 things

1. Why doesn't a u14 team have dedicated Goalkeeper? (goalie is such a novice term)

2. If you want to keep your son in the sport. You should have him do some strength training to make him stronger.

I'll pass that on to my son who is a goalie for a D1 team. He'll be delighted to know he's a novice.

[Anonymous]

No, he can’t have special treatment. It wouldn’t even be good for him, as his teammates will look down on him or be resentful. You’ll have to find a team without the rotating requirement if it’s important to you that he not play that position. Sorry he got hurt. It could have happened while playing his favorite position too, though.

[Anonymous]

YTA, your kid is not special. If everyone has to play so does he.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 things

1. Why doesn't a u14 team have dedicated Goalkeeper? (goalie is such a novice term)

2. If you want to keep your son in the sport. You should have him do some strength training to make him stronger.

I'll pass that on to my son who is a goalie for a D1 team. He'll be delighted to know he's a novice.

It a Goalkeeper or Keeper not a goalie. Goalie is a casual term used by casual fans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 things

1. Why doesn't a u14 team have dedicated Goalkeeper? (goalie is such a novice term)

2. If you want to keep your son in the sport. You should have him do some strength training to make him stronger.

I'll pass that on to my son who is a goalie for a D1 team. He'll be delighted to know he's a novice.

It a Goalkeeper or Keeper not a goalie. Goalie is a casual term used by casual fans.

You can insist on that all you want, but that is not simply not the case. If it makes you feel more like a pro, go ahead. Nobody cares. You can use goaltender too. Although that's less common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 things

1. Why doesn't a u14 team have dedicated Goalkeeper? (goalie is such a novice term)

2. If you want to keep your son in the sport. You should have him do some strength training to make him stronger.

I'll pass that on to my son who is a goalie for a D1 team. He'll be delighted to know he's a novice.

It a Goalkeeper or Keeper not a goalie. Goalie is a casual term used by casual fans.

You can insist on that all you want, but that is not simply not the case. If it makes you feel more like a pro, go ahead. Nobody cares. You can use goaltender too. Although that's less common.

Goaltender and goalie are typically used in hockey. In North America, hockey is more known, or known first, so many continue using those terms for football (soccer is a novice term)

[Anonymous]

My rising DD is a pretty talented midfielder, but she does not want to play goalie (goalkeeper, keeper, etc.) at all.

Hence, the first thing I ask the coach before or during tryouts is if he requires field players to play goalkeeper because my DD does not want to play there.

You’re not being a jerk at all for asking the coach. I’m very surprised that a U15 team does not have a dedicated goalkeeper or two.

[Anonymous]

Move your kid to rec and outdoor soccer where even if he has to play GK it’s not as intense, the goals are bigger etc.