Texting without actually suggesting to meet

[Anonymous]

I met a guy about three weeks ago. He’s been flirting a lot and asking all the right things through text.

We Call/FaceTime one another throughout the week.

I had mentioned actually meeting and he’s respond was he doesn’t know when we could actually meet in person because of work.


Am I crazy to think he’s hiding something? Or is this normal to text without formally meeting in person?

[Anonymous]

No, you are not crazy. He needs to put up or shut up. My bet is he's likely in a relationship/married.

I'd make myself a bit less available to his calls and texts, respond to other guys and go out with men who want to take you on dates. Never go past a week of texting without a date unless there's a very good reason for ii.

[Anonymous]

Delta variant is going crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, you are not crazy. He needs to put up or shut up. My bet is he's likely in a relationship/married.

I'd make myself a bit less available to his calls and texts, respond to other guys and go out with men who want to take you on dates. Never go past a week of texting without a date unless there's a very good reason for ii.

Ok, this is reassuring.

I know the dating scene changed but I don’t know if this is the new thing to text for weeks before actually meeting. Lol


Yeah I asked if he was married , he said no (could be lying)

I asked if he was in a relationship, he said no (could be lying, lol)


Either way it’s odd to me that he’s never suggested going out, and I refuse to bring it up again.

I’m into him but not desperate.

[Anonymous]

I hate guys that do this. If they don’t ask to meet up in the first week move on.

[Anonymous]

Local news just did a report out of Bethesda that they are seeing an uptick in crime from dating apps. They suggested doing background checks. People were being stalked, assault, etc. Some dudes were married with kids. Apparently it’s really bad right now.

[Anonymous]

He’s married or cohabitating. A normal, available guy who is flirting with you would not turn down an invitation from a girl to go out. Signed - a man.

[Anonymous]

Cool thank you!

[Anonymous]

Yes, this is definitely not normal. He is likely hiding a relationship, or he just wants attention but not an actual date. If he really wants to see you, he would make the time. Major CEOs are really busy, but they make time to date when they are serious.

[Anonymous]

Sketchy

[Anonymous]

Even if it were due to work and time constraints, and not something sketchy, that’s not someone you can be in a relationship with.

I’d ask him why he’s dating if he doesn’t have time to meet people in person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, you are not crazy. He needs to put up or shut up. My bet is he's likely in a relationship/married.

I'd make myself a bit less available to his calls and texts, respond to other guys and go out with men who want to take you on dates. Never go past a week of texting without a date unless there's a very good reason for ii.

Ok, this is reassuring.

I know the dating scene changed but I don’t know if this is the new thing to text for weeks before actually meeting. Lol


Yeah I asked if he was married , he said no (could be lying)

I asked if he was in a relationship, he said no (could be lying, lol)


Either way it’s odd to me that he’s never suggested going out, and I refuse to bring it up again.

I’m into him but not desperate.

Why refuse? Bring it up again, and if he blows you off, it’s time to completely cut ties. I mean, I less you’re enjoying and have the time for whatever it is right now to never go anywhere. Why play games?

[Anonymous]

Op here. I’ve actually hinted it to it once, then the second time I came out and asked something along the lines of “hey let’s hang out”.

I’m not trying to be too hung up on traditional gender roles. However, I’d like to still believe if someone was interested and communicating daily throughout the day. They’d actually want to physically/formally meet instead of getting to know one another through text.

I think that by weeding out if this person is intentional on actually spending time together in person, is removing the texting “games”.

[Anonymous]

Desperado. How about you stop texting and see if he pursues abs while doing that continue your search. Don’t waste time in someone that’s not interested.

[Anonymous]

Trust your gut. It’s telling you something isn’t right.