Former lover has cancer

[Anonymous]

He is married I am not. Best way to be supportive without being intrusive or self serving? Still have strong feelings for him, sadly.

[Anonymous]

Are you the poster whose former AP is now sick? If so you need to stay the hell away. Losing her spouse is bad enough, his wife does need his AP sniffing around on top of that.


If this is someone else, I say it depends on how close you are to him and the family.

[Anonymous]

Unless you are friendly with his wife stay away.

[Anonymous]

Echo the stay away

[Anonymous]

I will add to my previous post you can do something "for him" by perhaps making a dotation towards the research and treatment of the type of cancer he has.

[Anonymous]

How do know about the diagnosis? Are you “friends” on Facebook? Steer clear of this entire situation.

[Anonymous]

Be kind PLEASE. Stay away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you the poster whose former AP is now sick? If so you need to stay the hell away. Losing her spouse is bad enough, his wife does need his AP sniffing around on top of that.


If this is someone else, I say it depends on how close you are to him and the family.

+1,000

Back the f—ck off.

[Anonymous]

Karma got him. You are next.

[Anonymous]

Wait, so he was your lover while he was married to someone else?? Geesh, you have a mighty big sense of entitlement thinking there could be any Florence Nightingale opportunity while his spouse and presumably kids too are reeling from his cancer diagnosis. It’s not enough to sleep with this woman’s husband, but you want to insert yourself during their time of grief as well. That’s lower than low.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so he was your lover while he was married to someone else?? Geesh, you have a mighty big sense of entitlement thinking there could be any Florence Nightingale opportunity while his spouse and presumably kids too are reeling from his cancer diagnosis. It’s not enough to sleep with this woman’s husband, but you want to insert yourself during their time of grief as well. That’s lower than low.

The kind of people that have affairs. Entitled and self-centered, only thinking about themselves—not for a moment about the people they helped harm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Karma got him. You are next.

+1

[Anonymous]

Inappropriate. He regrets you. Let that family be. This isn't about you!

[Anonymous]

You have some nerve, OP. Best way to be supportive is to lose his phone number. 🙄

[Anonymous]

Cancer is hard on one who has it and those who have to support them. He needs his wife to get through this. Contact from you if you are not friendly with her will only cause harm (jealousy, resentment, regret, animosity, sadness). Don’t think any good can come of this.