Hours for a reasonably quiet house.

[Anonymous]

Between Covid and summer break my kids 14-15-17 have to boundaries with sleep patterns. They will be up at 2-3-4 am hanging out, cooking and such. My wife thinks this is all fine, I don't. Additionally they are waking us both up multiple times a night which is affecting my energy for work and just general life. When I talk to the kids they say all of our friends stay up the same times. This is turning into a real argument between my wife and myself. I feel that during week 12 is a reasonable time for house to start to be quiet and weekends 1 am or so. What am I missing?

[Anonymous]

I think its reasonable. Teens need to go to bed at 12 at the latest. And we adults grt up at 6 and im not keeping super quiet so they can sleep in either.

[Anonymous]

12? As in midnight????? Oh no. House is quiet at 9. Kitchen closed except for snacks.

[Anonymous]

In the summer, I don't care as long as my teen isn't being loud. He eats late at night and sometimes in the middle of the night. I actually told him to wash the dishes the next day because my room is over the kitchen. If he is difficult to get up for work, then we will have a problem.

[Anonymous]

I'd say 10 or 11pm during the week and 12 or 1am on the weekends. Same as the quiet hours in college dorms and municipal noise ordinances.

[Anonymous]

The staying up is not as much of a problem as the noise they're making. I'd set rules around the noisiness, not so much a bed time.

[Anonymous]

They are cooking for the middle of the night? Oh, hell no. Your wife is way off here. Y’all need to have a family meeting to set some ground rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:12? As in midnight????? Oh no. House is quiet at 9. Kitchen closed except for snacks.

You must not have teenagers or college students.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are cooking for the middle of the night? Oh, hell no. Your wife is way off here. Y’all need to have a family meeting to set some ground rules.

I have teenage boys. They are like babies. They eat every few hours. It isn't unusual for them to want to make a pizza late at night. I don't care as long as they aren't loud and clean up (usually the next day).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Between Covid and summer break my kids 14-15-17 have to boundaries with sleep patterns. They will be up at 2-3-4 am hanging out, cooking and such. My wife thinks this is all fine, I don't. Additionally they are waking us both up multiple times a night which is affecting my energy for work and just general life. When I talk to the kids they say all of our friends stay up the same times. This is turning into a real argument between my wife and myself. I feel that during week 12 is a reasonable time for house to start to be quiet and weekends 1 am or so. What am I missing?

I agree with you. Mom of two teens here.

Kitchen closes at 9pm. Quite time starts at 10pm. Everyone in their rooms by 11pm.

You are being too generous for finding 12am a "reasonable" time to start quiet time on weekdays.

Not a lot of kids are up until those hours during the week at least.

Kids need boundaries. Nothing good happens after 10pm!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:12? As in midnight????? Oh no. House is quiet at 9. Kitchen closed except for snacks.

You must not have teenagers or college students.

We are talking about 14 and 15 year old teens here. Not college age kids!

[Anonymous]

For mine, I want it reasonably quiet at 10 on work nights and 11 or so on the weekends. I don’t care if they are awake or make something to eat, but they need to do so somewhat quietly. We have had discussions over loud banging of pans at all hours of the night. So basically, keep the noise level to a point where I don’t wake up and be considerate of others. I promise to do the same when I am up earlier than them in the mornings. The light sleepers (one kid and me) put noise machines next to us while we sleep. That helped significantly for the nights and mornings.

[Anonymous]

House is quiet by 11pm and the kitchen is closed then too. I'd also stay quiet for the kids until about 9am before I empty the dishwasher or mow the lawn or something. You all should work together to problem solve this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:12? As in midnight????? Oh no. House is quiet at 9. Kitchen closed except for snacks.

You must not have teenagers or college students.

I was a teen who loved to stay up late. We respected similar rules. Just stuck to the game room/bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The staying up is not as much of a problem as the noise they're making. I'd set rules around the noisiness, not so much a bed time.

+1

The first time they woke me up when I had to work the next day, I would have gone out and read them the riot act, and immediately unplugged the WiFi. That is just rude. If they want to stay up late, fine, but it’s common courtesy to be quiet when others are sleeping!