My sisters fake persona on social media driving me crazy

[Anonymous]

My sister has had a rocky marriage with lots of infidelity and alcohol issues for years. I’ve tried to listen and be supportive when she talks to me about it. As her personal life had become more chaotic, she’s ramped up her social media posts about how her kids are her life, her love for her husband, healthy lifestyle all while her husband is cheating and she’s drinking and injuring herself. She puts these fake posts about how she got the gash on her forehead etc or post pictures of her kids like they’re together when she’s actually out in a bar. My family all knows what is really happening and they play along with her and her husbands fake online life. I think this is enabling and doesn’t help lie along with them. Our other siblings think we should pretend along with our sister to support her because she feels her posts are more about self preservation. They goes as far as elaborating on our sisters stories about how she was injured or other sort of self sabotaging behavior.. I’m totally against indulging this and won’t acknowledge any of it. Am I wrong?

[Anonymous]

Don't interact with it. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

The majority of social media posts are fake to some degree.

[Anonymous]

OP, everybody knows.

We all know the ones who feel the need to publicly post about how amazing their hubby/life are... are the ones with the most problems.

Trust me, your sister isn't fooling anyone. Go forth and live your life (off social media). It's what most normal, healthy, happy people do.

[Anonymous]

MYOB. Don’t like her social posts? Don’t read them. Move on with your day.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I’m not a big social media user but have had my sister ask-how come I don’t like her posts. I guess I could just deactivate and leave it at that.

[Anonymous]

My sister is living a similar 2 face life. Her real life is falling apart. On social media she is "such a wonderful mom". It annoys me to no end because she will get 200+ likes when she posts a picture of the birthday cake be baked her teenager. Sure she baked the cake but she didn't make her kid do any school work for the last 3 years and instead has decided they will just take the GED when they turn 18. My DH has to continually remind me that she posts on social media because it is like an drug. Every "like" is a little shot of happiness in her sad life.

[Anonymous]

Be supportive. Click like and move on.

[Anonymous]

That’s her fantasy world of what she wishes her life was like. It sounds really sad to me. If you don’t want to give her the insincere affirmation she’s craving, just ignore. And when she asks why you don’t respond to her posts, just be vague.

[Anonymous]

I stopped going on social media as often because of this. My sister and a couple friends all have elaborate social media “brands” that involves posting a lot. I know it’s a put on with a small bit of truth baked in. I disliked the pressure from them to like and interact with these posts. They also started referencing their SM when I saw them, with the assumption I was following them closely and reading all their captions and posts. I d in my really care if this is something they choose to do. I think it’s an ego boost for them and helps them tell a story about their lives that is appealing. But I didn’t like the expectations on me. So I quit Facebook and removed Ibstagrsm from my phone (I almost never posted either place anyway, and mostly use it as a way to get home design or cooking ideas). Now when they ask I just say, oh I’m not really on social media anymore. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

The overposter in my life is slightly annoyed when she asks and I answer that I am not on FB so I didn't see her anniversary pics with her DH on vacation or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be supportive. Click like and move on.

Supportive of lying?

[Anonymous]

Do you think it's impossible to have bad things going on in your life and be happy?

[Anonymous]

pretend along with your sister? - no. that's just ridiculous. but let her do it, it's not healthy but who knows what would happen if she didn't have that kind of outlet for her problems. just don't engage.

also, as others have said, most people are suspicious of others with seemingly perfect social media lives. happy people don't have that much need to manage their public persona. don't be angry that she is fooling others because she is not.

[Anonymous]

“I’m not on social much these days. If you have something to share with me, please text or call.”

Done.