Sex during IVF
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Anonymous
| My DH and I haven't had sex since December. We got pregnant, and I had a bad miscarriage resulting in a terrible D and C. We are starting the IVF process now, and still haven't had sex. Life happened and things got busy. I am worried this will impact our embryo outcome. We are going to have sex a couple times this week up until our retrieval. Do you think we screwed ourselves over and should push our retrieval? I would appreciate honest and kind comments. Thanks. |
Anonymous
| Also, DH masturbates a couple times a week. |
Anonymous
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I don't see how this could affect anything re IVF.
I say this kindly because I have been there, including both IVF and a D&C following a miscarriage. You are understandably very anxious. Try to make se time for self care and for quality time with your spouse. It's a hard road. Wish you luck, OP. |
Anonymous
| OP here. Thanks so much. I was just worried not having sex will impact sperm count, etc. Though we have had all of that tested already. |
Anonymous
| I'm the same PP. One tip -- you can freeze a round of sperm as a backup, just in case there are any issues day-of. Helps with peace of mind as well. |
Anonymous
He should ejaculate that week but not too close to retrieval day. Our doctor told us 3 days before should be the last ejaculation. |
Anonymous
| Your doctor should give you instructions. My retrieval instructions specified a window of time during which DH should take care of himself to optimize sperm count. Having sex while on stims may be risky (tender ovaries, risk of oregnancy, etc). |
Anonymous
Are you not doing ICSI? Because if you are, the lab will pick the most vigorous swimmer 
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Anonymous
PS Your dentist says you're good to go. |
Anonymous
| Should you avoid sex after retrieval? |
Anonymous
We did the deed the day before the transfer and got a bfp |