Rescinding nanny job offer

[Anonymous]

We recently moved to a new house and when we told our nanny about it a couple months ago (before we moved) she said she wasn’t going to be able to stay with us because the commute would be too long for her. After a long search we hired a new nanny about a week ago and she is supposed to start in 3 weeks. Our nanny agreed to stay with us in the interim to help the kids transition.

Today, our current nanny came to me and said she has reconsidered and would like to stay with us if we will keep her since the commute isn’t as bad as she thought and she loves the kids and doesn’t want to leave. We love our nanny and absolutely wanted to keep her since my kids adore her, but of course it’s frustrating she changed her mind after we hired someone else.

So, I am wondering how bad it is to rescind the job offer from the nanny we just hired. I feel really horrible but we would rather keep our current nanny. The new nanny was working at a temporary part time job that she was planning to leave regardless since she needs a full time job, but could have stayed on for longer (maybe she still can but not sure).

Has anyone had to do this before? A friend suggested offering her a week or two of pay but is that crazy for someone who hasn’t started yet?

[Anonymous]

Whatever you decide, you need to tell her ASAP!

[Anonymous]

Just do it - the sooner the better. Apologize to the new nanny, and ask if you can still call on her for babysitting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just do it - the sooner the better. Apologize to the new nanny, and ask if you can still call on her for babysitting.

This. If you have caused any other disruption to her employment situation (i.e. she quit a job for you), then you should pay out whatever you agreed to with respect to notice. If it's early enough that she hasn't made any changes, I think you're not obligated but a small bonus might still be a nice gesture.

[Anonymous]

Are you 100% positive that the old nanny will want to really do this? How long is the daily commute, realistically in traffic? I want your old nanny to stay with you, but is this just separation anxiety or will i find another job anxiety?

[Anonymous]

You’re definitely making the right decision in keeping your nanny. Just tell the hired nanny NOW. This is a great time for her to find another job.

Stuff like this happens in every field, OP. Needs change.

[Anonymous]

It’s so much better for your kids to keep their nanny. Just tell the new nanny yesterday with a sincere apology. She won’t be happy but will have no trouble finding another job.

[Anonymous]

I’d give the new nanny two weeks pay for compensation, but that’s me. And I would definitely keep my first nanny, too! GL, OP.

[Anonymous]

Would definitely suggest you pay the no longer needed nanny for her troubles. Esp if she quit her other job, but even if she didn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d give the new nanny two weeks pay for compensation, but that’s me. And I would definitely keep my first nanny, too! GL, OP.

We had hired a nanny and decided after we made her an offer that she wasn't a good fit and paid her a month's salary for her inconvenience (we had hired her a month or two in advance, so we weren't sure if she had turned down other offers). It was painful to pay money to someone whose services we weren't using, but if you rescind the new nanny's offer, you need to pay her something because she made plans based on your offer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you 100% positive that the old nanny will want to really do this? How long is the daily commute, realistically in traffic? I want your old nanny to stay with you, but is this just separation anxiety or will i find another job anxiety?

This was my thought as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d give the new nanny two weeks pay for compensation, but that’s me. And I would definitely keep my first nanny, too! GL, OP.

We had hired a nanny and decided after we made her an offer that she wasn't a good fit and paid her a month's salary for her inconvenience (we had hired her a month or two in advance, so we weren't sure if she had turned down other offers). It was painful to pay money to someone whose services we weren't using, but if you rescind the new nanny's offer, you need to pay her something because she made plans based on your offer.

Lol no, you don't give anything unless she worked, have any of you run a business? You also have all types of legal obligation that actually hire by paying the new nanny

[Anonymous]

In your position I would do the same thing and go with the old nanny. But I would be wary that old nanny simply hasn’t found a new family yet closer to home, and just doesn’t want to lose the income. If she finds a new job she may still leave you later on. Then you’ve lost out on both nannies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s so much better for your kids to keep their nanny. Just tell the new nanny yesterday with a sincere apology. She won’t be happy but will have no trouble finding another job.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s so much better for your kids to keep their nanny. Just tell the new nanny yesterday with a sincere apology. She won’t be happy but will have no trouble finding another job.

Nannies are not in demand like they were a year ago.